The lonely life of a young FLDP

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Hi everyone,

I am currently in a three year FLDP rotational program with a FT500 company. I will not mention the name of the company for obvious reasons. I am in my first year rotation right now. So far, it is just like what everyone said. The benefits of this program are great, and you're constantly under the radar of senior executives.

HOWEVER-------

You literary have "NO" social life at all. You will most likely be placed in the middle nowhere - most likely midwest due to cheap cost. You will not know anyone, and most likely will not be able to meet people outside of work. Your accounting & Finance team will be a small group, and most likely your team members are all old.

For those currently in the program right now & graduated from the program, were your experiences similar to mine? If so, how did you survive those few years? And what advices would you give to the current fldps that are living in the middle of nowhere.

Thank you

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  • Financial Rep in Consulting
Mar 30, 2014

Tinder?

How far are you from a major city area? I am an hour away from a couple big cities in the midwest so its not that bad for me, esp. if I decide to move in to a place in between my workplace (in a town of 5,000) and the city.

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Mar 30, 2014

In my FLDP the participants all became very close. We all wet very social outside of work. Are you alone at your rotation? And how far are you from a city?

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Mar 31, 2014

Interested in this. I'm in a similar spot in corporate banking. I'm in a regional office with 3 other coworkers. 2 of those coworkers are middle aged women, so I don't have much in common with them. The days seem to be extremely long due to limited social contact in the office.

Mar 31, 2014

This is highly dependent on the company, the most companies will likely have you in the middle of nowhere (or a small city) at some point in your career.

Mar 31, 2014

Sounds like you work for a John Deere/Cat type company.

Honestly, its all what you make of it. Consider relocating to a larger city near your job and commute. This way you would have an opportunity at a bit more of a social life. Befriend any incoming analysts/some of the older ones as well. If this doesn't work maybe look into moving over horizontally with a company with better locations?

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Mar 31, 2014

Most of your post applied to me, except the middle of nowhere. I told my rotation manager that I wouldn't do well in the middle of nowhere, and it actually ended up working out. I've heard horror stories of other FLDP's doing the same thing and they got sent to the middle of nowhere on purpose.

Its such a dramatic transition going from on top of the world in college to moving 2,500 miles from your friends and family while knowing no one. Something I wish I would've done during my first rotation was network within the community better and actually create long-lasting friendships. You don't want to get done with your first rotation, look back, and realize that you wasted a year of networking. Join the young professionals club in your area, use Tinder like a fiend, and go to happy hours to make friends.

One thing these FLDP's teach you is to reflect internally with all of the time spent by yourself. My priorities today are a lot different than they were two years ago - it definitely makes you realize how important friends and family are.

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Mar 31, 2014

Went through this as well (middle of nowhere, no friends, isolated mfg. site). It sucked for sure, but I managed through by joining a gym, working out, and buying an xbox (this helps!). Trust me though, the rotation goes by quickly; perform really well and you will get first choice on your next rotation.

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Mar 31, 2014

To be fair, a 1-year rotation seems a lot longer than a 6 month rotations.

Mar 31, 2014

My comment was referring to a year rotation - but yea you're right, anyone can hammer through six months.

Mar 31, 2014

Good point, a year long rotation is much longer whereas 6 months flies. I still standby my xbox comment if there is nothing around :).

Mar 31, 2014

I did a rotation in the middle of nowhere more than an hour from any major city so I can relate. It really is what you make of it. My advice would be to push yourself out of your comfort zone and get involved in things outside of the office. It can get depressing fast if you just work 8 to 5 then go home and watch tv.

I started taking martial arts/MMA classes and met a bunch of people through that, and also linked up with other FLDP's who lived within a few hours of me. There are tons of options for things to get involved in to keep you busy and meet people. It would also be an ideal time to take the GMAT or work towards some certifications.

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Mar 31, 2014

Request to live in a big city and take the 1 hr commute.

Mar 31, 2014

Seriously, just frequenting a bar and making friends with bartenders can work. I do this in NYC all the time and have made friends and gotten dates through it.

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Apr 1, 2014
AllDay_028:

Seriously, just frequenting a bar and making friends with bartenders can work. I do this in NYC all the time and have made friends and gotten dates through it.

Wait, did you just compare NYC to some middle of nowhere town? Give me a break man. You clearly haven't been in the OPs situation.

OP, it's tough, I know how you feel. I was in a very similar situation. Work hard, explore hobbies, workout a ton, further yourself education wise, etc. If there are any types of clubs, teams, etc. in the area that you can join (summer leagues?) That's be the way to go in my opinion.

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Apr 1, 2014
GoIllini:
AllDay_028:

Seriously, just frequenting a bar and making friends with bartenders can work. I do this in NYC all the time and have made friends and gotten dates through it.

Wait, did you just compare NYC to some middle of nowhere town? Give me a break man. You clearly haven't been in the OPs situation.

OP, it's tough, I know how you feel. I was in a very similar situation. Work hard, explore hobbies, workout a ton, further yourself education wise, etc. If there are any types of clubs, teams, etc. in the area that you can join (summer leagues?) That's be the way to go in my opinion.

No, the comparison isn't NYC to his situation. And I spent most of my life in the Midwest. But becoming a regular at a bar in any area of the country will make you friends. The demographics will be different of the other people who attend, but it'll be some semblance of a social life.

Apr 2, 2014

Try something to break up the monotony. My whole life I have been involved in athletics and thus I work out a lot. One Year I decided to give a body building competition a try. This doesn't help your case for a social life. You spend 16 weeks cooking, eating, and working out but it does give you something else to work for and commit your time to if you're not looking to study for a certification. It's also a great test of your mind. Good luck

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Apr 5, 2014

Why won't you mention the name of it? Will somebody figure you out with your username?

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Apr 5, 2014

Do you see yourself doing this the long run?

Apr 5, 2014

Job is setting in.

Apr 6, 2014

Sounds like an adventure, just remember lots of people would love to be in your position right now.
never mind social life and living in the desert, and i agree with most people is what you make of it.

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Apr 6, 2014

Make friends with new college grads in other functions at the company - engineering, marketing, IT and etc.

Apr 6, 2014

Join a rugby team. Great way to make a lot of friends extremely quickly.

Apr 12, 2014
grinch14:

Join a rugby team. Great way to make a lot of friends extremely quickly.

lol if you can survive getting squashed

Apr 12, 2014

Yea, definitely wouldn't advise that if OP likes his face

Apr 14, 2014

Unless you're horribly unathletic, you should be fine. Most clubs have a B team for newcomers.

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