I’m feeling extremely depressed lately, and was wondering what are some things I can do to get me motivated ??
Sometimes I get really anxious to do something, but I don't know what I want to do. I'm kind of just bored with my life. No, I don't feel suicidal at all. I just feel like I don't want to do anything...I just feel...tired
I'm very fit I box 3 times a week
This has nothing to do with my weight or diet I'm just feeling very down
*by anything i mean hang out with friends (I just wanna be alone) dk why. I'm pretty social and extroverted and it's not hard for me to make new friends but lately I've been feeling very down and sad.Oh and there’s a lot of confusion in the comments, I’m a girl and I’m 18 years old.
Feel free to reach out pls
Wake up early on the weekend. Go to the gym and start lifting, and start building muscles so can you can be more attractive to the opposite sex
do u have a girl if I may ask?
Wow....you specifically state in a very short post that you work out.....first suggestion is the typical go work out advice....
Feeling the exact same right here. Think that spending more time with animals/in the great outdoors would help, but am an analyst so that option’s not really available.
Hope things get better for you - try not to be hard on yourself (know that it’s easier said than done) ❤️
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start with sleep, diet, excercise. Chances are you are lacking atleast 1 of the 3.
are you fit af?
Do you have close friends to talk to about this?
Good that you are fit. Boxing is fun and a good workout!
Where do you go for boxing? I've been interested in getting into self-defense/boxing myself (as crime continues to spike in large cities).
maybe you are depressed and need some help from antidepressants
just a suggestion. been watching a lot of the sopranos lately where the main character is on prozac so was thinking about that
Isn't a side effect of antidepressants more depression...
Yea load her up on pills, good fucking advice bozo
Maybe you need some pipe in ur life?
Of course Pizz is the one to say this
Life is not a lot about how you feel, but largely centered around what you do. Don't worry about feeling down, maybe you should box more. Try out boxing 5x per week and see how that works.
I've done boxing/MMA workouts up to 20hrs per week and it is a lot different than 3hrs per week. Maybe do 3 days of 1hr boxing MWF and 2 days of 2hrs boxing class Tue/Th if you can pull it. Build up to even more if you can. 6x per week or more if possible. Get those endorphins flowing and get in a routine of washing your wraps every night and prepping for the next day.
Also, you want lots of phytochemicals in your body. Eat as many green leafy vegetables as possible.
Also, I have to add that especially with boxing / MMA gyms, it is a very tight knit group. Hanging out with people who have your back generally builds solid relationships and trust. Generally this is viewed as a support system. If you're changing parts of your life and not seeing the same family/friends you usually do, you could be decreasing the amount of oxytocin in your brain. Going 5x/week will increase your daily endorphins and also the amount of oxytocin your brain receives. Your boxing crew should basically become similar to family.
Additionally, you'll begin to hang out with people that are competing in fights and you will have the opportunity to train with them. Even if you're not going full power and just light sparring, you will be helping this person with their fight and their victory, which will be a team victory. It will be sweet to see teammates take a win as you were there suffering with them everyday and through every step.
Good luck. Have fun!
go to the beach. and chill in the sand.
Why do u hate the beach?
Do you volunteer at all? Mentor anyone?
My friend. Us old geezers call this a "stuck in a rut" or the "blahs" (try marriage...it is a permanent rut!)
Back in my day there were a few things to try and break out of it (and this is not sarcastic at all). Your preferences may vary.
The point? Break your pattern. Change you viewpoint. Feel your heart beat again.
been there my guy, it happens to everyone. if you're already in good shape, what worked for me when I went through these things is distracting myself with positive behaviors. sure I wasn't motivated to fire up a group chat with the boys or go to parties, but you can do things that are positive behaviors which inevitably will either take enough time so that the negative mood wears off, or it actually sparks something. for me, this was always reading, meditation, and more exercise. it's also important to realize that his too shall pass, and remembering the impermanence of everything helps me remain detached from both good feelings (keeping the ego at bay) and bad feelings (not letting the raincloud overwhelm you).
finally, write down your thoughts in a place that's just for you. don't worry about making it sound good just write it down. I find that the act of writing helps me really get to the core of what I'm thinking and why I'm thinking it, so try this out. sometimes it doesn't change the fact I'm upset, sometimes I have an epiphany, but every single time I feel that because I'm not carrying that inside me 100%, it's partially outside of me now, I feel a teeny tiny bit better.
my advice still stands, just replace "my guy" with "miss" and "the boys" with "the girls"
:)
Any good recs for meditations (preferably on Spotify or Youtube). Looking for good early morning motivation ones
I don't use technology for meditation other than a timer if I have a time goal. I sit up straight in a position where you're comfortable but won't go back to sleep, close my eyes, and either just focus on my breath or allow my mind to wander and just stare at the insides of my eyelids. the benefits of breathwork have been documented, but the 2nd method for me is much more difficult but much more rewarding in terms of decluttering my mind. if I allow my mind to wander and I come upon a problem, I may meditate on it and realize either it's not a big deal or I have no control over it in which case it's nothing to concern myself with (this is the case for 99.99999999% of the things that come into my mind), and once my mind stops randomly inserting things into my focus, I just sit there in silence and breathe normal-ish (sometimes I do box breathing, other times just slightly deeper than normal but through the nostrils only).
also, lower your expectations for your first couple sessions. I thought I'd sit down and do a coupla OHMMMMMS and I'd be Naval Ravikant but the first few sessions were basically like me opening up my spam folder in gmail (JESUS FUCK I GOTTA DEAL WITH THIS NOW?!?!?!). after a few sessions the spam was cleared out and I was able to quiet my mind.
I wish I could tell you meditation is motivating for me, but it's not. meditation for me is necessary because I'm hyperactive and get pulled in all sorts of directions so while I do go through ruts where I'm feeling lazy, it's sitting down and quieting my mind that's more difficult than finding motivation. what motivates me is different than what might motivate you, but regardless of that, I'd still meditate, you may get nothing from it other than a break (which is something) or it may be everything for you
godspeed
Try to learn something or start a project. You'll feel like you have a purpose.
Cook something that's difficult to make!
Cheesecake, croissants, or a good chicken cordon bleu are quite annoying to make well!
risotto
homemade egg pasta with homemade sauce (google pasquale sciarappa)
pho
legit ramen
may think of more, but all of these dishes take time and either have a wide variety of ingredients or end up taking some handiwork to make happen
there are few things more satisfying in life than eating a bowl of pasta that you made fresh with sauce you made fresh
Beef Wellington
My dad made that one time at a Christmas dinner, one of the best meals I've ever eaten
This is a lot easier said than done, but try to find the root of your feelings. What specifically do you think is making you feel this way, when did it begin, and is this a new or recurring problem? If you can find those answers, perhaps voice your feelings to a close friend or relative. Sometimes having to think about your feelings enough to verbalize them and then hearing them out load can make you feel better. And once you find the root of feelings, it makes taking active measures to improve them a lot easier. If you feel the need, you could also schedule a session with a therapist assuming you have that ability and it's covered under your healthcare plan.
For the time being, the exercise is very important. You don't need to add anything to your routine, but do not stop what you are doing. Speaking from experience, stopping exercise and having to get back into it is a horrible feeling.
Limit your time on social media to under 30 minutes a day, make sure you are up to speed on diet/nutrition/sleep/hydration, maybe mix up your boxing routine with some cardio like running or cycling - that’s pretty good for endorphins, “runners high” is a thing. Try to reach out to friends and family and spend some quality irl time with family and friends, and not over the internet. Definitely reach out and find a therapist, you can often find low cost therapy through school or college, even if you don’t find to be very helpful, it could change your life and it’s awesome to have someone who’s job is to just listen to you. Best of luck to you, we all go through seasons where we feel less motivated and get stuck in ruts, routine and things you do consistently help with that.
Thanks Lloyd Blankfein
Go to a forest and take acid
not a good idea for an 18 year old girl who is feeling depressed - they would probably get super freaked out and have a disassociatative experience which could fuck them up. Going into the forest and smoking some weed or drinking some white claws might be nice though.
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Sounds like you might be feeling unfulfilled. Apart from work/school you may need something to spend time on and 'progress' like a new hobby, if you're at all like me.
Different strokes for different folks of course but whenever I'm feeling down any one or more of the following helps:
- Getting out into nature always helps me in a big way. Hiking, camping, fishing, skiing.. whatever, as long as it's out of the city and in the trees or on the water.
- Spending time on hobbies whether that be video gaming, playing guitar, painting, whatever, as long as its not work or socializing.
- Socializing usually helps too, whether that be with your significant other, family, or friends. With my friend crew it often involves going outdoors. My girlfriend and I are long distance so its tough but if I'm ever low, her company usually gets me out of it.
- Everybody else has said it but the holy trinity of sleep, diet, and exercise all contribute massively to overall mental health.
- Steer clear of your vices when you're in a bad place. For me that's cannabis, tobacco, and alcohol, in that order. You'll only dig yourself deeper if you keep turning to vices when you're in a hole.
Finally, a bit more light hearted but still valid contributing factor to unhappiness.. are you getting laid? Don't need to answer me, but if you're in the midst of a giant dry-spell consider that this might be a bigger driver of that down feeling than you might otherwise think. Don't go chasing casual sex to cure this though 'cause that can work the same way as turning to vices.
Good luck, hope the feeling passes and you're doing better soon.
you may try a new hobby besides boxing, maybe reading, walking, painting, anything that you are interested but never got the time to do it, and try to learn that new skill to a high level, maybe you are good at something you dont know yet
This might not work for you, but a couple of things that work for me:
- Practicing gratitude: for example, I might just spend 10 minutes thinking about things & people I am grateful for.
- Helping someone or just being very nice to people. Sounds cliché, but if you start complementing frined / strangers, or buying a meal for and chatting with someone homeless, or spending time teaching someone something. It can really give you a dopamine boost and help you feel more fulfilled.
learn an instrument maybe?
Podcasts are awesome. Maybe trying listening to them? Also read a new book. Or travel solo. I assume ur in college so this is much easier to do
Sorry if this seems super basic, but do you take a ton of Vitamin D pills? This helps a ton since most of us just don't get enough sun. It's great that you're already in healthy habits with boxing.
Lowkey this is major facts. I started doing this halfway thru COVID once I realized I was spending max ~15 mins outside every day.
Good point. I would recommend at least 5000 IU per day of Vitamin D.
Literally just popped a 5000 IU pill based on your note. Thanks for the reminder.
Does hanging out with your friends usually entail drinking in a group of 3 or more? Maybe picking one or two of your friends to do something different with could be fun. Like a hike, museum, movie, casual sport (golf, tennis, etc if you play), mini golf, ice cream, aquarium, idk. I do random shit with my friends a lot that doesn't require us getting fucked up like partying/beach/golf/watching sports normally does and it's always a nice change of pace, and kind of lets you talk to them outside of a super social setting, which can be refreshing. Especially nice when it's just one friend, maybe two max. I feel like so many friendships are so centered around going out or boozing, which is obviously lots of fun and doesn't make those friendships worse by any means, but trying new stuff together can wind up being a blast.
One of my last memories with my best friend who passed in early 2019 was us playing mini golf one day when we were just bored and nobody else had anything going on. I remember I let him win but tried so hard to make it look like I whiffed the last shot. Idk why lol but I'm glad I did, guess I thought he deserved the W on that one. Idk where I'm going with this but not everything has to be A) an event or B) just sitting doing nothing. Lots of cool shit to do in the world. A lot of these things can also be done alone.
Another example: me and two of my closest friends from college went to Spain for a week a while back with the intent of it being a pretty getting-fucked-up heavy trip. These were the two homies I knew wouldn't flake from the start when we had a bunch of ppl all saying how pumped they were for the trip just to back out--the real OGs. We had one day that my buddy stressed doing that was our nature adventure day, where we did this literally stunning, beautiful hike but got completely lost on the way back with no cell reception or map. Got super freaked out to the point where we were thinking about how to find water, finally got out and found the car. Wild and scary, but after all the partying and shit on that trip, that disasterous hike is what we all remember the most.
HUGE edit because I just realized that you said you're 18: Not sure how much this stuff applies to you but my life revolved around boozing and partying in high school and early college, so I'll leave my comment. There may still be some decent input in there.
Hope it helps! I remembered the hype of late high school/early college and while that stuff is super fun and all, it is always nice to sometimes take a step back and do something "smaller" with a friend you really love. Its just so worth it to me. Not for the philosophical "you never know when its gonna end" reason, rather just because its so nice to really spend time with the person. Even with shitty banking hours, making time and doing stuff like that with my friends and family is still my favorite part of my life.
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