Can't get ahead nowadays, even with parental help

Hi everyone, I am finding myself in quite a unique situation. I do not think I will ever be able to afford a house, let alone a wife and kids even with parental support in the early stages of my career.

For further context, I work at a boutique IB in CA making slightly below street base (between 90k - 110k). This used to be a decent chunk of change, but now its piss money. The only reason I have been able to save a little bit for some international trips is because my parents pay for my studio in a nice area. They also give me an additional allowance of $1000 a month. 

I have been able to save some money, but prices just keep rising. I have no debt, but it will still be a few years until I own my first property. Is there anyone in this situation? I'd love to hear more about how to navigate. 

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I realized then and there that the rat race is meant to keep you broke, and so I booked a one way ticket to Chattanooga, where I have lived ever since, hitting 15 below par on the muni.

 

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It's not about saving ANYTHING. I am definitely saving but like after 2 years of banking I would have only saved up maybe 50 - 100k which is not much at all in CA.

For starter CA homes you're gonna have to fork up at least $1M. I'm barely gonna get the down payment I need, let alone be able to afford family vacations and my kids' private school tuition. Just feel super poor rn. 

 

There's also a huge difference between having a large portion of your net worth tied up in something like home equity as opposed to stocks or other liquid assets. Sure, you can sell your home in CA and move to OH, but I really haven't seen anyone do this. It's pretty challenging to abandon your family/friend circle when you're retirement age, especially if you aren't married. Trust me, I understand that owning a home can be an excellent investment, but I also think OP thinking he should be buying a home as a single guy in CA right out of college is a bit ridiculous, and I say this as someone who lived in Santa Monica for 2 years.

 

yeah because buying a home in LA (top 5 most expensive cities on the planet) at under 28 years old is the equivalent to renting for life. Additionally, if someone becomes a millionaire solely off their home appreciation alone then they're doing the rest of their finances wrong. Buying a home is not always a great investment. It ties up a large portion of capital and bootstraps you to one area. Especially being young, it is foolish. I usually would assume 99.9% of people in finance, especially a banker, would know this. Wierd.

 

Can financial advice not be asked on this website? I swear this website just gets lower quality users day by day. 

 

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