I'm 4 years into my career. Exploring relocation and potentially lateraling into VC/tech, so I've been building connections via Twitter in a specific city and just booked a flight out there for two days to meet with as many people as I can during that time. Everyone I am meeting with knows this.
Just wondering - are there certain unwritten rules on how to handle the bill in this situation? Never met any of these people before and never done this sort of thing, so just curious how everyone would approach this aspect? Offer to pay, offer to split, etc?
Thanks.
I'll offer to pick up the bill if someone has been kind enough to take time out of their day to network with me at my request. This gets a little trickier with someone who is decidedly more senior than you, because he may feel social pressure not to allow someone with lesser means to foot the bill. In this case I'll still offer once because I want to at least make the gesture to acknowledge and thank them, but I won't push it.
This is my exact line of thought - appreciate your opinion!
I will always offer to pay and would be more than willing too.
My general experience is a more senior person would always pick up the tag. You don’t want to persist too much.
Offer to pay since they are doing you the favor. I wouldn't even offer, I'd just try to beat them in line and be the first to the register and then pay for myself and them.
But you are overthinking this as well. Unless they are getting the mocha cookie frappuccino, coffee is ridiculously cheap and it's not a big deal for most people on who pays. SBUX would probably charge $6 for two regular venti coffees.
I always offer by taking out my wallet, but 99.9% of the times I have been rejected. I am sure being a girl in my 20s has something to do with it.
curious - how did you network with people through Twitter? I have never heard of this before.
It really only works if people in the industry you are targeting are on there. Lots of tech/VC/startup world people hang out on Twitter instead of other social networks (more intellectual I guess?), basically talking about tech/startup stuff.
I just kinda found some interesting people, liked some of their tweets I thought were interesting, responded to what they were saying, had some discussions, moved to DM for some.
If you’re interested I can explain a little more in detail/show my twitter in DM. Don’t want to post anything personal publically on WSO.
The person with the (perceived) higher net worth (NOT income) pays the bill.
I always pay unless it's someone coming to me for advice, then I make them pay as it makes them more likely to act on advice. I also purposely go somewhere high-end so they really feel it. Sounds douchey but it's really for their own benefit.
Whoever asks who out.
who pays? (Originally Posted: 03/02/2007)
with interviewers? with associates? with MDs/VPs? with female colleagues?
I know you're gonna just say pay for yourself, but if the other person offers, should you accept?
scratch out female colleagues.
if you want to get ahead or are trying to impress, you always pay.
will higher ups ever take offense if you offer?
what is this for? if you are a candidate and someone takes you out for food, they should pay cause they'll expense it.
Seriously, 9/10 times teh company pays if its sanctioned. Otherwise it's like going out with your freinds.
im talking about once your on the job
So am I. If you have lunch with an MD it'll mostly be a set 'big buddy' type of event where tehre s a set aside budget. Dinner is always expensed etc.
If you go out with an analyst buddy or associate to grab some food you pay for yourself unless someone offers. It'll be rare going out for dinner with an MD outside of work. If you do - he'll most likely offer to pay - if he doesn't pay for yourself.
I always offer to pay. As someone who is networking for a penultimate internship, typically the people I am meeting are either senior associate, VP, or MD, and 100% of the time they have footed the bill. Even if I don't know them (not a female). I guess its because your a 'broke college student' and they are giving back or something idk. Try and say are you sure like once, and if they say they got it then they got it, never push it gives a weird vibe. Good q tho, and interesting about the Twitter approach.
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