Based only on experience, do you recommend using dating apps? If yes, which one do you choose?
Currently a student & working full-time. I'll finish up my internship next week so lots of free time to do something *fun*. Bars aren't cutting it for me, shitty places with hostile people all over.
I've been lurking around this forum for a long time, I've seen advice from the brofessor and others on here that I adapted to my life, so I think I'm minimally good to go. Fretting about getting ghosted and ignored ofc but quitters can't be winners.
Do you think dating apps are worth it? Which one do you recommend?
tinder to hook up easy just keep swiping and add them on snap
hell yea.
Use Hinge. Tinder is/was dead in every city and only filled with community college trash. So unless you want to hook up with a single mother of 2 who moonlights as a waffle house waitress, get off Tinder.
The dating app validation from hundreds of chicks sending you messages is a pretty nice high
I keep hearing that but there's a significant portion on the other side that claim all they get on dating apps is dead silence. What's with this contrast? Are they just terrible men?
Those guys, and it is the vast majority (80%+) of men, fall into two camps when it comes to dating apps:
1. "terrible" men. Guys that dont pass the sniff test. In bad shape, losers, just weird, etc.
and
2. Guys that dont know how to sell themselves. Most guys fall in this camp. They are otherwise fine dudes but just dont know how women work. Dont know what appeals to them, dont know how to talk to them/flirt with them (in a way that builds attraction), dont know how to build a profile
Fortunately most guys fall in group 2
Tinder
Any advice on how to sort the photos or bio? Ik it's pathetic to ask this but I have nowhere else to vibe atm
Turn on smart photos
what are your pictures right now? Dont need to share images online with strangers (I wouldnt either) but in terms of what's going on with them? can be helpful
What kind of bars are you going to that are “filled with hostile people”? I’d like to think I have most of the green flags girls look for, and I’ve used Hinge for over a year in two major cities. With that said, I haven’t had much success with it other than hookups that I tend to cut off soon after. I’ve had the most success with just going out with a big group of friends (guys and girls), and meeting new girls that someone invited out. I think the “hostile bar” thing is because you’re in college still. I haven’t felt that as a mid-20s in the cities I’ve lived in.
Yes technically you're right. I'm in western Europe, all the bars I go to are packed with students. It's not like I'm a deformed person, I have a great body but I tend to be overdressed so it's not shown. Also poor so not fancy clothes. Girls are hostile to loners, and now I fully recognise I have no fucking business going to a bar alone lol. I'm not that fluent in the local language either so stutters discourage me. Yeah girls find that creepy. I'm hoping this would change when I start working next summer though
Biggest issue is that not that tall, I'm only 177cm (I guess it's 5'9" but not precisely sure).
In my non-professional opinion, and judging from this comment and what you chose as your username, I’m going to guess that you lack confidence/are insecure, which is going to hurt your chances with girls no matter what you look like or how you talk. Figure out what boosts your confidence and make an effort to put time into those things. For me, as a decent looking and in-shape guy, I still get insecure at times, but I feel much more confident when I workout consistently, have a fresh haircut, and wear clothes that I like. Find the recipe that works for you and then just focus on hanging out with friends. Girls are attracted to a guy that is confident with himself. As a side tip, I saw a girl that had a prompt on Hinge that said she’s new to the city and just looking for fun friends. I actually respected that and invited her out. Maybe you can do the same and look for friends that speak your first language.
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Yes, for two reasons:
1. You talk to girls during time you'd otherwise spend jerking off, watching TV, playing video games. It's not gonna get in the way of you meeting girls irl
2. Matching means you are mutually attracted to each other, and within a few messages you can discuss what type of relationship you're looking for and so forth. This saves a lot of time.
3. You meet people outside your usual circles.
Personally I think they're very worth it, caveat that they only work in major cities (NYC/LA/London are all great)
I've gotten the vast majority of my dates from hinge + bumble for the past 5 years post college. probably average 26 first dates per year.
Before you say it clearly doesnt work for relationships, thats more about me moving all the time for work.
Don't know what guys who "get no matches" are talking about. I probably average 7 matches per week. I'm pretty overweight so I'm definitely no male model, altho I am white, 5'11", pretty good face aside from the chub. You do need to: 1. have a cute dog/cat pic 2. have a friend take quality pics for the whole profile 3. write a long bio aimed at women (highlight interest in things women like, maintain an upbeat mildly humorous tone)
I grew up with cats as my only siblings. My mom has 16 cats, I have a photo with all of them that I defo plan to include it
I like pussy cats too.
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