Recently Been Told I Am Too Competitive Need Genuine Advice
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It isn't your inherit competitiveness that is the problem. The issue, in my opinion, is that when you are constantly foucused on 'winning' whatever it is that is at stake - you neglect everything else - most importantly your relationships with other peoeple.
If you have tunnel vision, you don't see other people nor do you hear or care about their ideas. This makes you come off like a jerk - even if it is not your intention. Interested is interesting.
I have a relative that is a doctor, about to finish his residency .. He's a bright guy clearly, but I do everything I can to avoid him at family events. A 'conversation' with him only involves you asking him medical questions .. he will never ask you a single question ever, not even a token "hey how are you? what's new?" .. So as it is, everyone thinks he's a total asshole. I'm not saying this is your exact situation, but my point is that perception is reality. If you have no interest in people, and give off a superiority complex - they're just not going to like you.
I highly recommend you read the book "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie .. It's a quick read and I think you'll learn a lot, I did.
Different slant here - you are who you are. No reason or need to hide it. Long term you really can't anyway. Why not consider leveraging it? I'm sure there's a place in finance for you. However, why not consider a career in a sales capacity (could be finance or anything). Having worked in sales organizations my whole life, competition is king and winners are rewarded financially and with lots of perks (like exotic trips to world class resorts and an audience with the Firm's CEO and other senior leaders). That competitive drive you have is what's needed to hit and exceed goals. It's very much like competitive sports, striving to be the best and winning.