Was it easier for you to date in college or after you graduated?

Intern in IB - Gen

I'm a rising senior in college and have found it difficult to date and have a relationship in college for a number of reasons (don't party, busy with school/extracurricular etc.) Did anyone have a similar experience and did it get easier after you graduated? If so, why and if not I'd also like to hear about what the difficulties are in dating post-graduation.

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  • Intern in IB - Gen
Jul 26, 2020

following

Jul 26, 2020

Gotta prioritize, fellas.

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  • Intern in IB - Gen
Jul 26, 2020

elaborate?

  • Associate 1 in Acct - Other
Jul 28, 2020

Definitely after - basically because I had more confidence

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Jul 28, 2020

After, but it took a lot of work and progress during and after. That's the thing with continuous improvement, it always gets better even if it doesn't get any easier. I'd say with same levels of effort it is harder after college, and it is definitely a lot easier to meet compatible women in college. Start growing your network now!

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  • Intern in IB - Gen
Jul 29, 2020

If it's easier to meet compatible women in college in which ways does it get 'better'? Genuinely curious

Jul 29, 2020

First, you know what you want more. Once you have a goal in mind, be it relationship, fucking around, testing the waters to see what relationships are like, etc, you can attack the problem with purpose. You can narrow down the potential list and going for your niche is always more successful (in the same way that being goth and targeting goths is a better strategy than going after anyone). I feel like most of college dating was horny people trying to figure out what the other person wanted out of it, and what they themselves wanted.

Secondly, you are more aware of who you are, what kind of people are attracted to you, and what you need to change about yourself to get what you want (or change what you want).

Third, you just get more practice. In the end, better means more success, not just more opportunities for success.

Jul 29, 2020

Before and after lol - nah the game just changes after college. Girls are usually more sophisticated and value guys with good careers more.

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Jul 29, 2020

I'd rather they like me for reasons other than my career tbh

Most Helpful
Jul 29, 2020

just get chiseled - girls will want to be around you

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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  • Prospect in IB - Gen
Jul 29, 2020

NEITHER

Jul 29, 2020

once you start working...you realize the college "work" was a cake walk..and most college students WASTE SO MUCH TIME....a 2nd year IB analyst could go back in time and ace college with one hand tied behind their back....and still party like a rock star and date dozens of girls a year.

once you start working,,the first few years you will have zero free time as you adapt to what it means to "really work"..but then you start to get more and more free time as your career progresses and you get to delegate work to your underlings. At that point, you can party like a rockstar if you want...but it will be harder than college...just a lower density of single age appropriate people in the same circumstance...but if you live in a major city, there will always be enough people for you to find people to date...maybe it will be hard for you to date different people every single day like you could in college...but thats probbaly overkill for most people anyway.

Jul 29, 2020

"In college I had all the time and none of the money. Then I got a real job, and now I have all of the money, and none of the time."

Like a good investment, get it when you can get it, and know when to get out.

Jul 29, 2020

I wish I could go back in time and give myself some money to afford a hotel/motel room instead of what I had to work with. "A gift from the Future"

College is the best.

Jul 29, 2020

i had a few girlfriends in college and was rarely single (big mistake)...if i went back, i would slay a different girl every single night....

Funniest
Jul 30, 2020

Cool, no you wouldn't.

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  • Associate 1 in PE - LBOs
Jul 29, 2020

It is exponentially easier to date post college. Amongst the reasons people on here have already mentioned, girls are naturally more attracted to older men. As you get older, the pool of potential girls to date gets larger and larger each year. So from a pure numbers perspective, the probability of finding someone continues increase with each passing year.

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  • Intern in IB - Ind
Jul 29, 2020

Can confirm... I'm 80 and I exclusively pull 10s

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Jul 30, 2020

Jeffrey Epstein also exclusively pulled 10s

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  • Intern in IB - Ind
Jul 29, 2020

Laughs in 60-40 school

  • Prospect in IB-M&A
Jul 29, 2020

College is kind of similar to HS where a lot of dating is done through friend groups which if you're in the right friend groups makes it a lot easier. If not you're a bit screwed imo since girls in college aren't really open to someone just approaching them out of the blue. After college it seems like girls are more open to approach, in the right settings of course, so theoretically it is easier if you have game and are decently attractive.

Jul 30, 2020

Ive observed that 80% or so young guys nowadays either seriously lack game, are out of shape, have very little going for them in terms of their career, or a combination of all of the above. Any alright looking guy should be able to do fine at any stage of life given a decent job and game (which is essentially another word for social skills)

  • Analyst 1 in PE - Other
Jul 30, 2020

Way easier in college.
In college you mostly hang out with people that have the same interests / friend group / parties, etc as you do making it super easy to meet new people.
Most of my dating after college (been almost 2 years) has been through dating apps.

Jul 30, 2020

Bold of you to assume women are not immediately repulsed by my non-target status

Vincet Voluntas - Will shall win

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  • Intern in IB - Gen
Jul 30, 2020
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Jul 30, 2020