How to deal with shitty colleagues
Im a 3rd year analyst at my firm and recently my team hired an associate from another firm. This associate looks to me for questions as i have been at the firm longer, despite him having a higher rank. As an analyst, i am still learning and one of which is the firm’s model. The more reps i get, the better, but when i would ask this associate questions, they are so quick and nice to help out when no one is looking but the moment someone more senior is around they throw me under the bus and act like im stupid/not good at my job. Similarly, when holding conversations with MD and VP about deals, they ask condescending questions such as “do you understand what that is?” or “i hope thats not too hard to understand” not only to my face but infront of my manager which makes me look bad. Im sure it’s just their personality, but its really annoying as id never act like that to anyone on the team.
how can i deal with this? Id say it’s annoying (9/10) but not to the point where id quit. I dont necessarily want to address it with anyone senior, but if it continues i guess id have no choice.
If you ever have the chance to go out for a team happy hour, or otherwise just hangout with this person outside the office, try to befriend them. If you win them over and get them to like you personally, then I think they would be more likely to have your back instead of making you look bad for whatever reason.
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The weird thing is that we golf outside of work with our VP all the time and it’s normal. I do think that they may feel a bit slighted because I am an analyst and get more deal flow than they do, so maybe their first reaction is to make me look bad? Idk… they are being so unprofessional.
Are they an MBA Associate?
Next time they do it talk to them about it directly afterwards, people often stop doing things when they are confronted about it.
Next time he asks you to help him, stand up from your chair, raise your hands in the air in frustration and say "How many times do i have to explain it, when the stock price is above the strike, the options are in-the-money!!".
I never understand these cry baby posts.
So you’re with your Md right? And the associate says “is that too hard for you to understand?” Right?
So why don’t you just reply calmly, of course it is clear. Why do you keep acting like I’m an idiot?
I genuinely don’t get it. I’m not saying you need to yell or insult him or be extra.
What do you do instead? Say nothing? Look at the floor?
The MD and VP already know it or will learn it, just relax. Let the things flow.
If you really have a problem with it, go to another company.
If the associate is really saying g stuff like this, and assuming the rest of the team don’t totally have their heads up their asses, then they’ll see thru the associate’s bullshit
Sounds pretty transparently like asshole behavior
Your team may already see they it which is why your staffings have been better
Agree with the other poster who said try to befriend him
Either way, should be a short lived problem considering you are a high performing 3rd year analyst and this should be made associate soon
Not in IB but have dealt with many difficult people like this. There's a few ways to deal with people like this:
I love using the third one, it’s hilarious.
None of the questions are demeaning. Humble up; your ego is out of line for an analyst.
You can tell a lot about someone based on how they treat people they view as ‘below’ them. I’d be very surprised if your seniors have not been picking up on his behavior, I know mine would notice..
Agree
I wonder if you're just being a little thin skinned? they're probably trying to win brownie points from senior bankers by seeming like they care about your development.
Maybe he or she is actually shitty, but I'm skeptical they'd straight up purposely denigrate you in front of others. Not because they're nice, but because it takes world class autism for them not to realize this can makes them look shitty to senior bankers too
Or maybe everyone else has already told the associate that you need help getting up to speed. If so, a condescending associate is the least of your issues. Hopefully that's not the case
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