Comment from my MD

I completed my Summer Associate Job in M&A. On the concluding day, my MD said to me," Your technical skills are good. You're assertive, too assertive."

How should I take it?

Do I have to work on my assertiveness and make it lesser? OR Should I take it as a compliment?

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He said you were too assertive. In no way is that good coming from a superior.

Assertive: good, too assertive: dear god, what have you done?

He thinks you're whiny or, given the technical comment, you shouldn't talk about changing models anymore.

 
ChicagoIBDHe said you were too assertive. In no way is that good coming from a superior.

Assertive: good, too assertive: dear god, what have you done?

He thinks you're whiny or, given the technical comment, you shouldn't talk about changing models anymore.

He said both- You're assertive- too assertive... that is really confusing. We spoke for one hour but he seemed happy. Still I want to work on any mistakes I made. Any insights!!
 
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nonakaur
ChicagoIBDHe said you were too assertive. In no way is that good coming from a superior.

Assertive: good, too assertive: dear god, what have you done?

He thinks you're whiny or, given the technical comment, you shouldn't talk about changing models anymore.

He said both- You're assertive- too assertive... that is really confusing. We spoke for one hour but he seemed happy. Still I want to work on any mistakes I made. Any insights!!

Don't be as assertive

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nonakaur
ChicagoIBDHe said you were too assertive. In no way is that good coming from a superior.

Assertive: good, too assertive: dear god, what have you done?

He thinks you're whiny or, given the technical comment, you shouldn't talk about changing models anymore.

He said both- You're assertive- too assertive... that is really confusing. We spoke for one hour but he seemed happy. Still I want to work on any mistakes I made. Any insights!!

Are you retarded? Read what the above posts have said and stfu sometimes when you're around more senior bankers.

If you think that's there even a 1/10000 chance it could have been a compliment, you are f-ed up.

 
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nonakaur
ChicagoIBDHe said you were too assertive. In no way is that good coming from a superior.

Assertive: good, too assertive: dear god, what have you done?

He thinks you're whiny or, given the technical comment, you shouldn't talk about changing models anymore.

He said both- You're assertive- too assertive... that is really confusing. We spoke for one hour but he seemed happy. Still I want to work on any mistakes I made. Any insights!!

Are you retarded? Read what the above posts have said and stfu sometimes when you're around more senior bankers.

If you think that's there even a 1/10000 chance it could have been a compliment, you are f-ed up.

Lol ... why are you getting impatient?? Bankers are not supposed to be like this. Might have hit the reply icon twice. You would have thought of the alternative scenario also....IB Associate and retarded ... Do they fit together...loll? Anyhow thanks for your inavluable insights..
 

reading between the lines:

"you can memorize a Vault guide pretty well but shut the fuck up and don't tell VP's/MD's how to do their job. Thanks"

 

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