How many guys do you think the average 21-23 year old woman has slept with?

I think around 20-30 guys. This accounts for high school, college (mostly freshman year), Spring break trips, summer time, etc.. Then when they turn 21, going out to the bars basically a few days a week during their Junior and senior year.

What do you think?

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average number of sexual partners by age 25

Her's an interesting info graphic that displays average number of sexual partners by age group. More thatn half of women between the age of 16 and 24 have 10 or sexual partners..

Some thoughts on on the topic from the community.

from certified user @TNA"

The average person sleeps with maybe 10 people over their life.

I sincerely doubt the vast majority of people on this board have slept with more people than they can count on one hand. By the sheer number of posts regarding this asinine topic I'd say probably less.

from certified user @Isaiah_53_5" "

Girls really start to get high numbers mid to late 20s. For the hot ones 30s and then when 35 hits and they are still single, they start to get desperate so start racking it up as well.

So 25 - 35 is really prime for women.

Higher numbers in bigger cities. Big cities provide anonymity and promiscuity.


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SirTradesaLot:
Mean or median? I think there's a huge difference.

SirTrades brings up a good point. You all are forgetting that the world has a limited population, so the average number of sex partners is the same for men and women. The median, on the other hand, is likely very different.

Think about it on a smaller scale. Say there are 10 men and 10 women in the population, and each man has on average slept with 3 women. This means that sex has been had with a unique woman 30 times. So, no matter how you split it up between the women (e.g. 30 for one woman, 15 for 2 women, 3 for each, etc.), the average is still 3. But the median is completely different, depending on how slutty some women are or how prudish others are. So I'd say the average is useless, because the outliers fuck it up.

leveragealltheway:
I just cant imagine that all the girls I've been with found me that special to be 1 of their 5.

haha that's a funny thought

 

20 - 30 as the average? No way. Average is probably more like 3 - 5 or 6 - 10.

The most I've ever heard of by that age was a girl who probably was up around 100, but she was literally the all-time exception. Other people that were on the high end were closer to 50.

 

can we stop using the word slutty, its sad stop judging people , you have no idea why they had sex with so many people maybe they gone through someshit , your number doesnt fucking matter ! do you ladies just be safe while doing it and fuck what anyone has to say!!

 
packmate:
believe it or not, most girls aren't that slutty
I literally only signed up to this thing because of these comments. I have been with 12 guys and I hate myself every day for it. I do an insane amount of legal exercises because mentally I want to take it all back but I can’t. Here’s the thing. Whether men want to admit it or not women have been put in situations where it’s either put out or get hurt (yes it happens and unless it’s happened to you don’t you dare try and argue” I’m talking about dates that end up going bad. Now I’ve lived in Australia, Ireland, America and now Italy, 0 guys in Ireland, 2 in America, 1 in Italy and the rest in Australia (boyfriends and so on) after Losing My Virginity at the age of 19 I was dumped. My second boyfriend decided to get back with his ex, 3rd left the country without telling anyone. So my question is. How is it always the woman’s responsibility? Yes I understand girls can act slutty. I see girls all the time, but I also know girls who have been with many men who have class and dignity. It’s time you people start thinking about people’s personal situations as well because if my first boyfriend didn’t dump me I would still be down to 1, 4 Years later because love or whatever. Anyways it comes down to slutty being an act or attitude. Not the number of guys because “believe it or not” guys can be absolute dicks who don’t see women giving you intimate access to their bodies as a gift. Shit on me all you want but you know I’m right.
 

20 to 30 by the age of 21-23 seems really really high to me. Maybe I just don't hang around a slutty enough crowd of women, I guess.

I'll be 25 in a few months so I mostly associate with women in that age range (more toward the older end now, though) and from my observations 10-12 is average to slightly above average while 4-6 is pretty much the lower end. So I guess 6 to 9 is a fairly respectable number. Pun intended.

[quote=patternfinder]Of course, I would just buy in scales. [/quote] See my WSO Blog | my AMA
 

Actually. Thinking more about it. I'd say 3 - 6 is the most common range. 6 - 10 after that. 10 - 15 or so after that isn't totally unreasonable. But, we're talking about someone who more or less just finished college, not even someone who has spent a few years working in the real world, or what not.

 

Are we talking Greek or no? Because the women of Greeklife are incredibly sexually entrepreneurial, whereas the average geed female is going to have maintained a substantially lower body count. That will heavily predicate the number during the college years. I think everyone tapers off after college.

I am permanently behind on PMs, it's not personal.
 

Another post of this sorts. The average person sleeps with maybe 10 people over their life.

I sincerely doubt the vast majority of people on this board have slept with more people than they can count on one hand. By the sheer number of posts regarding this asinine topic I'd say probably less.

 
TNA:
Another post of this sorts. The average person sleeps with maybe 10 people over their life.

I sincerely doubt the vast majority of people on this board have slept with more people than they can count on one hand. By the sheer number of posts regarding this asinine topic I'd say probably less.

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BTbanker:
OP, you're are so disconnected with society. Even the the frat rat sorostitutes I know have probably only spread their legs 10 times for full on coitus.

This is true. Although, there was one girl who allowed (separately, not gang bang style) four guys to hit it during one night at my fraternity's halloween party a few years ago. SMH -- She didn't even transfer. I would've been out of school so quick.

[quote=patternfinder]Of course, I would just buy in scales. [/quote] See my WSO Blog | my AMA
 

I disagree. I'm in college, an attractive girl, and have definitely slept with more then 10guys. Most of my girlfriends are there too. Would still date a girl if she told you this, or rather I lie? Because I can guarantee most girls just lie.

 
yeahright:

People saying 10-20 are smoking some breaking bad quality stuff

I would argue a number around 10 isn't even slutty. Getting up toward the twenties, though, is a different story.

Assumptions:

1 or 2 guys in HS.

These days once a guy and girl have been "talking" or dating for a month or so sex is kind of expected. In some cases it is even a "put out or get out" scenario. Rightly or wrongly, it just becomes an expectation in many cases. Therefore, let's assume a girl "talks" to or dates a guy for at least a few months each semester. That is 8 guys over a college career. And that doesn't even account for any random drunken bad decisions, spring break "just because I can" sluttiness or summer break. Of course, if a girl dates a guy for an extended period of time during college that will most likely bring the overall number down, but 10 guys throughout high school and college doesn't really gross me out or cause concern when evaluating whether or not to date her.

[quote=patternfinder]Of course, I would just buy in scales. [/quote] See my WSO Blog | my AMA
 

Wow, you've just eliminated 20% of the population for yourself. And with that attitude your odds weren't looking too good to begin with.

 
DaisukiDaYo:
I've known people (albeit with quite a bit of game) who've hit it 7-8 times a semester. I feel like this thread is for people who just wait for slutty girls, as opposed to actually talking to women and actually making attempts.

We are talking about the average girl. Not the people you've known to hit it 7-8 times a semester. I know girls and guys that are well into the 30+ range but the average is definitely not anything near this.

Edit: Just saw your new reply, yes girls... no way its anywhere near 20 on average.

Frank Sinatra - "Alcohol may be man's worst enemy, but the bible says love your enemy."
 
yeahright:
DaisukiDaYo:
I've known people (albeit with quite a bit of game) who've hit it 7-8 times a semester. I feel like this thread is for people who just wait for slutty girls, as opposed to actually talking to women and actually making attempts.

We are talking about the average girl. Not the people you've known to hit it 7-8 times a semester. I know girls and guys that are well into the 30+ range but the average is definitely not anything near this.

Edit: Just saw your new reply, yes girls... no way its anywhere near 20 on average.

Yea just saw your post and your edit - in that case it's going to be low single digits - I don't think the majority of girls are sluts.

 

Maybe 30 at the high end is a bit high, but I still think its somewhere around 20.

Just think about it. 4 years of college. Most girls enter college with some type of previous sexual history. But if you assume they are a virgin, all it takes is 5 guys a year just to reach 20 guys. Obviously girls dont stop getting laid once they go home from school, so then you have to account for that too. Sure it depends on the type of girl, but everyone loves to have sex.

 
BTbanker:
MomentaLaugh:
what do you think the answer would be for guys?
If you're a guy at a Big10 school, go out regularly, I'd say 4-5 girls per semester is normal.

Maybe on the wildest semester. People on this site act like you take the skin boat to tuna town once then never talk to a chick again.

I'd say the average guy could pull 2-3 a semester if he truly had a complete aversion to being locked down.

We are talking average, not your friend who thinks it's awesome to lay pipe on a different 4 every weekend instead of consistently having the same 7 take a ride on the bologna pony.

 

State school greek right in your age range and the girls that are considered 'sluttiest' are at probably 8+. Of course there will be the outlier that has no self esteem and is at 20+, but I think you are vastly overestimating how often girls get stuffed.

I'd say average is 2-6.

 

Yea... if were going literal average I would say 6-8 but I'm assuming that is being brought down by girls who have had long term boyfriends. Girls who were single 2-4 years in college...easily 15-20 if not more. I just cant imagine that all the girls I've been with found me that special to be 1 of their 5.

"The whole problem with the world is that fools and fanatics are always so certain of themselves, and wiser people so full of doubts." - Bertrand Russell
 

I've had a similar discussion with friends but pertaining to women in their mid-late 20's who are living in major cities such as NYC and Chicago, where it's really easy to meet people. I know some girls who are constantly sleeping with different guys, but they are almost usually not very attractive. The attractive well-educated ones (marriage material) are usually in relationships or when single don't do one-night stands.