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This is real easy, man. 32 is still young. If you’re not attracted to her now, don’t date her. A cool girl who you’re not attracted to is called a friend. You want someone who you think is attractive at 25, 35, 45, 55, etc.
Please don't waste her time
Why do you switch to her point of view instead of OP's, she's not the one seeking advice here
She's 32 bro, you're wasting precious years of her life. The fact that you're making this post gives you the answer you're looking for lmao
Ask her what are the 2 numbers that follow 4 and 5
Hmmmm, tbh by the way you formulated your post, it is not clear whether you are not attracted to her because of her looks or because of her age.
If you are not attracted to her physically, this is a big problem. Over time, physically intimacy will completely evaporate and you will eventually cheat on her unfortunately and / or break up. Physical intimacy is a big part of every romantic relationship, just like emotional intimacy. From my experience, physical attraction also can not be built, unlike emotional intimacy, trust and care for your partner.
However, to play devil's advocate here, based on your formulation, it sounds as if you are not attracted to her because of her age. You have stated yourself, that other than that, she basically checks all the boxes for you. I would think very carefully about jeopardizing something like that if she is indeed special to you in all the other aspects. It sounds as if you feel embarrassed by her age and are looking for a younger girl, just for the sake of her being younger. I would strongly advice against that, if you really think that this woman fits your criteria in all other aspects.
One aspect not to neglect of course is also the consideration of starting a family. Her being 32 already unfortunately makes things a bit time-sensitive in this regards (because of biological reasons), so you would have to think about whether you will want to start a family eventually. Because there is a real possibility that with this woman, you will have to start thinking about that sooner rather than later. If you are not ready for that anytime soon, but she expressed something along those lines, it is best not to waste her time.
does she want to start a family and have kids?
You stringing her along is fucked up if so.
Otherwise if she is cool just be a friend you fuck sometimes have at it man.
But if you want something serious as well with someone more attractive then stop messing her around
"She is also kind and caring"
Like a mommy right?
When I was young a wise old uncle told me that dating anyone over 30 is like buying a used car. No matter how nice it looks / feels to drive, there's always a reason someone else stepped out of it.
Just remember. A 32 year old woman in the city is a former 25 year old that was just like the girls you referenced (i.e., more stuck up), and now their clock is ticking. You're young and there are many, many other women around. Don't string her along
Unc just dropped a bar
This logic doesn’t track for one simple reason - women may control the market for dating, but men control the market for marriage. So they can be picky until there’s no men to marry them because they line those young women
Ok bro….break up with her? What am I missing?
Men used to go to war, now they need an Adderall Script and the WSO forum to make basic life decisions.
Brother you are 25 and dating a women that's approaching her mid 30s? Really hope you're not in NYC... She's through her party girl phase and now probably looking to settle down, sounds like you aren't so consider doing both of you a favor and break it off. She's got a limited window to find someone to start a family with and it's super shitty to keep stringing her along if you know she ain't the one. Plus, this isn't rocket science dude - if you're not attracted to her wtf are you doing?
There's no point being made by these pictures... You must be a chick or a male feminist because this and your other dozen comments reek of feminine emotional projection. Listen buddy, if you have mommy issues or are attracted to older women that's completely your prerogative so you're free to pursue whatever kind of women revs your engine. But none of this argues or proves why OP, a man in his biological prime should continue to date a woman almost a decade his senior who he's already stated he isn't attracted to hahaha
Yes, OP will probably lose some hair and look "worse" than he does now in 15-20+ years. He'll also have potentially have 10x'd his net worth and achieved some level of mastery in his career... This particular photo isn't even bad, that's an in-shape and highly successful father. The shocking truth - people age after a couple of decades - more news at 11.
Just start taking SSRI antidepressants, that way you won't be physically attracted to anyone anyway
Women typically date older. There's probably something there you're not seeing. Don't let her try to rush/trap you into a family you don't want because she's on a clock. It doesn't get better from here. It's not like she's going to get younger and more attractive.
I believe this is a misconception spread by older men so that they can secure access to the most amount of women.
Now with the shift in earnings, status, power, maturity, and social aptitude in favor of younger men vs older men, the playing field has changed in the dating world.
A smart, sweet, and fun man in his mid to late 20s could potentially never experience life without a date, a woman to cuddle, and a woman that will tell him he is amazing. Haha
Mommy?
Good news, 32 is right when they start getting hotter
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Wait. You don't actually say in the post that she's unattractive. You simply say younger women are more attractive. There is a giant difference between those two.
If you don't feel physical attraction to your girlfriend, then don't date her. It's unfair to both of you, and you shouldn't be with someone you don't find attractive.
If you feel like there area lot of other hot women you'd like to be sleeping with, well... that's life. I still would break up with woman, because you're wasting her time - you have some maturing to do before you are ready to date someone seriously.
holy moly
Dump her yesterday. She’s got like 5 seconds left on her clock don’t waste it bro.
ew 32
Aint u pushing 40?
haha yeah but I want to have a lot of kids.
If you do not like how she looks, it is time to move on. Go find someone else.
No go
Be like leo. Once they get to 25, run. Law of diminishing returns or smth
I would have to put this one in the category of yikes.
You have to be genuinely physically and emotionally attracted to her.
The longer you go without breaking it off (if this is how you truly feel) will only waste more of the both of yours’ time
Well, she's certainly ambitious lol
This.
Let them hoard all the 32 year olds they want bro
Congrats on being a cougar with a chip on your shoulder!
Reading these comments reminded me that many folks here are either short-sighted or viewing things from a singular perspective. There's a subtle line between physical attraction and lust. The way you're speaking seems as though it may be blurred a little.
I hate to break it to you, but looks fade and once you've dated the same person for 2+ years and that initial chemistry or curiousity has waned, you're left with the person on good days and bad days. I don't know you nor the nature of the relationship, but if your sole criteria is whether you find this individual attractive, it's very narrow in view. You may find someone in their twenties to have fun with for a few years, but it's hard to connect emotionally and on a deeper level with just anyone.
If you've contemplated the physical chemistry is a deal-breaker, then be honest and break it off before investing further in the relationship.
Every good looking guy in their 20s wants to date a good looking girl.
Hes in finance not charity lol
NYU brooklyn artsy girl >>> 30 yr old Becky from Marketing
Read this and weep you half-witted Karen.
Tomorrow I can have sex with a 21y/o NYU sorority girl called Sarah who plays tennis and grew up the same as me i.e upper middle class/private schools/ trust fund etc. About 65% of my male friends could also do this and the rest would have to put in a lil work. None of us (all in our 20's) have health problems bcoz we are perfect WASPs.
Sarah's body (i.e her health) is a veritable Rolls-Royce compared to a 32 y/o Becky in Marketing, still left on the lot, regardless if Becky "takes care of herself".
Sarah and Becky's ages are always 11 years apart which means ceteris paribus, Sarah will always beat Becky in health terms and will always be hotter.
I'm sure that a WASP chad would think its sad a woman is even on this site.
All of that and yet they still live substantially longer than men.
this entire thread is disgusting
I can't imagine being with someone long term and not finding them physically attractive. That's going to lead to you cheating on her.
That's an age gap too. My wife is 3 years older than me, but I'm not sure I would consider marriage with someone 5+ years older than me.
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