Whether its IB, entrepreneurship, school, law, military, etc. all the most successful and driven people work a lot, as it takes a lot to make it in this life.
How do you all respond to a friend, wife, gf etc. who always says "why do you work so much?" or "you should take a break" "working that much isn't good".
Granted these comments usually come from people who have little vision, but how do you all respond to comments like these, especially since the fruits of your labor often aren't realized until years down the road?
STEM weenie here. I love every moment of it. At least so far I do.
I think if you hate exercising, there's a much higher chance you end up as a fatty. Just saying
Exactly
Because I enjoy it.
To retire. The whole point of "work" is to one day retire, to relax, to do the things YOU want to do. No one says at the end of their life they wished they spent more time on TPS reports for some soulless bank. If I could retire tomorrow, I would.
On Henry Royce’s (Think, Rolls-Royce) deathbed, he said "I have only one regret, that I have not worked harder”
Source?
When you retire you're gonna be old :) and wasted your prime
Have a family member who usually says like that. Graduated with 4.0/4.0 GPA from target in engineering, so knows what studying and working hard means. Nevertheless, despite sometimes saying that I am over working, always supports me. She is right actually because my work pace sometimes becomes self-destructive, therefore I don't disagree with her when she says smth related to working a lot.
Coming to my respond, I say that I want to have a solid future and want to reduce the burden of my future family. She supports this view because she also had a similar goal.
For me the truth is I don’t feel good about myself if I’m not working. The good positions are down the line and we want to get there as quick as we can. We want to be the CEOs or Managing Directors that make the decisions, make the money, and make it out of the office before the sun goes down. In all honesty though, it depends what the alternative is. If you have a shit ton of friends who want to travel the world with you then maybe you can take a break. If the alternative is watching another episode of The Office, it’s probably better to pass.
Life is and continues to get increasingly more expensive. I don't really know how people don't work as hard as I do... This is a very Canadian specific context but like literally I need to work in high finance to achieve a suburban house an hour from Toronto by the time I plan to have a kid...
Not everyone lives in Toronto and among those that do not everyone buys a house. As for having enough money there are definitely other paths to making high finance money. I don’t know too Canada too well but assume (?) famous athletes, actors, etc. live in Toronto as well as people who were born with a silver spoon in their mouth and these people cause prices to rise.
I literally have no idea what the intent of your response was. The entire GTA (which includes places quite far from Toronto proper in case you aren't familiar) has grown at a 10-year CAGR of 9.6%. These are unlevered returns to owner and tax free on primary residences. Average housing prices across the country are up 38% YoY. So I'm not really sure what you're arguing for here.
Because of the pandemic I interned at a BB from home last summer and was fortunate enough to have both of my parents fully supporting my work ethic. Sandwiches waiting for me in the fridge midday and dinner sitting on the table for me to scarf down before heading back up to my room to work. Unfortunately this is a mindset that not everyone has, but your best bet is to surround yourself with those who do share it and simply disregard those who are pulling you down. Some call it tough love.
Yeah it seems like usually these comments come from someone who's gonna make $50k/yr for the rest of their life and still complain about their station in life while simultaneously mocking you for grinding. I pretty much just don't entertain the question. Just "Ah ya know, just how it is" or something of the sort and change the subject.
I would say I have a plan and I want to execute on it. I would get comments like that, or people saying why are you so focused on the future, when I would explain my 10 year plan (of which I am on track and currently in year 7) in undergrad. I knew I wanted to do real estate development, but wasn't sure how to get there from my STEM major, so after speaking with a few developers I put together the plan of working in construction (leveraging the engineering background while gaining management experience) then getting an MBA and making the transition. I worked my ass off to get good recommendations, a solid GMAT, good GPA for the last two years of undergrad, etc. Landed my first choice MBA, worked hard at that to get the job I wanted, and landed that as well (COVID derailed it for a few months, but ultimately this story has a happy ending). Now I'm working my dream job, trying to learn as much as possible and position myself for my next move.
I executed the plan, and it's so rewarding to have done so. Not just because I doubled my income, but setting out to do something difficult, over multiple years, with plenty of obstacles (laziness and inertia being the biggest ones, tbh) and actually succeeding is such a great feeling. Depending on how much of a dick you want to be the best answer, in my opinion, is "I don't want to wake up at 35 in a dead-end job and have to restart my life to live my dreams, so I'm putting the work in now". That's essentially what we're all after, the dream is different, and the work we put in is different, but we're all avoiding the fate of passively living life and being beholden to the whims of others.
That last paragraph really nails it. I don't ever want to wake one day and realize I'm not really living but that I'm just going through the motions, I simply just exist but don't live. It's actually one of my biggest fears.
Because coming from the projects, I'm looking to build generational wealth.
No one’s going to admit to this, but a lot of people with this mentality, especially in finance, are deeply insecure and just want to feel superior to others.
They jerk themselves off to how hard they work and how lazy the popular guys who party and fuck the hot sorority girls are, fantasizing about how one day they’ll make MD and all the girls who rejected them in High school will want them.
it’s pretty easy to tell when people are externally validated, and it’s a recipe for unhappiness in the long run
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