To Email or Not to Email

I've got a dilemma and I'm ready to be shredded for being a part of the nepotistic system. So I've been looking for an internship in the PB or PWM space over the span of the past few months. In November, I got connected to the regional president of a well-respected bank here locally. I got in contact with the president, and we discussed openings for the upcoming summer, and we narrowed down PB. She forwarded my info to the Talent Acquisition team a week before Thanksgiving and had not heard anything from them come the week after break. I email her and essentially snitch that no one has contacted me, and low and behold within a day of me sending that email out, the recruiter emails me trying to set up a time. Here I am shitting my pants for what I believe is my first big break into the scene. Four days straight of me just perfecting running through my resume, and why I wanna work here blah blah blah. Now comes the interview.

It was essentially a screening with the campus recruiter, so nothing technical or crazy. Mainly questions about myself, behavioral questions, and me trying to break the ice. Let me tell you, this guy was dryer than the Sahara. The most I'd get out of him was a "mhmmm" or a "sounds great." Come the time of me asking my questions, I'm trying to relate and have this guy give the slightest glimpse of emotion. Nothing. Whatever, the interview comes to an end, and I think it went well, all questions were answered with no hesitations, and even if they weren't, I had the president's referral, I'd be fine right? So I thought. 

The interview took place two weeks before Christmas, so I was eagerly checking my email every single morning, and, nothing. I get it, people start winding down the week before the Holidays. They'll get back to me first week of January. No better way to start the new year than by onboarding the summer intern class, is what I hoped would be the case. Nothing, nada, zilch. I email the recruiter wishing him a happy holiday, and just checking in on the status of my application, at this point it had been a month, so I just have to know what my summer holds in store. Send that email, and to this day, I have not gotten a single response and no status update regarding my application. 

Now monkeys, I come to you asking for advice. Do I: A) email him again, and face the shame of getting ghosted again? Or B) email my initial point of contact, the regional president, and risk seeming like an entitled little brat who's tryna beef up the resume? Or C) count my losses and pursue other opportunities?

TL;DR Got ghosted by the recruiter, but have the president's info

Comments (10)

damood, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Thank you, I think I'll do that.

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Dr. Rahma Dikhinmahas, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Don't email either of them.  Take the loss, and send the president an email later when you land whatever internship you land.  "Just wanted to thank you again for the opportunity, the conversations were helpful [even if they weren't] and I'll be interning at ___ this summer.  Hope to stay in touch."

I'm sure you'll cross paths again.  Most of the time, you do.  This will be a valuable long term relationship, why jeopardize it in pursuit of some ultra-slim possibility that it could reverse course for you.

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damood, what's your opinion? Comment below:

I think that's a good perspective to have, to be able to recoup any damages later on with minimal losses.

therightcoast_, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Not reading that. You're really over thinking things by the look of that wall of text.

Are you going to get what you want if you don't email this person? Are you taking an objective risk with a lot of downside if you email this person? If the answer to both those is no then email them. 

bing chat, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Yeah - I would just move on, don't waste time if they aren't receptive and not worth it. I saw a post awhile back. A guy said "know your worth" when he was getting whatever by whatever and he ended up at Morgan Stanley IBD

Someone will like you - don't worry 

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damood, what's your opinion? Comment below:

I guess there has to be a point where I shift my focus else where.

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ChattingApe, what's your opinion? Comment below:

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