Where do you find those "wifey" types that will stick with you forever?

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Since most women in clubs are just looking for one night stand/brief flings and IB girls have superiority/feminist complex. So where do you find those other wife type girls?

Comments (151)

Nov 27, 2018

heister:

Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad.

Nov 27, 2018

At Target. You know how many women walk out of there with useless bullshit they don't need?

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Nov 27, 2018

Stop staking me you accounting jerk

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Nov 27, 2018

nah

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Dec 9, 2018

I thought you left WSO

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Nov 27, 2018

You're like the 798023th person to say that, and this is months old. Move on champ

Nov 27, 2018

Follow the shit your fellow monkeys say @shitWSOsays

Life is hard, it's even harder when you're stupid - John Wayne

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Nov 27, 2018

Bumble and don't get specific about what you do for a while.

Nov 27, 2018

lots of catfish on there mate and after my recent experience, I'm not dating anyone from internet. Suggest some other place in NYC

Nov 27, 2018

Something tells me that you're not cut out for dating, slugger

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Nov 27, 2018
jnhadekjs:

lots of catfish on there mate and after my recent experience, I'm not dating anyone from internet. Suggest some other place in NYC

Holy fuck. Are you:

a) an incel
b) autistic
c) have downs
d) a troll

My vote is on a but holy shit man your posts are pathetic.

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Nov 27, 2018

The second part of this is super accurate. Being in finance generally doesn't help too much when it comes to actual relationships.

Dayman?

Nov 27, 2018

Tinder

Nov 27, 2018

Catfish and kidnappers and murderers and stalkers. Don't you watch crime watch daily?

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Nov 27, 2018

In the South.

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Nov 27, 2018

Can confirm. Southern belles aplenty.

Nov 27, 2018

Where in the south? And at bars and clubs in the south? No man, I'll pass.

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Dec 3, 2018

More generalizations...surprisingly enough, there are cities in the South. and what are in cities?

Dec 9, 2018

Depends a lot on the state and city, girls in Atlanta are a poor man's California girl and I would never suggest going for a Florida girl. Just as obsessed with popularity, who is "hip" and trying to fit in with entertainment trends. Lots of wife material to be found in Tennessee and the Carolinas though.

Dec 13, 2018

You clearly haven't been to Buckhead

Jan 25, 2019

My current SO and I are both from Texas and having previously dated girls from CA, I will take the Southern influence every day a week and twice on Sunday.

Nov 27, 2018

Daily mass, middle-class families

"This world, it is a tempest sometimes. But remember, the sun always rises again."
-- Brandon Sanderson

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Nov 27, 2018

I've known my life partner since HS, although we didn't start dating until after college.

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Nov 27, 2018

you suggesting that he looks to his local high school to find a wife?

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Nov 27, 2018

alright alright alright

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Nov 27, 2018

Lmao. No. Just saying stuff like this generally happens naturally.

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Dec 7, 2018
BobTheBaker:

I've known my life partner since HS, although we didn't start dating until after college.

If you didn't say "life partner" I might be willing to throw you an SB. But to each his own...

Nov 27, 2018

We aren't married breh. Can't call her my wife - yet.

Nov 27, 2018

If your wallet is big enough there is plenty of talent ready to be wifed up in Dallas

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Nov 27, 2018

Been wondering the same honestly. Can never match with chicks on Bumble that are worthwhile - I'm not dating a girl that didn't go to college and I'm also not dating an art major grad that works at Starbucks.

While I do enjoy the bars once a month or so, your typical weekend bar slut is not my type. I'm big into health & fitness, a girl that can out drink me is not attractive.

Part of my issue is I live in a tier 3 city so the amount of prime talent not already wifed up is minimal.

Realistically, the best source of talent is probably your buddy's girlfriends friends, that's what I've been trying to exploit lately. Always stay in your buddy's girl's good graces.

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Nov 27, 2018

If you lift hit up the local college's gym. Go between 5-8pm when it's busy so you can ask to work in and not be a total goober. From there play your cards right and you've got it made.

Cultivating mass and wealth since '95

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Nov 27, 2018

Brilliant

Nov 27, 2018

I live in Sacramento so trust me the struggle can be real. Thankfully the ski resorts pop off in the winter ahaha. But yeah, 10/10 recommend the gym strategy. Don't even go for the kill with the girl you meet in the gym, just be a decent human being and get to know her well and get invited out with her and her friends. That's where the fun really begins

Cultivating mass and wealth since '95

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Nov 27, 2018

Mother Russia. If you hurry they may be running a sale in one of the wife catalogs.

Nov 27, 2018

Honestly, go with the approach of giving everyone a chance, regardless of where you are. Chances are, most women won't fit your preferences, that's fine. It'll be 1 out of 1000, meaning you'll have to talk to 999 women first before finding your match.

I actually met the best girls in rather bizarre circumstances, so I'm not going to suggest traditional ways that didn't work for me.

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Nov 27, 2018

Are you stupid? 1 out of 1,000 doesn't mean that your soul mate will be the 1,000th person. It can be the second for all you know. Leave statistics to people who are actually intelligent, and stick with the over-arching lesson: "You have to keep trying until you find what works." Alright, slugger?

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Nov 27, 2018
theaccountingmajor:

Are you stupid? 1 out of 1,000 doesn't mean that your soul mate will be the 1,000th person. It can be the second for all you know. Leave statistics to people who are actually intelligent, and stick with the over-arching lesson: "You have to keep trying until you find what works." Alright, slugger?

Yes sir!

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Nov 27, 2018

If they were the best girls then why are they past tense?

Nov 27, 2018
justphresh:

If they were the best girls then why are they past tense?

One moved to the other side of the planet, the other one I made a horrendous mistake.

Nov 27, 2018

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Nov 27, 2018

I've found getting rid of a few "dealbreakers" worked for me. Dated a college dropout and that went well for a while.

Was eliminating too many good girls that didn't fit my exacting specifications.

EDIT: Also poor and middle class girls, go to the parts of town you think are below you (because you have a good job), and you will find a lot of great girls.

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Nov 27, 2018

Good points. I think my "dealbreakers" are what's holding me back. I actually think I fit in better with middle class girls anyways. I can't stand rich snobby girls that have done nothing for themselves but spend daddy's money.

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Nov 27, 2018
MonopolyMoney:

I've found getting rid of a few "dealbreakers" worked for me. Dated a college dropout and that went well for a while.

Was eliminating too many good girls that didn't fit my exacting specifications.

EDIT: Also poor and middle class girls, go to the parts of town you think are below you (because you have a good job), and you will find a lot of great girls.

Upper class girls tend to be ruined more by the lack of father figure rather than the actual money, at least in my experience. Generally, the father was never around because he worked too much, or he cheated on the mother, or they divorced, or all of the above, and the girl got compensated with a lavish lifestyle and little love. Result: she's incapable of any real commitment, doesn't trust men.

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Nov 27, 2018
neink:
MonopolyMoney:

I've found getting rid of a few "dealbreakers" worked for me. Dated a college dropout and that went well for a while.

Was eliminating too many good girls that didn't fit my exacting specifications.

EDIT: Also poor and middle class girls, go to the parts of town you think are below you (because you have a good job), and you will find a lot of great girls.

Upper class girls tend to be ruined more by the lack of father figure rather than the actual money, at least in my experience. Generally, the father was never around because he worked too much, or he cheated on the mother, or they divorced, or all of the above, and the girl got compensated with a lavish lifestyle and little love. Result: she's incapable of any real commitment, doesn't trust men.

Daddy Issues

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Nov 28, 2018

This is really spot on. I have meet a good amount of girls who came from money and were awesome, down to earth, and for lack of a better term, normal. From what I gathered, these were the ones that came from families that put an emphasis on family, the dad was actually around, and although they had money, it didn't ruin them. In my experience this is more the exception than the norm, as most I have met are snobby, pretentious, and have an unearned sense of entitlement that was given to them as they had everything they wanted materially in place of actual love and affection as neink said above, Dad was never around, parents divorced or cheating on each other and as a result, there are serious trust/commitment issues.

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Dec 7, 2018
neink:
MonopolyMoney:

I've found getting rid of a few "dealbreakers" worked for me. Dated a college dropout and that went well for a while.

Was eliminating too many good girls that didn't fit my exacting specifications.

EDIT: Also poor and middle class girls, go to the parts of town you think are below you (because you have a good job), and you will find a lot of great girls.

Upper class girls tend to be ruined more by the lack of father figure rather than the actual money, at least in my experience. Generally, the father was never around because he worked too much, or he cheated on the mother, or they divorced, or all of the above, and the girl got compensated with a lavish lifestyle and little love. Result: she's incapable of any real commitment, doesn't trust men.

Gotta love a good girl with daddy issues.. Or a bad one for that matter. Daddy issues make the world go round

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Nov 27, 2018

on a side note, wife material girls won't like the term ''wifey''

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Nov 28, 2018

WALMART.

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Nov 28, 2018

You can find them anywhere really, wife material girls go to clubs and bars as well, they just tend not to be showing all the skin they can legally get away with.

I would look at friends' friends. They will likely have a personality that you'd get on with, you have things in common, and your friend can help introduce you. But take it easy and be clear about what you want (ie. casual or serious relationship), because as she's in your wider social circle, if you fuck it up then basically everyone you know will know.

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Nov 27, 2018

All the girls my friends know are either engaged or married or taken :(

Nov 28, 2018

You gotta be worth sticking with

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Nov 29, 2018

@GoldenCinderblock

how many months did u search tinder until you found the lucky lady?

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

Nov 27, 2018

idk dawg like a year? I took it pretty srs though
arthuxtable.blogspot.com
look at this fresh-faced pink little fuck

heister:

Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad.

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Nov 29, 2018
GoldenCinderblock:

idk dawg like a year? I took it pretty srs though
arthuxtable.blogspot.com
look at this fresh-faced pink little fuck

thats awesome

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

Nov 30, 2018
GoldenCinderblock:

idk dawg like a year? I took it pretty srs though
arthuxtable.blogspot.com
look at this fresh-faced pink little fuck

Legendary shit when you went through your Tinder phase on WSO.

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Nov 30, 2018

Oh my gosh, this is epic. Goldie, you rock, truly, LOL. "There are some 17 year old on here... you card those chicks... be careful!"

Totally forgot that arthuxtable blog was you, that blog has given me some good laughs.

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Nov 29, 2018

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Nov 29, 2018
TheArtMajor:

File articles of organization for an LLC using a vague name which can't be used to identify you. Deposit cash (around 10k-20k) into a bank account owned by the LLC. Run a Google search for all dating sites in your region (ex. "Dating / Singles NYC") and make a list of all of the sites that seem to be dead / inactive. Do a whois search on the domain names to find the contact information of the owners of the websites. Make cash offers to the owners in an attempt to purchase one of the sites. If they decline, up the price gradually until one accepts. Post a craigslist job ad for a part time employee to run the site (target a local college kid that majors in CS). Define exactly what attributes you are looking for in a woman (age/interests/income/education). Put together a list of websites/forums with users that fit this profile. Many sites (like facebook) will allow you to reach a very specific audience for the right price. Become an ad partner with these websites. Deploy capital into an ad campaign while monitoring the growth of your user base. Spend 3$ targeting women for every 1$ targeting men (need to have some males on there). Create a profile for yourself (research how to make an attractive dating profile). Game the system by funneling all the female users to yourself.

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Dec 7, 2018

Girls in clubs don't work because they're probably there for one reason and have very low expectations of the men in those places.

And IB girls are not just feminists, they're way too career driven. You need a chick who is less career oriented, but look for her in an unsuspecting place so it's not sending the wrong signals.

I also think you should "date" more than 1 chick at once (same for women), while it's still in the non-exclusive stage,because love at first sight is really just lust at first sight.

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Dec 1, 2018

Wouldn't that be cheating or unfair to that other girl you're dating?

Dec 2, 2018

No it's not cheating if you're not exclusive. Any decent looking chick probably has 5-10 dudes hitting her up anyway. Best to give yourself the same optionaluty

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Dec 7, 2018
Ibanker1265:

Wouldn't that be cheating or unfair to that other girl you're dating?

Not cheating, unless a stated or unstated form of exclusivity is on the table. Like the other guy said, she can easily go to guy #4 or 5 if she gets tired of you. And it's about not getting too excited with one person too early. We all want to fuck at first meeting, which is natural, but falling in love too fast won't do you much good.

Nov 30, 2018

I mean, if there was an easy answer to find a place where there are attractive, wife-type, loyal woman, don't you think most ppl on the street would already know about. Do you really think most of these guys who have high profile/costly divorces or crazy wives were looking for that? Usually it takes a while for a chick to have their crazy come out, just make sure it's shown before you get hitched.

Don't specifically think of a "place" that you need to go to meet woman. That's a big mistake. You can meet woman anywhere-elevator, coffee house, in line somewhere-just have to keep an open mind. If you think I can only try to find woman at x,y or z, you're limiting yourself. Additionally, as mentioned above, don't have a specific standard when it comes to woman. Definitely have your deal/breakers, but then also have a list of "nice to have" but not definite no's. For example, a girl whose really into fitness might be high on your list, where as maybe she likes the same music as you is nice to have.

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Dec 2, 2018

Chasing Amy:
Banky Edwards: Alright, now see this? This is a four-way road, okay? And dead in the center is a crisp, new, hundred dollar bill. Now, at the end of each of these streets are four people, okay? You following?

Holden: Yeah.

Banky Edwards: Good. Over here, we have a male-affectionate, easy to get along with, non-political agenda lesbian. Down here, we have a man-hating, angry as fuck, agenda of rage, bitter dyke. Over here, we got Santa Claus, and up here the Easter Bunny. Which one is going to get to the hundred dollar bill first?

Holden: What is this supposed to prove?

Banky Edwards: No, I'm serious. This is a serious exercise. It's like an SAT question. Which one is going to get to the hundred dollar bill first? The male-friendly lesbian, the man-hating dyke, Santa Claus, or the Easter bunny?

Holden: The man-hating dyke.

Banky Edwards: Good. Why?

Holden: I don't know.

Banky Edwards: [shouting] Because the other three are figments of your fucking imagination!

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Nov 30, 2018

Gotta love Kevin Smith flicks!

Dec 2, 2018

Banky Edwards: Alright, now see this? This is a four-way road, okay? And dead in the center is a crisp, new, hundred dollar bill. Now, at the end of each of these streets are four people, okay? You following?

Holden: Yeah.

Banky Edwards: Good. Over here, we have a male-affectionate, easy to get along with, non-political agenda lesbian. Down here, we have a man-hating, angry as fuck, agenda of rage, bitter dyke. Over here, we got Santa Claus, and up here the Easter Bunny. Which one is going to get to the hundred dollar bill first?

Holden: What is this supposed to prove?

Banky Edwards: No, I'm serious. This is a serious exercise. It's like an SAT question. Which one is going to get to the hundred dollar bill first? The male-friendly lesbian, the man-hating dyke, Santa Claus, or the Easter bunny?

Holden: The man-hating dyke.

Banky Edwards: Good. Why?

Holden: I don't know.

Banky Edwards: [shouting] Because the other three are figments of your fucking imagination!

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Dec 3, 2018

If you flip it:
Where Do You Find Those "Husbandy" Types That Will Stick With You Forever? haha
Seriously though, that sounds pretty bad. It's weird to say all IB girls or girls who go to clubs are bad, and just because some females are "feminist" doesn't mean they have a superiority complex. Funniest thing I've heard all day.

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Jan 24, 2019

Was that a legit question? If so I can totally add my two cents....

For what its worth its definitely not a fair fight when it comes to finding the "Husbandy" type compared to finding the "wifey" type. I know that [based on my unsolicited comments from my wife] that if you can find a guy who is reasonably ambitious, has good chemistry, good looking[by whatever standard you have] and is READY[emphasis on this factor] for a committed relationship, it WILL work out of course all with the reassurance that you've set collective expectation of what you would want from the relationship.

The very beginning of my relationship [~ 2 months], we had a real "come to Jesus" moment. Talked about our expectations/hopes for the relationship. After that talk we were able to identify that we were not only on the same boat but had the same destination for the short/long term. Its not worth your time to try to change someone's mind or convince them into something they don't want. There is someone out there who you can vibe with that you don't have to convince.

If you go into any relationship with the sense of knowing what you want, having your non-negotiable items, and patience for the few moments of expected disagreement and friction[because you are both human] you will not only survive but have a real meaningful relationship on your hands.

again just my two cents...

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Dec 3, 2018

That was not a legit question, I just felt like the question on this forum was kind of sexist. It seriously assumes the worst of females and there is nothing wrong with being a female with ambition.
Plus worst of all, what if the guys are gasp misogynist? That's a pretty unfair assumption right? "most women in clubs are just looking for one night stand/brief flings" you can say about males as well

Dec 3, 2018

In Church.

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Dec 4, 2018

Probably somewhere like Thailand.

Dec 4, 2018

Do you have female friends? Go through them. You have a reasonable chance of knowing the girl involved isn't a psychopath, and also you can meet them in a non-romantic way first.

That being said, the more generic and useful advice for this forum is pretty simple. Don't lead with, talk about, or even mention in more than passing your job or your salary. Men who lead with their money find women who are only interested in their money. Also... try and have a personality and interests outside of the office. It's easy to get sucked into an echo chamber when you're working 80+ hour weeks and the only people you talk to all do basically the same thing. Yes, it's likely that a smaller percentage of the people you meet are interested in you on the first date, or leads to a second date, but that's normal.

Also, another piece of unpopular advice, is don't sleep with someone on the first few dates. Sex is almost always awesome in the beginning, better to forge an actual connection with someone before getting into that, or you may find that when the thrill wears off you have nothing in common.

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Dec 6, 2018

Do you have cash? Do you want a wife? Then move to Dallas for 1-2 years. There are plenty of beautiful women who believe in keeping themselves up and are looking to wife up. Honestly, they'd love to move out East too.

So many beautiful women there. It's much more fun to live there than Boston or Chicago. Cost of Living is so low, comparatively, and there's a culture there of "going out" every Thursday/Friday/Saturday. College and Pro football are alive. I've never had so much fun. Uptown is a great place to live if you're younger than 30. Once you hit 30, there's still the 'burbs (Addison, Richardson, Plano, etc) where there's plenty of good looking women there too.

Every year a new flock of 22-24 year olds move in to the area from the surrounding states (Oklahoma, Arkansas, Louisiana, and Colorado). The ugly girls generally move out of Dallas after a year or two because there's so much competition. Most of them go to Denver in my experience.

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Jan 24, 2019

Make it a point to meet people and find a good crowd, if you can't find someone by traditional dating means (networking, after work activities, hobbies, etc....) then be open to introductions. I ended up getting introduced to my now wife by a co-worker out of the blue.

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Jan 24, 2019

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