Attracted to non-banker, how to kill feelings?

Hi monkeys,

Personal question today, so be kind. I have recently developed feelings for someone outside of IB/PE. I know this is wrong. How do I stop these feelings?

Thanks,
John (using anonymous name given sensitive topic)

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unfortunate but you need to get your head in the game man. you will lose all your prestige and possibly your life if you date someone not in IB or PE

Download Grindr, which is an app for career-focused men who like to grind. I recommend walking by the Goldman or JPM building, hopefully you can get lots of pings and forget about non IB people’s existence.

 

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