Feel Iced out after PTO

Similar feedback as above, ignore the noise and do what you gotta do but ensure work product is immaculate. Given health issues is part of life, most folks would empathize and those who don’t are toxic. I would not pay mind to jerk colleagues since you had approval prior to taking off.

That’s bs. I’m team “take your PTO”.

That said, make sure you are doing what you need to do to pro actively reinsert yourself into the loop

How exactly are they icing you out?

Just directly ask to be re-added to all the relevant work streams, emails, and meetings. Hard for them to say no.

Agree, this is quite toxic and I would think twice about staying long-term in a place like that. PTO is PTO. You, presumably, work hard enough as it is when you’re not on vacation. No one should be bothering you about the ~2 weeks a year you’re out.

At the end of the day, the week you spent with family in a critical time is much more important than any slide deck or annoying comment from a delusional colleague. When I was an analyst, I postponed a couple previously planned vacations myself last-minute, fearing I’d miss out on some important milestone that popped up on an ongoing project. But as with many things in IB, deal deadlines often get pushed and it was almost rarely, if ever, worth it. Things are almost never as important as you think. Work will always be there when you come back, family/friends might not. 

Posts like this make me grateful I struck out in banking.

Fuck this industry bruh

Be careful about assuming any of this is intentional.  I’m un-intentionally icing someone out as we speak. Things have been too busy for months on end to get him into the flow, and I know he’s probably worried about it but it never feels right to set time aside for that when there’s always something more urgent.  Not saying I’m right for doing that, just saying it’s not on purpose.

I would do the same if I were them. You've left your team in the dark for a week, what did you expect?