How do you feel about friends dating exes?
Exes of short/long term relationships. Is it against "guy code" to date friend's exes? Thoughts? Curious how others feel.
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Very strongly against it. Only exception is if there really is a very strong and genuine emotional connection between the two parties. But outside of that? 100% no.
If you live in a small town and it's a necessity, I get it. If you're living in a major metro area doing IB, find someone else. Plenty of fish in the sea. No need to get your bro's on the rebound.
Go look at people from your hometown and you’ll see new relationships happening all the tome out of the same 100 person dating pool that existed in high school lmao
Not a “friend”, dude is a snake waiting on your downfall
I break up with most of the chicks I date, so not sure how its my downfall. I'm fine with it.
Your call but I personally can’t trust a dude who chases after a girl I just dated, considering he’s a “friend”. Doesn’t matter who broke up with who. The girl is irrelevant at this point. To me, that “friend” is just an opportunist waiting for an opening.. similar to a sharp elbow colleague who undermines others to get ahead
Against it. It shows they don't value their friendship and are willing to jeopardize it for some pussy.
The Bro Code - Article 150: “No sex with your Bro’s ex”
Don't care. We're not dating anymore. If my bro wants to take my ex, go right ahead. Who am I to stop someone from finding true love because we dated in the past? Disclaimer, I say this haven't ever experienced that but if it does, I won't be mad at all. Think about it like this, say you break up with a girl and the next month, you're at a bar and come across a girl you really like (love at first sight or some shit). The girl ends up being friends with your ex. Is it fair that you now lose the potential woman of your dreams to two adults that are unable to be mature about the situation?
So you’re telling me you date a girl for 1-2 years, break up, and your friend who you’ve known longer than you’ve dated the girl, starts dating her.. you still trust that guy and want to be build a social life with him in your inner circle, and maybe partner with for investment opportunities down the road?
Not trying to debate just want to understand. I think there’s a big difference between my question above, and a girl you were hooking up with for a few weeks. If a girl you were just hooking up with, then yeah totally agree who cares
IDK man... I see where you're coming from but if the relationship is truly over, why would I be mad?
I would understand if say I was still in love with that woman and my "bro" knew that and still dated her but if we're done, we're done. Who gives a shit? Not me.
Eh, I personally wouldn’t mind, but I suppose it depends on how close of a friend and the reason for the breakup.
I would never be in a long term relationship with someone I didn’t like and feel was a very good person. Breaking up is due to a lack of compatibility between us, not because the other person is an awful person. If an ex girlfriend discovers after that she is more compatible with my friend, then I’m happy to see my friend end up with someone I know is truly a good person.
However, if your ex breaks up with you BECAUSE they are in love with your friend … well ... not sure I would be on board with continuing that friendship.
Definitely not unless you're in a really small town. Your friends can find other girls to date vs. the girl you had strong feelings for years. Unless there's truly a lack of options (only in the case of small village / town), they can find other people
Related question: How would you feel about friends dating your sister?
Depends what part of the country I was in because I might also be dating my sister
Clearly a no go zone, and only do it if you value the girl more than your friend. Pretty intuitive but hey a lot of Gen Z and Millennial guys are absolute weasels these days.
Even if your friend gives you his blessing there is a good chance he is doing so to appear ok, but really wouldnt be ok with it - especially if a LTR. I mean either she broke things off with him and that will likely always eat at him to some degree, or vice versa - and if so why would he want to see her when you two hang out.
If it was a short term relationship aka 1-2 month type hookup thing with no collateral damage/feelings hurt and it is blatantly obvious that's the case then still talk to him about it but you might have a legit opening. Other than that, stop being such a thirsty bitch beta male and realize there are other fish in the sea
Had a 'friend' pull this shit on me where he started hanging out with my ex that I had dated for like 2 years. He one day texted me and asked me if I cared if he tried to clap her cheeks. I told him I don't give a shit even though I knew it would piss me off. Who am I to tell ppl who they can and can't hang out with. I guess he at least checked with me before he decided to engage in his shit behavior. But even him needing to check if something was alright should have told him it was scummy behavior. I no longer hang out with him (years later) unless it is in my larger friend group because I just think he is a slime ball even though I couldn't care less about the whole situation at this point. Maybe I'm just a bitch, but I think talking to your friends ex is some desperate for pussy bullshit and I would personally never even consider doing it to any of my friends. When my buddy and a girl break up, that girl is essentially dead to me. Even if their ex was margot robbie....
That is true friendship, you take you're friend's side unquestioningly. You can talk to them about reservations & stuff, but that's private and only for their greater good.
To go the extreme end and go date the girl your friend had a deep emotional connection to is massively f*cked up. At the very best, it means your friend really doesn't care about you which doesn't bode well for the friendship. I'd probably never speak to a friend who pulled this
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