What do guys look for on dating apps?

background: I'm a female, 21, and I'm on Hinge.

I get a lot of matches all the time, but it's mostly not what I'm looking for. I'm not that picky since I'm not very serious about Hinge, but it does make me kinda sad to see the ratio of delivery drivers/servers to guys with finance jobs out of the people who have liked my profile (shoutout to the SWE dudes tho). Basically, I judge dudes on their education/job and was wondering if the 21-24 yr old dudes out there who have a good education/job do the same or if you guys are just looking for hot girls. If you guys are like me, my problem is that it's kinda psycho for me to put incoming ib analyst on a dating profile LOL so I need something that signals I'm ambitious and finds me the type of dude I'm looking for. Any recs?

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You don’t always have to put that you are ‘incoming’. Just put your Industry and forgo listing the actual role itself. If they are interested, they will obviously ask what you do at some point. And that will give you a chance to mention you’re an incoming analyst. I also have a hinge account, but don’t take it very seriously.

 

You can literally just put "looking for ambitious dudes for long-term relationship" in your bio and no I don't think that's "psycho". The best way is to be straightforward about what you want and what you're looking for. I mean it's fine that you don't wanna date people in certain professions due to personal preference but your attitude towards them in your post does make you sounds like a psycho. 

To live is to suffer, to survive is to find some meaning in the suffering.
 

Honestly, I mainly look for hot girls. Show pictures of you doing fun shit. I don’t necessarily need a girl who’s a lawyer. That being said, showing that you have a degree/pursuing a degree is always a plus. I’m not looking for anything long term though, so this is just based on my situation at the moment.

 

guys look for a combo of looks + personality...we want a fun yet nurturing female.

your job as a female is irrelevant to us...we'll ask "so what do you do?" not because we care, but just for a topic of conversation.

i'm friends with lots of MDs...their GFs and wives are chefs, stay at home moms, teachers, sales, techy geeks, stewardesses, former cocktail waitress, news desk producer.

not a single finance career in the bunch...we make enough $$ on our own that what the girl makes doesn't matter

just google it...you're welcome
 

I think girls project their own desires for men with good jobs and think men desire the same thing in women. Little do they know that we do not think the same way...

 

good pictures of face, body

toned arms, abs

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

Looking for a girl with good values. Tough to find these days... lot of crap out there. 

This is why I think I will meet my future wife in LA. (lots of Catholics)

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 
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Also, I make it clear in my profile - no hookups. 

My song profile anthem at the bottom: 

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

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"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

Does Hinge work like Tinder where you have a say in who you match with? If so why match with people you are not interested in off the bat?

I’m a fun guy. Obviously I love the game of basketball. I mean there’s more questions you have to ask me in order for me to tell you about myself. I'm not just gonna give you a whole spill... I mean, I don't even know where you're sitting at
 

At OP...hows it going for you? getting a lot of below the belt picks? What are your swipe left or right rules? (height, body type, look, career?)

I'd say it less about what you do and somewhat more about what you write and the photos you put. Haven't looked at a lot of guys profiles, but the writing stuff for girls I see are pretty standard and boiler plate. 

" I like to go out but also like to stay in sometimes"

"I like to eat healthy but also enjoy pizza"

 

I look at the following in that order - points 1-3 are pass/fail after that it's preferences mostly when talking to her. For your reference I am sub 25 IB analyst on Hinge/Bumble.

1) Smokes/Drugs/Tattoos/Nose ring -> pass

2) Education, did she go to a decent college if not pass

3) Is she overall fit (yes I fat shame) don't need to see abs but I want someone that appears somewhat sporty - I am a sporty person so I look for the same should I meet a significant other.

4) Does she seem interesting (ie does more than just speak about netflix and how passionate she is about 'fashion' because she has a chanel bag and being a 'foodie')

 

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just google it...you're welcome
 

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