Hi guys:
I was wondering if you can share your experience bouncing back from a low point in your career. Either the times when you felt that you made the wrong career choices (maybe you chose career path A but really should've gone on to career path B), or didn't get on to the career path you want, and now may feel stuck or lack the prerequisite you need. I would really appreciate hearing some of those inspiring stories from you guys, especially those who are already in the middle of their careers.
Thanks
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how sure are you that you wanna do big 4? Its not that hard to get into tbh
and what I meant by that comment is that you sound like a person with a fantastic work ethic that shouldn't settle in that field. You can do something that will make you a lot more money. But if thats what you really wanna do, more power to you
Toast to you brotha
Keep going.
+1 SB
I applaud the motivation. But let's get something straight. Ruining your health to get an internship is not smart.
Your health only gets worse as you get older. If you're already having heart issues in college, and you continue at this pace, at some point soon your career will have to become secondary to you nursing your chronic illnesses.
Look, I worked hard to get where I am today. We all have. And we've all made sacrifices. But it's really not a trade-off between health and career - you need to take care of both.
Please just take a moment to consider this.
I'm not a cardiologist but isn't a heart arrhythmia relatively easy to treat/manage with the proper treatment and lifestyle changes? To be honest, pledging for two fraternities seems stupid because one alone is an absolute waste of time equivalent to taking a class. Being part of the pledging process is also a waste of time. Neither of those things are going to help your resume, it just seems like you saddled yourself up with unnecessary stress, responsibilities and time commitments.
This is absurd. There is no undergraduate coursework so rigorous you couldn't get a decent night worth of sleep or sit down for a meal. Let alone needing to dope with caffeine and otc drugs. Which probably explains the arrhythmia... I had a 3.88 GPA for CS, you have to learn how to study. On your "off days" you still need to review notes, read ahead, take more notes and you should be good... I definitely had a very active life outside of hitting the books.
Also, "picked up trading", I don't know how you came across money to trade as an undergrad but once again... unnecessary stress and distraction. For the record, I 'traded' throughout my time in college and made some pretty good money, but I knew what I was doing. My schedule was also conducive for it, but if there was ever a time or need to put in more effort at school I dropped it immediately. Basically, no trading unless I'm getting all A's.
No offense, but this is almost a guide on how NOT to turn things around... I'm glad everything worked out, and hopefully you're taking care of your health. I just think a lot of your stress could have been avoided if you worked a little smarter, rather than out of a need to "feel" busy or like you were grinding to success.
To answer the "how to bounce back..." Through all those late nights I would play this video to myself. I now know the words verbatim.
Search "why do we fall" on YouTube. It puts your troubles into perspective.
I've been lurking around on here for some time too and I think it'd be great to see a list of motivational reading/youtube videos that people use when they're nose agains the grindstone.
thanks bust or boss, really appreciate your insight and link!
Life is simply a long series of choices and how you choose to respond to a temporary set back will define the type of person you are. Everyone at my stage in life has had set backs, failures, medical issues to deal with, etc...it is just the way life is and no matter how smart, rich or capble you are there will come a time where you life feels like it is falling to pieces. Just remember what is important to you and don't let anything keep you from pursuing your dreams.
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Your mum was a director at PwC and your dad runs his own accounting practice? Yet both failed to point out to you that the school you were attending wouldnt land you a (good) job? And you had to wait for a big four partner to come along to give you career advice and tell you to change schools?
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Way to show how it's done! I will say this be mindful of constantly being in a rush or trying to play catch up. That has cause me more harm than anything else. I think at times we see other peoples progression in life and we compare to ourselves only to realize we are not far ahead enough. That mentally strains us because we can never get to enjoy the moment, let alone the experience we are currently in. Take a step back and realize what you have accomplished and tell yourself you are on the right track.
I don't consider things a bounce back, you just keep grinding forward. Shit is going to happen out of your control. You can either wallow and sink or keep plugging away. IMO, people who fail in life generally allow discourge to take over and give up.
First post for me, but had to respond to this one versus continuing to lurk. Summary is that most folks bounce back from low points and you will too, so stick with it and keep your chin up!
My story: I got laid off suddenly at age 37, with a 3-year old at home and my wife working on her master's degree + not bringing in $ at the time. My industry was in a big down cycle and hardly any one was hiring either. Sucked!
Put my head down and worked the heck out of my contacts (actually used the phone in my old company's shut down office because they hadn't removed the phones/furniture yet and they'd neglected to take my key...yes, cell phone calls were really expensive back then so that wasn't a first option).
Started my own business WHILE continuing to interview for jobs. Business built up to "survivable + looking promising" mode before a solid job offer came and decided to stick with it. Thank god things happened in that order, including the layoff. The business has grown + succeed over the past 15+ years, and I could've comfortably retired 5 years ago. I keep doing it because I like what I do!
Good luck in working through your bump-in-the-road. Everyone has them, just in different forms!
I'd love to hear the rest of this story. What your business venture was, how you stayed hungry (even after it was clear you had enough means for real financial security) and how you were able to switch careers late in the game. Thanks for the post
you ruined your health, so you can sit behind a computer lol
I hit my low career point when I realised that I was a great executor in my late 30s operating in a role where I was now expected to be a relationship rainmaker bringing in deals.
I only woke up to how the IB game was played too late in my career, probably partly due to environment, partly due to my naivete, partly due to not cultivating mentors during my 30s who could point this out to me.
This caused me a few months of angst as I considered playing the relationship banker game. That would have involved a lot of head damage, a lot of acting contrary to my sense of integrity, likely for little pay off.
After a few months of angst, what made the difference was having a good discussion over beers with an old university friend and roommate who was working in the same organisation, different division. The key thing he said to me was "Well, it's clear you have to make your play".
The sense of resolution that sparked was fantastic. I shifted from angst worrying and hand wringing to resolving to do something to get out of the situation. A hell of lot of stress I'd been feeling evaporated solely by virtue of having made a decision to GTFO and starting to execute that decision.
I worked my internal and external contacts, knocked on doors and was lucky that one opened in middle office in the same company in another region.
While there was some ego damage in that transition from front to middle office, it very quickly became clear to me that I really enjoyed the work, the people and the region.
While there's a clear drop in preftege, all the preftege in the world isn't going to help your stress-induced colon cancer. And a large sense of the drop in preftege is your own inner voice of doubt.
Key lessons I draw from the experience:
Education doesn't end at graduation, it just shifts in format. Find mentors and cultivate them, at least so you have second and third opinions on professional situations.
If a shitty situation doesn't resolve itself over 3-4 months, form the resolution to GTFO and start chasing exit opps. While getting TFO may take time, the sense of resolution cuts stress by about 75%.
thanks for sharing your experience, @"SSits"! Always one of the best commenters on the board!
Your story shows that just being the smartest person wont make you successful its also about your emotional intelligence and mental toughness. Thats what makes people successful cause thats what gets you through lifes toughest times. Type Angela Lee Duckworth on youtube and watch her TED Talk about emotional intelligence and grit.
Your story shows that just being the smartest person wont make you successful its also about your emotional intelligence and mental toughness. Thats what makes people successful cause thats what gets you through lifes toughest times. Type Angela Lee Duckworth on youtube and watch her TED Talk about emotional intelligence and grit.
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