Networking is Broken: 30+ Calls, Zero Value — What Am I Missing?
I’ve had over 30 networking calls in the past year trying to break into investment banking / private equity. And honestly?
I’m starting to think the whole process is broken.
- Every chat feels the same: “I did X → went to Y → now at Z.”
- Advice is copy-paste.
- Zero real insight. Zero real connection. Always chattering about obscure work facts.
Worse? I have no idea how to actually stay in touch. These aren’t mentors or friends — just names in my inbox. Following up feels awkward and forced. Especially in the UK, where people don’t really “check in” unless there’s a reason.
So I need help:
- Am I missing something big here?
- Are others faking it or actually building meaningful relationships?
- How do you make networking not boring — for them and for me?
- And do I really need to stay in touch with everyone I speak to?
Appreciate any honest feedback. I’m genuinely stuck.
The market blows
Nice ChatGPT
Everyone you talk to is just trying to keep their job and the market is cooked
Some calls are shitty and will feel like that, but you need to rely on idiosyncratic opportunity. Ex: I noticed someone I was on a call with had a nice watch that I liked, I complimented him on the watch, we talked about watches for five minutes (I do not even own a watch), and I got the interview.
All you need is one person to advocate for you. Not every call will go well (Lord knows mines certainly didn’t) and that’s okay, just be yourself and remain resilient if you want the opportunity.
Referrals don't really matter in the UK for top banks
Holy ChatGPT
Is this an astroturf lob? No we do not need another tinder attempt for internships/jobs.
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