People on this forum who grew up poor but became successful, how do you want to raise your kids (and how have you done so)?
Posting this after reading that other thread about people with rich parents. I have wanted to made this post for a couple weeks now as I've been thinking about kids recently.
My background is I grew up poor in a single-parent household. My mother and I are both 1st-gen immigrants. I had a POS abusive dad who made like 80k but I never saw him (and in retrospect my mom didn't negotiate divorce terms very well so that money never got to me). My childhood was legitimately terrible. I'm not here to whine about that so I won't get into it but most people miss their childhood, I hated mine. People in the other thread were talking about how rich people's feelings get ignored because they're rich. I legit have no sympathy for your first world problems.
Anyways, I'm in a good place career-wise now. I'm not yet 30 and I'm making 7 figures at a MF, been told I'm looking good for partner track and I am at least confident that I will make principal. And my GF and I have been thinking about kids. She comes from a UHNW family and shit and she hasn't really thought about this stuff but I'm really thinking about the differences growing up different classes have in America.
I grew up in the dogshit midwest. I remember my mom's close friends had cousins who lived in NJ, were execs in NYC. Just going there was so different. As a kid I thought it was so cool to have a 6000 square foot house and have a movie theatre in your basement. But as I grew up, I realized how fucking spoiled those kids were. Like, as a teenager, I realized how much of a greater understanding of the world I had than them just because they had grown up in a bubble their entire lives. I don't want my kids to suffer like I did. But at the same time I don't want them to grow up with that white picket fence, giant house, etc., which they did nothing to earn, do not appreciate, and will likely not understand the greater world in that environment alone.
The second side of this is education. I attended dogshit public schools until 8th grade, at which point I started waking up at 5:30am to go to a out-of-district suburban competitive public school. Even with my dogshit education, I succeeded in my classes, was val, got into HYP, etc. However, I understand that this is not possible for most people and early education plays a huge part in our intellectual formations. I am definitely going to send my kids to Exeter or w/e for high school. Like, the opportunities that provides is just not comparable to anything else. However, what about before that? I am legitimately considering sending them to a shitty public school just so they can see a bit more of the world because I'm sure they will live in a bubble either way because of my income. In this case, I would supplement their education at home in some way.
Also, I'm definitely talking to my GF about this this weekend. Just been crushed lately but yeah.
This is really poorly written because I have a meeting in like 3 minutes but what do you guys think?