Need your opinions.. Super regret and worry

I made a huge mistake today.When I went to sign the offer letter with one of the BB, I was LATE! It took me about 1.5 hours to get there because of peak hour jam while usually it only took 40 minutes.. I was so stupid that I did not call the HR and tell her I would be late because I was just rushing. I myself was shocked about what I did..

The HR was very angry and will report my behavior to my boss. And after I signed the offer letter, she told me it depends on the managers whether it will go through.

I am very worried now. Will this fault cost me this offer? The offer is actually very very important for me..

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You fucked up, sure. But you can't change that. Reach out to your boss, reiterate your commitment.. that's all you can really do.

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What was going through your head when you were running over an hour late and decided not to call ahead?

That said, I do I think HR is overreacting here. That is a little too extreme and confrontational. I doubt your MD or whoever will give a shit what someone in HR thinks.

Don't you mail in your signed offer anyway?

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FlakeWhat was going through your head when you were running over an hour late and decided not to call ahead?

That said, I do I think HR is overreacting here. That is a little too extreme and confrontational. I doubt your MD or whoever will give a shit what someone in HR thinks.

Don't you mail in your signed offer anyway?

Thanks. I signed the offer letter in their office.
 
ilfillThank you all. Yes I have apologized again to the hr and also my boss. It's my fault and I do learn a lesson. Do anyone know similar incidents happened? What's the consequence?

While you're busy learning that lesson can you learn another? Grammar!

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ilfillThank you all. Yes I have apologized again to the hr and also my boss. It's my fault and I do learn a lesson. Do anyone know similar incidents happened? What's the consequence?

While you're busy learning that lesson can you learn another? Grammar!

Ok..have learned a lesson.. Other than this any input?
 
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ilfillThank you all. Yes I have apologized again to the hr and also my boss. It's my fault and I do learn a lesson. Do anyone know similar incidents happened? What's the consequence?

While you're busy learning that lesson can you learn another? Grammar!

LOL. Yea OP, learn grammar because clearly there is no chance in hell that English isn't your first language. NOT!

 

FUCK HR, how many times do I have to say this? If they're helpful: great. If not, go over their stupid heads.

Your MD can overrule all of them with a two word text saying "he's hired". Kiss their asses just enough to keep them off your back. Try to make a friend or two, all that good stuff, but keep in mind that the admins in your group often have more say over your group's hiring than an HR MD (or whatever the hell their titles are).

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UFOinsiderFUCK HR, how many times do I have to say this?
you can say it a few more times if you ask me

Some HR should be literally fucked.

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HR is retarded... it's not like their time is valuable, email the MD who made you an offer and just apologize for the delay, you were stuck in traffic with no service on your bb so you couldn't email beforehand.

People in finance are late all the time, whole meetings get moved, and HR is always furthest down the totem pole when it comes to importance of their meetings. She was probably just power tripping as it is the only time where she can shit on someone else for anything. Virtually all emails from HR are ignored several times before action is taken on any requests. They routinely ask for completion of training, filling out of forms, and attendance to bullshit workshops and are always ignored until they grovel to a business manager and the manager says "please do play nice and attend even though it's stupid."

With all the above being said, it is perfectly fine to know that this is a reality in practice, but don't treat them poorly. It's good to have friends in HR / Admin because they can push things thru. You probably aren't very adept at smoothing things over. I guarantee if I was late in that situation I would have had that HR contact loving me and laughing with me, and wanting me to babysit her kids before I signed the letter and left to go get drunk at the bar. Get your people skills up to par...

 

HR getting angry at you is a lot like your girlfriend getting angry at you:

You just let them rant, don't say anything particularly mean (although God knows that you can), apologize and say you'll change, and continue to do things the way you've been doing them.

In this case, though, you should probably change just a tad -- a call before would've been helpful.

 
seamlessftwYou will probably be fine unless HR gave your offer away to someone on the waitlist. At that point it becomes a headcount issue, and even the MD may not have very much flexibility.
So even I have signed the offer letter, the HR has the power to give it to another person?
 
socola2003HR has no power to do that, unless the MD approved it beforehand. HR is not a brain organization, what they do involves no thought. They are purely there to execute on hirings/leavings, and the delivery of benefits to employees internally. If you had a brain why would you work in HR, you get shat on by everyone in the firm.

lol, this is sad. One of my friends from college just accepted offer from a BB in their HR department. I guess he's about to go through a lot of shit as a HR professional.

 
LBTDid you completely gloss over what you said to HR to report your behavior or they merely reporting that you were 1 hour late?
I am not sure what she's going to do.. Anyway I respected her and apologized twice to her. and I was 20mins late..
 
socola2003yeah i hope he has a lot of self confidence because they don't get treated well. He should've done HR for MBB at least there you have to be a bit more PC and you get some more glimmer of respect, not in finance.

wow... too bad for my bud. this thread exposed a lot of what is about to happen to my friend.

when my friend told me he got the job offer from Goldman Sachs, I was really stunned and initially jealous as fuck. then, he said, 'in their HR department'.

 

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