In terrible spot right now

After many attempts to make myself feel better, I just can't fill the void that's inside me. I'm tired of fighting and pretending things are going to be better. I don't want to feel anything anymore. I've been suffering for years now and I'm ready to give up. Yes, I called the hotline and I didn't enjoy the conversation I has. It felt staged.

Im begging you, can someone please talk to me and just hear me out for once? I don't have many friends and I'm pretty much alone when it comes to family. I want this to stop.

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18d 
NixtySine, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Hoping this isn't a troll. DM if you would like to talk.

In case we don't, and for anyone reading: I think it's important to remember that we work in a demanding field, but it's just a job. It doesn't define you. It is not worth your physical or mental health. In the same way that we are replaceable to our firms, the firms/jobs are also replaceable. Corporate America is a dime a dozen. There are other jobs out there.

It sounds like you've identified that you are unhappy in your current situation, and that's a good first step. You have more control over your life than the banks would like you to think. Insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results. Maybe it's time to find your next thing.

I hope you find peace. Your life is worth living.

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18d 
rojamiv230, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Hi mate,

Created an account to reply here. Life gets pretty tough and it feels like there are a lot of factors involved here.

Send me a message if you like.

All the best

17d 
Pierogi Equities, what's your opinion? Comment below:

wholesome, thank you for stepping up. OP, we're here for you.

Quant (ˈkwänt) n: An expert, someone who knows more and more about less and less until they know everything about nothing.

18d 
KyrMar, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Hey! What have made you suffer so far?

What's that void you have been feeling?

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18d 

I've been there. I get it and hear you. DM if you want to talk. It does get better. And perspective helps. This line of work sometimes feels like you're fanning the fire if you suffer from anxiety or depression - which so many of us do. 
 

Let me offer you this piece of advice, which may sound trivial but is true and obvious if you take a step back. This is just a job. You have one life. Sometimes the fear of not being successful clouds our judgment on what success really means. That may be different to each of us, but I guarantee you, this ain't it. People will tell you to quit; I would say reframe the importance of work in your life. Give less of a fuck. Focus your time on making meaningful progress in your personal life and I guarantee success will come professionally as well. 
 

And talk to someone. Work out. Find a new hobby. Do something that is for you and you alone. Prioritize that over your job and sound boundaries and I promise things will start to improve. 

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17d 
endlesshours, what's your opinion? Comment below:

I'm already hurt and I hate this constant pain

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18d 

I've been one step away from falling 430 feet and moving to the next chapter after life... but why not see it out?

Life is a game and the most fun parts are when you're literally fucked e.g. your girlfriend has left you, you've lost your job, and you might have to return to your parents but they wont let you back in the house.

This is when you get fucking crafty homie. Take a job that pays less, take an unconventional job, do unconventional things - go be a bartender in santorini for a summer. Go travel with whatever you have in your bank account. Eliminate those in your life that aren't accretive to your mental health. Also if you're a dude you can start a family at 50 - gives you a lot of time to chase success.

Americans live to work

The rest of the world works to live

17d 
JamieFolan, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Bro, DM me and let's chat. Its very difficult to remember this when things are tough but they always end up getting better. I'll try to help to the extent that I can.

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17d 
kylervc, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Happy to chat - but if you are not happy, it probably has a lot to do with your CURRENT situation. Time passes, things change and they do get better. As someone else said there are so many things you can do in life.. if you are not happy with the current situation go try something brand new and try to find your passion. Join community groups (sports leagues like pickle ball, community service etc.), travel, maybe study abroad for an MBA and try to start a new chapter. Please remember no situation has to be permanent in life and everything is permanent after. Also there is absolutely no shame in seeking professional help as many of us have and continue to do.

17d 
Isaiah_53_5 💎🙌💎🙌💎, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Maybe take a week vacation or staycation. Make an effort to hit the gym. Start a diary writing about all the things in life that are good and that you are thankful for. See a psychiatrist. Make it a priority to do something you have always wanted to do. 

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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17d 
UhtredSonOfUhtred, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Check you DM please!

"There is neither happiness nor unhappiness in this world; there is only the comparison of one state with another. Only a man who has felt ultimate despair is capable of feeling ultimate bliss. It is necessary to have wished for death in order to know how good it is to live.....the sum of all human wisdom will be contained in" -Dumas

"After all, man is that being who invented the gas chambers of Auschwitz; however, he is also that being who entered those gas chambers upright." -Frankl

Don't give up my friend, only you can have the impact that you were meant to have on this world

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17d 
FMLThrowaway, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Same, I hate my life so much.  This shitty economy is killing me.  I am about to start work as a quant at some backwater desk and it's so fucking bad.  Managed to negotiate a decent salary but they'll probably never give me a raise because of that.  And I once interned at one of the fastest growing and largest hedge funds in the world but its all gone.  PM asked for more headcount but he was denied.  Most of my friends who are graduating with a cs degree now like myself are out of work or laid off so I'd sound like a jackass complaining to them since I at least have something.  Or to my friends from my working class town who earn way less.  But it still makes me want to kill myself since I feel like I've fallen so far.

And I barely even want sex any more from all this depression and bad feelings, my girl, my beautiful girl now has self esteem problems cause she thinks I don't want her.

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endlesshours, what's your opinion? Comment below:

I can't feel anything right now I'm so tired

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