Need Advice on Next Steps – Burned Out in M&A and Considering Options
I really need some advice on my career situation right now. I'm currently working in M&A at a boutique, and the environment has become unbearable.
The hours are insanely long, and I've hit a breaking point. Just this September, I ended up in the emergency room because of the sheer stress and exhaustion.
Now, I'm feeling completely burnt out, both mentally and physically.
Our founder partner has stepped back because he’s planning to retire, which means he’s pushed another MD to take over a lot of responsibilities. Unfortunately, this MD has become incredibly demanding and emotional.
He often yells at the team, even when we haven't made any mistakes. Recently, he screamed at me for five minutes over something that wasn’t my fault, and when he realized it wasn’t, he turned on the senior team and started a fight with lots of F-bombs thrown around. This kind of emotional outburst happens nearly every day, and it’s exhausting.
To make matters worse, we're constantly threatened with being fired if we don’t perform to their (often unreasonable) expectations.
Despite our base pay being relatively low compared to other firms in this high-cost-of-living area, we're made to feel like we’re overpaid. Last year, we didn’t get a bonus, and this year’s outlook is unclear. The MD even promised me a raise, then a month later reversed it, blaming me for not sending a follow-up email to a client (after one month, he said this client was very stupid and wasn't worth engaging)
We did close one deal this year, which isn’t bad for a boutique, but the deal flow is slow, and there’s no guarantee of closing anything significant until next year.
I used to be really passionate about M&A and the business world – I loved speaking with clients and working on deals – but now I just wake up feeling sad and drained. I don’t know if it’s the burnout talking or if I should seriously consider leaving M&A altogether.
I’ve had some interviews with PE firms and family offices, but I’ve struggled because of my current workload. I bombed a final-round interview recently after only sleeping 2 hours the night before because of my job. It feels like I’m having to sacrifice my health and sleep for every opportunity, and I’m not sure how much longer I can keep this up, really.
Have any of you been in a similar situation? Should I stick it out in M&A or start seriously pursuing other options? I’m just really tired and feeling lost right now, and any advice would be appreciated.
Thanks in advance for your thoughts and help.
Based on the most helpful WSO content, here are some insights and advice for your situation:
Assessing Your Current Situation
Burnout and Health:
Toxic Work Environment:
Compensation and Job Security:
Considering Your Options
Sticking it Out in M&A:
Exploring Other Opportunities:
Practical Steps to Take
Networking and Job Search:
Preparing for Interviews:
Self-Care and Support:
Long-Term Considerations
Business School:
Alternative Career Paths:
Conclusion
Your health and well-being should be your top priority. If the current environment is unsustainable, it’s worth seriously considering other opportunities. Leverage your network, prepare for interviews, and take steps to manage your stress. Remember, it’s okay to prioritize your health and happiness over a job, no matter how passionate you once were about it.
Sources: Dealing with Uncertainty / Burnout as a First Year Associate, Burned out at dream job - time for a change?, Career Mistake - Left IB too Soon, Thoughts on Starting Investment Bank/M&A Advisory for my Company, Q&A: 3rd Year PE Associate ($10bn+ AUM, MBO/LBO, equity, mezz, distressed debt)
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