Bored of long term relationships

In every relationship I have had so far (I am in my late 20s so around 6-7), I got bored after a year.

I am currently with a 10 that is fully supporting me through my IB late nights and loves me deeply.

I still though want to have sex with every 5 or 6 I see in the street or bar.

How do people get married or have long term relationships?

Is this feeling common?

P. S. I understand that WSO isn't a place to post such relationships though it does have to do with life outside banking.

 
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Just be up front about that you want to fuck other girls and will be doing so. Men have a biological desire to smash as many women as possible and spread their seed. Completely normal. If you're high value enough and a baller, your gf will accept it and look the other way as long as you come back to her and provide for her. Some girls may not be down with that arrangement though, so you have to be prepared to lose them.

Don't cheat and do it behind their back though. That's some coward shit. Never get married, at least through the state. Dumbest idea to sign a contract with someone who's incentivized to break it. Not against marriage as an institution but never involve the state with your dick. There's nothing you can't do in a relationship that marriage through the state specifically gives you.

Anyone who says they are a one woman guy and love monogamy are fucking full of shit. If their wife or girlfriend said they could fuck other girls and wouldn't leave them, most guys would smash other girls. If these dudes had absolute bombshell Instagram models hitting them in dms wanting to fuck, no way in hell they would say no. Maybe they wouldn't seek out girls but if a baddie threw themselves at them, they wouldn't refuse.

Most guys are monogamous out of necessity because that's the only way they can lock down consistent sex. I bet if a guy could have a relationship with a girl he loved and fuck bitches on the side, most would prefer that. Doesn't mean you don't love your girl. Once again, it's just a biological urge for guys. No emotion involved. As long as you're providing for your main chick and taking care of her in all areas of life, who cares?

 

I say this with the utmost respect. Go to therapy and try to understand why you feel that way and, if you want, how to change those feelings. It is totally normal to see people on the streets and think that they are attractive or feel some physical attraction towards them. What seems to be more pressing is that you are not able to let go of that and cannot maintain your current relationships. 

 

If you want one of those Andrew Tate relationships, you must be upfront first. It's not going to work if you've dated a woman for a long time, got her used to monogamy, and then try to switch up on her halfway through the relationship. There are a lot of women that would be ok with you sleeping with other women as long as you don't embarrass them. Many would even respect honesty, but you gotta be in a position that it's worth sharing you with other women.

And if you go to see a therapist, get a male therapist. The last thing you want to do is be analyzed, criticized, lectured, judged, or shamed by a woman that doesn't understand your desires or what it means to be a man. If you walk in there and tell most women that you love your girl, but you want to sleep with other women, then she will think you're a barbarian who needs to be cured of his testosterone. You don't necessarily need to be "fixed," you may just need to find a partner that accepts you for you and your desires. Maybe a woman that wouldn't mind joining in. Have you ever had a girl pull a girl for you?

 

1 thing i agreed with you is we have busy life in financial industry. That's what make me don't want to go into traditional relationship patterns. Which take times and by the time you got her, you might already starting to feel bored. i am a simple guy who want to cut those crap, by that, sugar dating is my choice. i choose my partner, set my terms, decide when to start and end. All in my choice.

 

I don't know what it is with females

But I'm not too good at that shit

See, I could have me a good girl

And still be addicted to them hood rats

And I just blame everything on you

At least you know that's what I'm good at

And I always find

Yeah, I always find

Yeah, I always find somethin' wrong

“The three most harmful addictions are heroin, carbohydrates, and a monthly salary.” - Nassim Taleb
 

You’re not with a 10, because 10s don’t exist. Maybe you’re with a 9.2 or 9.3.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

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