How depressed do you think that this date is?
Hello, A couple of weeks ago I went on a date with a woman. She is in her twenties and I am somewhere between 30-35 years old. Before we met she texted me the following: Are you sure you want to meet me?
I have lots of scars and I am fat. I have warned you.
I went on a date with her and I really liked her and I want to continue dating her. After a couple of days she told me that she was struggelig with depression.
She said she said that she was "far down and the she thought that it would not be good to wake up tomorrow." Me: If you have suicide thoughts you should contact the emergency room. Her: I am okay. Me. It is great to hear that you do not have suicide thoughts. She: I dont know. The day after she applogised for last night.
After a cuple of days I asked her how serious her depression is and she replied that it was not serious. However, I think that she just downplays her depression so that she seems more attractive to me. As I think that she sensed that it made me less interested in her after she told me that "she did not want to wake up" some days earlier. Both her and I are interested in having two kids in the future.
How depressed do you think that this woman is? If I get her pregnant with two children can her depression be worse and can her depression affect the future children?
Thank you very much for answering. Have a great day.
Edit: In case you are interested to learn about the possible effects of childbirth on new mothers, look up the terms "baby blues" and "postpartum depression".
What in the actual fuck?
On a more serious note; No. You should get her pregnant. No way the kids will be affected. That's also a great idea for a second date - impregnate her. Two children will cure her depression. The first one might get her even more down, but you must persist. It is always darkest before the dawn. Two is the answer to all of her problems.
What in the actual fuck?
You're encouraging him to get her pregnant? "You should get her pregnant?" Sarcasm I hope.
The children could be affected. Not sure where you're getting any of this.
"Clinical depression, also known as major depressive disorder, is the most common form of depression. The Stanford School of Medicine estimates that 10 percent of Americans will experience this type of depression at some point in their lives. This type is also more likely to be shared by siblings and children. A person with a relative who suffers from depression is almost five times as likely to develop it."
https://www.healthline.com/health/depression/genetic
Sorry, I thought my sarcasm was easy to spot.
what the fuck did i just read
This sounds super foreign lmao
Current depression * (postpartum depression * 2) = murderous rampage Columbine-style
Seconded don’t risk being with her while she also has postpartum depression ..
just move on. u don't have to be political correct in your dating life. she's trouble.
PS "contact the emergency room" is such stupid advice if someone says they have suicidal thoughts. first off try to listen and help, and then maybe mention it later along with psychotherapy. say it worked for close friends of yours or something like that so she feels normal. nowadays a lot of millennials have issues with mental health. Look over your "white knight" syndrome - you won't fix her. Just move on and find someone more stable...
Run and never look back!
I can imagine you want to help her and make her feel better. But this kind of depressions can be very hard to cure. Ask her if it's temporary or she deals with this kind of depressions for whole her (mature)life.
serieusly?
Isaiah?
Depending on the pregnancy and her level of stress during and after the pregnancy, unipolar postpartum depression or bipolar postpartum depression are possible.
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/27982293/
Postpartum Depression: Bipolar or Unipolar? Analysis of 434 Polish Postpartum Women
You should honestly really think about how her depression might affect your household. You're not feeling it now, but by being with her, in the long-term, you might also become depressed or get tired of how negative or insecure she is about herself.
You should really try to help her out by making her see a therapist or someone who can help her. Many times, these people won't even go to get help because they are afraid of showing weakness and that they need help.
Ultimately, as bad as it sounds, I don't know if it really makes sense to stay with someone like this. Your kids will also feel their mother's depression and will be negatively affected by it. Think about it: if your mom was depressed all of your life, wouldn't you also feel worse about yourself and feel pity towards your mother? Mothers are supposed to be the kids' go-to when they need help or need love, not the other way around.
man whatever it is i can PROMISE you that pussy is gonna be fire psycho chicks hitttt
It’s noble of you to want to save somebody, but you should not enter into a relationship yet. If the self is not taken care of, true love cannot be extended. If she works through her problems, maybe she can be a good companion, but she needs to help her “self” first imo
She can possibly have depression after giving birth (postpartum depression).
I would have bailed on "I am fat"
Are you a virgin op?
No, I am not a virgin.
Don't build a relationship based on being a saviour/white knight. I know it's very appealing for some reason because you think she will somehow see you are her light forever after. But most likely she will either drag you into her darkness, or "realize" she doesn't really like you that much because her judgement was just clouded by her depression and she was just looking for any branch to catch while falling.
My friend, if she hinted at suicide and after your ER advice she said "I'm OK" and you simply went "Great to hear you don't have suicide thoughts" you have autism on steroids. This is clearly a broken woman who needs a strong emotional anchor of a companion rather than someone who can lay a crispy pickle in her a pop out a kid or two. If anything, I would say you are definitely not for her. She needs someone else.
I do not have autism at all and I am very socially smart.
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