Was it easier for you to date in college or after you graduated?
I'm a rising senior in college and have found it difficult to date and have a relationship in college for a number of reasons (don't party, busy with school/extracurricular etc.) Did anyone have a similar experience and did it get easier after you graduated? If so, why and if not I'd also like to hear about what the difficulties are in dating post-graduation.
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Gotta prioritize, fellas.
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Definitely after - basically because I had more confidence
After, but it took a lot of work and progress during and after. That's the thing with continuous improvement, it always gets better even if it doesn't get any easier. I'd say with same levels of effort it is harder after college, and it is definitely a lot easier to meet compatible women in college. Start growing your network now!
If it's easier to meet compatible women in college in which ways does it get 'better'? Genuinely curious
First, you know what you want more. Once you have a goal in mind, be it relationship, fucking around, testing the waters to see what relationships are like, etc, you can attack the problem with purpose. You can narrow down the potential list and going for your niche is always more successful (in the same way that being goth and targeting goths is a better strategy than going after anyone). I feel like most of college dating was horny people trying to figure out what the other person wanted out of it, and what they themselves wanted.
Secondly, you are more aware of who you are, what kind of people are attracted to you, and what you need to change about yourself to get what you want (or change what you want).
Third, you just get more practice. In the end, better means more success, not just more opportunities for success.
Before and after lol - nah the game just changes after college. Girls are usually more sophisticated and value guys with good careers more.
I’d rather they like me for reasons other than my career tbh
just get chiseled - girls will want to be around you
NEITHER
once you start working...you realize the college "work" was a cake walk..and most college students WASTE SO MUCH TIME....a 2nd year IB analyst could go back in time and ace college with one hand tied behind their back....and still party like a rock star and date dozens of girls a year.
once you start working,,the first few years you will have zero free time as you adapt to what it means to "really work"..but then you start to get more and more free time as your career progresses and you get to delegate work to your underlings. At that point, you can party like a rockstar if you want...but it will be harder than college...just a lower density of single age appropriate people in the same circumstance...but if you live in a major city, there will always be enough people for you to find people to date...maybe it will be hard for you to date different people every single day like you could in college...but thats probbaly overkill for most people anyway.
"In college I had all the time and none of the money. Then I got a real job, and now I have all of the money, and none of the time."
Like a good investment, get it when you can get it, and know when to get out.
I wish I could go back in time and give myself some money to afford a hotel/motel room instead of what I had to work with. “A gift from the Future”
College is the best.
i had a few girlfriends in college and was rarely single (big mistake)...if i went back, i would slay a different girl every single night....
Cool, no you wouldn't.
It is exponentially easier to date post college. Amongst the reasons people on here have already mentioned, girls are naturally more attracted to older men. As you get older, the pool of potential girls to date gets larger and larger each year. So from a pure numbers perspective, the probability of finding someone continues increase with each passing year.
Can confirm... I'm 80 and I exclusively pull 10s
Jeffrey Epstein also exclusively pulled 10s
Laughs in 60-40 school
College is kind of similar to HS where a lot of dating is done through friend groups which if you're in the right friend groups makes it a lot easier. If not you're a bit screwed imo since girls in college aren't really open to someone just approaching them out of the blue. After college it seems like girls are more open to approach, in the right settings of course, so theoretically it is easier if you have game and are decently attractive.
Ive observed that 80% or so young guys nowadays either seriously lack game, are out of shape, have very little going for them in terms of their career, or a combination of all of the above. Any alright looking guy should be able to do fine at any stage of life given a decent job and game (which is essentially another word for social skills)
Way easier in college. In college you mostly hang out with people that have the same interests / friend group / parties, etc as you do making it super easy to meet new people. Most of my dating after college (been almost 2 years) has been through dating apps.
Bold of you to assume women are not immediately repulsed by my non-target status
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