Alumni not responding

I go to a non-target school and have been reaching out to alumni working at IB's. I connected really well with one of the alumni and I felt like she became a great mentor. However, she stopped responding to me altogether after a while. This has happened before where she won't respond for some time and then after a couple of follow-up emails she would get back to me. But this time it's been quite a few weeks and she hasn't responded. I've already sent her 2 emails thus far and I have her cellphone number (we communicate through texts sometimes) but I don't know if I should call/text her. How do I remind her to get back to me without being annoying?

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You have to be really careful about not pushing it to the "annoying stage"... after that people just forget about you and will never reply.

How long have you known her, how often do you reach/communicate and when you reach are are they very specific reason for you taking up parts of her time?

 

I have known her for over a year now. I reach out to her once or twice per semester but because I've been in a sticky situation lately, we talked on a weekly-biweekly basis. We're pretty casual now and there have been times where she has rescheduled a meeting 3-4 times so I've been very flexible too. I've told her jokingly to let me know if I annoy her too much and she said I'm not and that she'd be worried if I don't!

 

Tip #1: Chilllll

Tip #2: Chilllll

You need to mellow out. Unless you desperately need an answer to a question immediately, wait. She has probably been busy and hasn't had time to respond. You are going to do more harm than good by constantly nagging her. In the past I have had people take a month or so to get back to me (after typically responding within the day). You want to make sure to have a good relationship, not one where you are extremely needy.

 

Oh okay. I guess I misinterpreted your post. I read that as you had emailed her twice in one week or two.

In that case I would do one of two things:

a) shoot her a text a week and a half after your last email (disclaimer: only do this if your relationship really is as casual as you claim). keep it short and just mention that you are sure she has gotten swamped, didn't want to clutter her inbox, and look forward to her response when she gets a chance.

b) [what I would do] wait at least 3 or 4 weeks to email her again. Mention you are sure she has been busy, but wanted to make sure the message hadn't gotten lost somehow.

 

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