The mark of an adult
so this post is half-vent, half-discussion.
one of my biggest regrets in life was offering more time, patience, and energy to people who didn't deserve it, just for them to turn around and backstab me, on top of turning their backs on everything that they believed in once it was time to "move on" to the next big shiny thing that caught their eyes. all in the name of "growth". or whatever nonsense philosophy they stole off of instagram or twitter.
and well, i'm really tired of being embarrassed all for trying to expect the same returned to me in a relationship with the basic expectation that people should have some depth to them in their approach to one another.
so WSO, i'd like to know from your perspective, personal finances notwithstanding, what do you think is an indicator of an adult? because as we all know, not everyone grows up. and it seems that there are a lot more people who never grew up than i imagined.
i'll start.
for me, the biggest sign of an adult is possessing a sense of depth or subtlety. this characteristic usually indicates someone who has gone through their own fair share of life experiences and were able to come to terms with life as being beyond them. it's proof that people have undergone both time and learning in their life, which are characteristic of a person who has reached maturation (by definition of maturation -- something that requires advancement through earlier stages).
having depth and subtlety usually allows people to form deeper connections with others because they are able to see things beyond the scope of themselves. they're able to understand the darker side of others without judgement or scrutiny and accept that there's no competition to maintain a clean public optic as possible (which ironically backfires on people who go to this extreme). in doing so, they're able to understand the humanity within as large a reach of people as possible. this is because their life experiences have honed their ability to actually determine character in others, and usually representing someone when they're going through rough times is not a good way to determine character.
using capitalization
follow through. so many people don't do it. if I ask you to call me at a certain time, or if you promise to do something within a certain time frame, I automatically trust you more if you follow through, and the opposite applies too. if I'm lending a hand and you don't keep your promises, you get one more chance, and then I won't help anymore.
he's tough; but fair.
Being 18 or older
yeah that's a pretty important one for all the creeps and shut-ins out there
An adult does what they say they are going to do. If something happens, they communicate.
Integrity, willingness to do things for those they care about without an attitude of “what’s in it for me”, sets goals for themselves and achieves them/ has given some thought to 1-, 10-, and 20-year plans for themselves, seeks to learn vs be entertained
Adulthood isn’t about buying a condo or getting hitched or making MD, it’s about challenging and thinking beyond oneself
Handle your shit.
This could be communication, organization, execution, etc., doesn't really matter what, as long as you handle it
Ever been to jail/booking? It wakes you up.
This is one I've missed: I've never totalled a car, unless you count the time the transmission crapped out on the highway. An ex whacked several.
Ever done work on your own car? There's something about having an engine half apart.
Ever been on the dais at the NYSE for the bell/gavel? That's a signal that you made it.
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