I have no perspective in life beyond gruelling hours and money. Help.
I realized how unhappy I am.
Yes, I make a lot of money compared to people my age. Yes, I work 70-80 hour weeks on average.
I thought this life was going to make me happy. I can afford anything I want anytime, and get lots of women.
But I just end up wanting more and more material stuff and becoming even richer, and many women who are interested in me seem interested not because I’m a person they like, but because I have a wallet they like. My ex dumped me because I got annoyed when she said that "if you’re gonna work this much, please show that you do it at least a little of it for me by spending some of it on me every week"
Deep inside, I want a 9-5 at some company, or even better, some public authority or charity/NGO. But it’s the loss of prestige, all that buzz, and most importantly, the money, that makes me not give notice tomorrow.
Feel this :/
I think the only thing you fuck is your hand
I’m embrace this over time, not everyone is born to live mediocre. JK. But on a serious note, try to develop a circle of relationships or hobby outside of work and WSO. The. You will be fine.
🎵Living in a material world and I am just a material girl 🎵
You have money and you get pussy.
Next.
go red pill
Getting a hookup via flexing the rolex? Sure, if that’s you’re thing and both parties know what’s up. Finding a partner over your material wealth? Not a good thing. As a soon to be married man, you’re not going to be happy unless you find someone you genuinely connect with. Don’t get me wrong - my girl appreciates that I can provide for our family, but she isn’t with me solely because of my car, watch, or bank account. As others mentioned, get some friends outside the “high finance” bubble for more outside perspective.
Second. It is one thing to feel insecure about prestige or brand name and a completely other thing to actual drink the kool-aid.
My GF is a lawyer who constantly wants to go to a better-paying Big Law firm and I definitely want to work at Evercore or Goldman or Morgan Stanley, but that doesn't mean we like each other because of this fake prestige stuff. That would be fucking repulsive.
I feel this. I'm not in IB, and never have been, but I can relate to the idea of wanting a bunch of money and tying your self worth/identity to it. From someone that was in your shoes not long ago - make the plunge and quit. Think of it as an addiction that you need to quit. It is not good to go through life feeling like you have to do certain things because of external validation. It is difficult to actually do it but once you get out of that world and pursue something you enjoy your life becomes so much better.
There is a reason so many people gave you silver bananas. The allure of the lifestyle is addictive and others on this site are addicted to it as well even if they don't want to be. It is no different than any other drug out there. Try to work up the courage to give something else a shot.
Pretty pathetic. Your goals are shallow and suck so it's no wonder your life is shallow and sucks.
Sounds like you need an intervention, get some better friends for a start. With a good crowd around you part of whom are doing normal jobs, you won't feel the intense pressure to chase the money, it also gives you perspective. Your ex shouldn't have said that about spending a bit on her (imo) but you need to re-evaluate your life, this forum can't do that for you x
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