Feeling Like I don’t fit in (intern)

It’s not uncommon to feel out of place during the first weeks of an internship, especially in a high-pressure environment like finance. Based on the most helpful WSO content, here’s how you can turn things around and build connections while staying true to yourself:

1. Focus on Being Likeable and Approachable

• You don’t need to force yourself to fit into every social dynamic. Instead, focus on being approachable and genuine. People notice when someone is easy to work with and has a positive attitude.
• If you’re not into sports or beer, that’s fine. Find common ground in other areas—ask about their weekend plans, hobbies, or even their career journey. People love talking about themselves.

2. Engage with Other Interns

• Building relationships with fellow interns is key. They’re in the same boat as you, and forming bonds with them can make the experience more enjoyable. As one WSO thread suggests, helping others and being a team player will get noticed.
• Even small gestures like grabbing coffee together or collaborating on tasks can strengthen these connections.

3. Show Interest in Learning

• Demonstrate curiosity and eagerness to learn. Ask thoughtful questions when shadowing or working with your mentor. As highlighted in WSO advice, intellectual curiosity and taking comprehensive notes can set you apart.
• If your mentor seems distant, don’t take it personally. Instead, find moments to ask for feedback or insights on your work. This shows initiative without being overbearing.

4. Be Proactive but Respectful

• Don’t wait for people to come to you. Politely ask for work or offer to help on projects, but don’t overdo it. As one WSO contributor noted, being proactive and showing you’re serious about your work can make a big difference.

5. Social Events: Quality Over Quantity

• Happy hours can be tricky, but don’t stress about being the life of the party. Focus on having a few meaningful conversations rather than trying to talk to everyone. If a conversation ends, don’t take it personally—move on to someone else or enjoy the event at your own pace.

6. Leverage Your Unique Background

• Coming from a STEM background can be an asset. Highlight your analytical skills or unique perspective when appropriate. As one WSO thread mentioned, finding a unique capability that makes you invaluable can help you stand out.

7. Don’t Overthink Fitting In

• It’s easy to feel like you’re failing if you don’t immediately click with everyone, but remember that fitting in takes time. Focus on doing quality work, being reliable, and showing growth. As WSO advice emphasizes, progression and a positive attitude are often more important than being the most social intern.

8. Assess the Culture

• While you’re working hard to secure a return offer, also take this time to evaluate if this is the right environment for you. As one WSO thread wisely pointed out, internships are as much about you assessing the firm as the firm assessing you.

9. Stay Resilient

• Everyone feels out of place at some point. The key is to keep showing up, learning, and improving. Mistakes or awkward moments are part of the process—own them, learn from them, and move forward.

Remember, you don’t need to change who you are to succeed. Focus on being authentic, hardworking, and open to learning, and the right people will notice. You’ve got this!

Sources: Why do people not get return offers?, How to internally network?, Advice for summer Asset Management interns, Non-Target to MM IB: My Advice