Leaving Home

Hey everyone, I just graduated from a non target and worked my ass for a BB IB FT offer. I’m still living at home but It just hit my that I’m leaving home. Although I’ve always known I wanted to leave, it feels real now. My parents are immigrants so most people in my family don’t “move out” (usually 10 minutes away) until they are married and in their 30s. I’m moving to NYC and don’t have any friends going there. It’s only 4 hours away from my home but given IB hours in a sweaty group, I don’t think I’ll be able to visit much and my family works 80+ hours so they won’t be able to come either. Also my roommate got moved to another office do to Covid so I’ll likely be getting a studio.

Also forgot to note that I went to college 30 minutes away from home so I saw them every week. I talked to my group and they recommended I move ASAP as it would be hard to get a place in nyc and move in while working (still in training) since they are jammed. I’m super worried about 1) do I move now? I don’t really want rn and working IB hours in a small studio sounds horrible 2) leaving family 3) being lonely

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"Analyst 1 in IB - Ind" I’m super worried about 1) do I move now? I don’t really want rn and working IB hours in a small studio sounds horrible 2) leaving family 3) being lonely

Sometimes you gotta be lonely for a sec. Just do the right thing, get the right place, show up when they tell you, etc. You can still call your family to check in and stuff.

You'll make new friends - have new interests - everybody goes through this.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 
"Analyst 1 in IB - Ind" I’m moving to NYC and don’t have any friends going there.

Honestly, there are a lot of cool shares around if you interview some good people who will get you on the ground running in terms of knowing and meeting people and not being alone. The art of finding good roommates in NYC is a bit of zen in it of itself.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 
"Analyst 1 in IB - Ind" Either way, would you move now? I don’t see the point given WFH. My firm said mid Fall is their target date for bankers but that’s a big maybe given the rise in cases

If you can live with family until the fall and that's what you want to do - do it.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

I wouldn’t move right now but I’d be ready to make a move once they told me to get my ass to New York. So do your research now on neighborhoods including affordability, prioritize which neighborhoods make it easy to get to the office and back home (i.e. bank is in midtown and home is in NJ, get close to Penn not Upper Easy Side), check out buildings that are close to stuff you enjoy like restaurants/parks, troll the various sources for New York roommates

And hopefully your bank will give you some notice so you’ll have your above research and can put your plan into motion

On the lonely front, some of your fellow analysts will be in similar situations. Take the initiative and ask them to hang out (depending on the social distancing situation when you move to New York). If you have a particular interest (sport, music, dance, languages, literally anything), there are definitely going to be some people in New York with the same interests

 

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