Feeling Like I don’t fit in (intern)

just do well on the actual intern tasks since that is in ur control

Bump - same situation

Ignore title - culture can be a big thing at many shops, and can be make or break, but at the same time doing good work can usually trump cultural fit issues especially in the beginning of career. Have seen people get FT offers who were not a cultural fit but did good work. Just keep doing the best you can in every task and hope that its appropriately recognised.

sometimes i regret dropping off the corporate track and going to med school but then i read stuff like this and i just feel sad man. why would you ever want to recalibrate your behaviour and mode of thinking for the sake of social validation? i mean of course, to an extent being socially intelligent and appropriate is necessary and being cognisant of that is relevant to any degree of social success, but you do understand with that mindset you will never amount to anything more than an operator. constantly changing behaviours and attitudes for the sake of 'getting in'.

secondly, people tend to be very socially intelligent, especially those in this field. it is quite easy to tell when someone, especially a college aged student is pretending to be something he is not. a trait that almost all human beings share, irrespective of cultural origin, is an involuntary impulse to be at worst distrustful to those that put on masks, and at best pity them for their weakness. 

now that the rant is over, and you probably will not find any of this helpful immediately, until at least you find the strength to be indifferent to how others perceive you, heres how you actually do it: 

1. find someone else that feels the same way you do. impossible that there is no one else, you're just not reading the body language and behavioural mannerisms appropriately at these events to realise that are bound to be those that feel the same way you do, and you're too wrapped up in your head to notice
2. befriend them, or if you're too socially retarded to spot these types, just literally befriend any single person that you connect with on a fundamental basis and dont have to fake anything around. hate to use the word, but use them as social proof to speak to others and befriend them
3. people are invariably drawn to those with strength, confidence, intelligence and above all, those that communicate through their mannerisms and performance, they're capable of extraordinary success. if no one is genuinely interested in you, they dont think you are any of these things - im not surprised, you're posting about how lonely you feel because you think individuals may have snubbed you at a gay little happy hour. sorry that was rude, but you need to understand that genuine confidence is everything and you have to find a way to develop it
4. the fastest way to generate loyalty in a competitive environment is to 1) be extremely fucking competent and 2) be warm. focus on acing every little task that is put forth towards you, dont make that obvious to others because people tend to be put off by strivers, but be genuinely interested and empathic towards others in tandem with just being really good. this is the essence of charisma

tl;dr: develop confidence and empathy

All good. We assume you guys are awkward retards anyways. Won’t be a major factor in your RO decision. Def don’t change who you are to fit in. 

General advice is to let loose a bit and actually be yourself. It will get easier with time. Interns do tend to overcalibrate because they aren’t used to a professional environment.

Don’t think it makes sense that u are dying for a return offer when u cant even get along with the team. Whole point of going back somewhere is because you genuinely enjoyed the job.