12 Comments
 

Very relatable and have worked on this over the past year. I also came from a relatively small midwestern town (20k). It really started with getting in shape (have lost 20lbs since college and noticed I get more looks), stop caring and being direct in anything (to a point), and honestly getting closer in my faith. Also pinning down what your purpose is (why do you do what you do) is key. I joined a boxing gym as well, which was a huge booster. I wrestled for 5 years so I always had confidence in strength but it’s different now mentally. I feel better, I move better, I carry myself different. When it came to work product, I stopped putting people on a pedestal (sometimes telling yourself you dgaf what they think) and more so trusted my skills and analysis and talked with confidence. This one’s huge, if you can back your view with sensible points, and speak with conviction, it really helps. Even if you may be wrong, people respect someone who has their own viewpoint / confidence. Mesh those things together day by day, and you’ll start to see what I mean. When it came to chicks, I stopped having that voice in the back of my head and started flowing with my thoughts to however I wanted. Hard to describe this one. Lastly, started picking up hobbies (I.e, watches, cars, general learning) to have more substance in conversations. People like someone they can relate too

 

Having a consistent workout routine - whether that's running, lifting, hybrid, whatever - improves your brain chemistry and makes you feel more sure of yourself. Consistency is key. 

Cleaning up your diet goes hand in hand with training and will also make you feel much better about yourself. 

Finally any form of delayed gratification signals to your brain "we're good at working now for a better payoff later" which increases self respect. 

 
Most Helpful

Confidence is built by living up to your standards

If you believe that eating healthy is important, and you don't do it, that's a small mental failure. If you do it, that's a small dopamine hit/win = the 'winning' personality shines = the confident personality. 

The more standards you have (workking out/social/intellectual, etc.) the wider are the swings both up and down in terms of confidence. If you're failing 10 habits daily that you think are important for you, then you'll feel a bit defeated. If you manage to do them, then you'll feel good and your confident personality will come out. 

Nothing complicated, general advice on how to be confident is just generic mainstream talk

incentives trumph ethics
 

Gym and working hard?By anchoring your confidence on stuff like ur physique and achievements will give you a layer of the fake confidence that the secular success requires. But ultimately, confidence is just another kind of delusion that's gonna amount to nothing.

 

Voluptatem labore voluptates sunt voluptatem amet omnis. Similique vel aliquam est ipsum. Laudantium quibusdam consequatur similique aut voluptatem eum quo.

Atque dolores sapiente deleniti rerum debitis. Sit numquam sed similique explicabo odio ut repudiandae neque. Alias nostrum dignissimos veniam consequuntur enim quas ut.

Facere beatae veniam eveniet id cum ratione commodi hic. Maiores est sequi ut laboriosam similique quos dolore. Inventore ad sed quis ex. Ipsum dolore maxime quo fuga.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

Career Advancement Opportunities

August 2026 Investment Banking

  • Evercore 01 99.4%
  • Moelis & Company 01 98.9%
  • JPMorgan 01 98.3%
  • Morgan Stanley 08 97.8%
  • Goldman Sachs 02 97.2%

Overall Employee Satisfaction

August 2026 Investment Banking

  • Moelis & Company No 99.4%
  • Evercore No 98.9%
  • Morgan Stanley 01 98.3%
  • Banco Santander 02 97.8%
  • BMO Capital Markets 12 97.2%

Professional Growth Opportunities

August 2026 Investment Banking

  • Evercore 01 99.4%
  • Moelis & Company 01 98.9%
  • Morgan Stanley 06 98.3%
  • Goldman Sachs 01 97.8%
  • JPMorgan 01 97.2%

Total Avg Compensation

August 2026 Investment Banking

  • Vice President (16) $429
  • Associates (47) $258
  • 3rd+ Year Analyst (8) $210
  • 2nd Year Analyst (25) $178
  • Intern/Summer Associate (14) $159
  • 1st Year Analyst (83) $151
  • Intern/Summer Analyst (74) $101
notes
16 IB Interviews Notes

“... there’s no excuse to not take advantage of the resources out there available to you. Best value for your $ are the...”

Leaderboard

1
redever's picture
redever
99.2
2
kanon's picture
kanon
99.0
3
BankonBanking's picture
BankonBanking
99.0
4
Secyh62's picture
Secyh62
99.0
5
dosk17's picture
dosk17
98.9
6
CompBanker's picture
CompBanker
98.9
7
GameTheory's picture
GameTheory
98.9
8
DrApeman's picture
DrApeman
98.9
9
Betsy Massar's picture
Betsy Massar
98.9
10
Jamoldo's picture
Jamoldo
98.8
success
From 10 rejections to 1 dream investment banking internship

“... I believe it was the single biggest reason why I ended up with an offer...”