Learn some manners
I don't post that often but was compelled to do some given the current cunt epidemic I'm seeing across the finance industry. For context, I worked across IB / PE / VC, and I've classified a*le behavior in a couple of categories:
1) Bad Karma cunts
- If you ask a senior person for advice, time, referrals, coaching, don't forget to say thank you. I can't count the number of people who don't even show appreciation.
- If they contact you 5 years down the line for a favor, don't ignore them. I probably helped place 30+ people in top funds and companies over the years. At least half didn't respond to a request for help / general questions. In one case, a person trashed me in a reference call to a company (because working at an aggressive competitor firm, where I placed them). I once asked for an intro to a friend of somebody I wrote an MBA reference to (and got in into HSW) - they declined ("I don't do intros"). There is an epidemic of ungrateful a*les.
2) Arrogant cunts
- If you work at a top firm, and you talk to somebody at a 'lesser firm', don't talk down to them or act superior. I used to work for a pretty average IB, and lots of PE/VC guys really talked down at me ('forget about this industry, you're not qualified, your school sucks, etc.). Finance is a very small world. I've closed any business opportunity with those guys, who bombarded me with requests as soon as I joined a 'better firm' and I go out of my way to make sure they don't get business with us or any of my companies. The ONLY excuses for being arrogant is if the other person is, or if you're a truly self-made achiever and have fuck you money (working at Goldman doesn't mean you own Goldman, you're just another employee).
- HR people can particularly be clueless when rejecting people. At least in 2 instances (consulting firm, and a big PE firm) HR was super dismissive and gave no feedback after at least 10 separate interviews. One at another firm made a (verbal) racist comment. I'll remember this forever. I really wish I could post that guy's name and destroy that racist fuck, but I hold those firms responsible for hiring such idiots.
- Treat all of your colleagues with respect - unless they are disrespectful with you first (then it's fair play). I've seen people lose opportunities, and funding opportunities because of bad references. Nasty behavior can catch up with you in a bad way many years after the fact.
3) Emotionally clueless cunts
- It's so common in a business setting to see those types trying to get as much info as possible, without giving anything or even asking what the other person needs. It's never a zero-sum game, we're not machines.
- When colleagues leave firms (unless they're getting fired for bad reasons), go talk to them and wish them well. It is part of your own brand and the firm you represent. One of my prior employees was furious when I went to a competitor, proceeded to ghost me, and generally left a really bad taste in my mouth. Instead of making an ally and figuring out what went wrong and taking this as feedback.
- If you don't answer my messages or some urgent request for months, then don't expect me to reply asap to your requests. You need to be good at maintaining relationships.
I'm done for now. Partly ranting, but I hope this serves as a reminder that we're all human beings with dreams, aspirations and facing our own struggles in this world, and we're not machines.
What have you experienced yourselves?