Girlfriend facing 100K+ Student debt...stay or leave
I know I'll get a lot of predictable responses to this but was wondering how you would all handle this situation. Been dating this girl for a year and a half and we're getting very close to the "moving in together" stage. Once at that point, marriage isn't too far ahead.
Don't get me wrong, I really love this girl and our relationship works in pretty much every way and seems perfect. But when I think about the financial burden her loans would be in the future, it causes me to pause. She'll probably top out at 90-100K in her career, hopefully. Obviously, the hope is I make a good amount more. The thought of breaking it off just because of her debt kind of crushes me and I'd feel terrible doing so (yes, I have a soul). Also, I realize a ton of people have a huge student debt burden, so her situation is far from unique. But I also have a lifestyle in mind that I want to live up to and would be afraid that her loans would prevent it from becoming a reality.
Maybe I am being paranoid and stressing too much about it, i don't know...
Thoughts on this?
Jesus christ I hate reading things like this. I know it's tough man but honestly nothing is worth your happiness. If she truly makes you happy and you really think that she is the one then don't even hesitate.
I see some of my managers pulling 200K+ but they hate themselves and their lives and they're not getting any younger either. If she makes you happy then it's not even a question. Having a criteria for someone you love to be financially stable seems pretty selfish to me.
Why are people who make that much money unhappy?
all that glitters is not gold(stein)
Get yourself a gf that skipped college and works a cash job like an escort or cuts hair.
No debt, all equity and great cash flow.
Dude you're a major loser if you think $100k is too much of a burden. Wait until you have to buy a house with a $800k mortgage, or have to take out $100k+ of loans for each of your kids to pay for food, school and all that shit.
You obviously don't love this woman if $100k scares you. Either that, or you haven't developed into a man yet, in which case grow the f up
I think you have Asperger's.
You're posting this in the Investment Banking forum. If you truly achieve a successful career in NYC high finance, $100,000 shouldn't matter to you as much as you're making it seem. People spend that much on watches, of all things, not to mention sports cars, rent, etc. $100,000 is also nothing compared to what you could theoretically spend on relationships - trophy wives don't come free, nor do divorces. That also assumes that you're going to be paying for it all. It's 2017, dude - women can have jobs and pay their bills with or without you.
I don't mean to minimize the impact of 6 figure debt - I know it all too well - but come on, man. If she really is as perfect for you as you claim, this is ridiculous.