How to get over a superday rejection?

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Same dude. I am a non-target and had spent a lot of time and efforts speaking to people at a BB. Really thought I did very well, didn't get a technical wrong, got along with people and thought that this was it. Unfortunately, struck out after getting to the superday a couple of weeks back. Still have to pinch myself after thinking about the fact that I didn't get it.

Now, its time to increase the hustle and make sure I can get into a better bank. It really does suck but I have seen that I tend to forget about it at least momentarily when I have other stuff lined up (interviews, networking calls etc.).

Few questions come to mind when reading this: Have you done the same type of networking at other firms or was this one your top choice? Do you have other interviews lined up? How non-target is your "background"? Anyhow, I've been in your shoes and I too got pissed off when people told me to be proud or some other bs like that. The way I look at it you should just say fuckit and do the same with another firm and just forget about the other one. What really drove me after getting dinged was thinking about the feeling I had after the interview: I was confident an offer was coming my way and felt better than ever. I knew I wanted to get that feeling again and actually get the offer this time so I did it all over again and ended up with an offer at a more "prestigious" bank.

This is what I did and it lit a fire under my ass. I printed out my rejection emails and put them in my bathroom so the first thing I saw every morning was that. Every morning I was hungry with this "Fuck them" attitude and I was able to get into a much better bank.

Realise that nobody goes through life without being rejected.

It sucks, but congrats, you’re a normal human being having normal human experiences. Learn from the process and smash the next one.

Man, I just crush some cheap Pilsners and a thicc pizza after a day like that. Maybe a mindless action flick, too. Helps me take the edge off things.

The first rejection is the hardest, especially if you think you did well. What helped me the most was accepting it, and focusing on my other applications. You need to view it as a learning opportunity, at least you know what a super day looks like now, which already gives you an advantage for the future. It’s also super important to not take it personally, there might have been an interviewer who had a bad day or a small part of your CV didn’t fit into what the bank was looking for. Try to move on, I know it’s hard but I’m sure you did well, and will do even better next time!

I'm right there with you OP. I know networking into a first round takes a lot of work esp when it feels like target kids' entrance into the process is so much easier. Just remember that every time you do a superday you become a bit more polished bc you've gotten more practice and will come across as even more confident bc you'll be confident despite rejection!

You move on to the next one and eventually forget about it

Just had mine 2 weeks ago too. Spoke w/ 20+ ppl at the bank. Dinged superday. Sucks but time will heal. Took me 3 months to bounce back. It's destructive but you'll heal. Best of luck

You have to realize that in any give Superday, only 1/4-1/3 the candidates get offers. If there's 12 people being interviewed, I can guarantee there's more than 3-4 candidates who are qualified for the spot. There's always an element of luck and randomness in who gets offers and who doesn't, especially at the Superday level where everyone is roughly qualified for the job.