Here's what a girl did when I asked her out... Cut her off?
I don't want to give too many details but here it goes:
There's this girl in my class that I really like. I'm sure she likes me as well. She always smiles and laughs when I talk and not to toot my own horn, but I'm a good-looking dude. I used to be pretty cold/nonchalant with her, but then I decide to make a move.
So I asked this girl out one day. She said yes and we planned to meet up around 12 pm today. I get a text around 12 and she says, sorry I'm really busy now I'll be a few minutes late. I say that's fine. 45 minutes go by and she says sorry it took so long, I'll be there in a few minutes. I say okay cool, let me know when you're here. Then, about 30 minutes go by and I get no response. It's like 1:15 now and I text her, "not sure where you are but I'm walking to [coffee shop where we planned to meet up] now." Anyways I walk to the place and I kid you not, the moment I arrive at the door I see her walk out with another guy, talking and smiling with him. They both see me and they start laughing at the situation (the guy knows I was supposed to be meeting her) and she says sorry while laughing. I take it lightly and walk inside the store to pick something up. I never get an apology/explanation text or anything. The next day she sees me and smiles nicely, but I ignore her because I was feeling a bit bitter. To top it all off, this was the first time I ever asked a girl out, and this was what I got.
Honestly I'm kinda pissed now. What should I do about a person like this? Cut her off/ignore her? Ask her what went wrong? What the fuck even led to this? Was she "teaching me a lesson" for being cold initially?
Sorry to put up another relationship post, but I had to get this off my mind. Thanks for the help monkeys.
Ask her what that was about and then cut her off. I would be more curious of wtf that was then dating the chick.
You got clowned. Why would you self-clown yourself further by acknowledging her existence? Keep it moving.
Even further, She's single and your single. Lets be honest, I know plenty of guys who play the field. She got caught. Ghost her and move on. Plenty to meet. There is 0 benefit from engaging with her any further. If anything its worse because your still chasing after she did you like that.
Lmao Mr. "pretty good-looking dude" looks like you've been CUCKED.
Forget about her, you're the gay friend, the beta orbiter, the nice guy, but you'll never be the lover. The sooner you move on the less you'll suffer. If she pulled that kind of shit and behaved the way she did it absolutely means she doesn't respect you. Hell, she may even have organized that with the guy to let you know that you have no chance with her.
Lol, I'm serious. Objectively speaking, I'm attractive. Something else went on here.
Yeah I added a new paragraph. What "went on" here is that looks only aren't enough, it's looks + personality and behavior. Take a hard look at yourself personality-wise, look at your past behavior. She friendzoned you from the start, question is: why? You probably acted too much like a beta. Develop, why would she laugh when you talk? Do you tell jokes? Are you the funny guy? The funny guy doesn't get laid.
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No way she planned this, based on context she barely knows him
at worst, this new guy swooped in last minute
Yeah this is also a possibility.
Can you elaborate on this? Did you intentionally try to be rude to her face (and if so, why?) or did you simply not acknowledge her often?
No, I simply did not acknowledge her often. The first conversation we had was very friendly. After that, the most I would do was say "hi" to her in the hallways and then keep on walking. Part of it was me trying to keep it cool/not seem clingy, part of it was was nerves. Then one day I struck up a conversation with her and then asked her out. She said yes.
Yeah nah you probably didn't pass as cool, but shy and timid. An important rule is that if a female interests you, you let her know by your behavior right away. You don't try to act like a distant weirdo.
just forget her and move on
welcome to the fast-paced world. it only gets faster esp. in finance
Very important that you don't let this make you bitter, and that you fuck her friends ASAP.
This is the way
Every single one. Roommate is even better.
This is so odd that it’s effectively meaningless and nothing to learn from it, imo
Fuck this chick
Lmaooo as in cut her off or try to fuck her?
Both
Dude don't sweat this. Sounds like an anomalous level of whoredom that you will likely never experience again. Be more judicious with the girls you ask out, this one must not have actually been interested in you
Wow I've never had something like this happen. In most cases, I tell guys to just leave girls alone and ghost them after signs of disinterest, appear higher value. But in this case, I would straight up ask her wtf that was. I'm guessing what happened was that she got there, you weren't there, and a guy with high confidence, high charisma, and high attractiveness started hitting on her, and so she told you that she'll be late. She probably told this guy, "I'm actually supposed to meet this guy here, but I'm not that into him."
Move on with your life like no big deal, don’t ignore her but also don’t go out of your way to chat her up. Chase other girls, she’ll get jealous if she sees you hanging out with them and wonder why you stopped chasing her.. but don’t go back, ever. Except just to smash. Obviously not girlfriend material
Call her on the phone and confront her about why she went on a date with another guy at the same place you were supposed to have a date. Most millenials/gen z fear any kind of confrontation, hopefully this will shut her down
Lmao, what is the point of this? To “win?” This ain’t helping him get laid. This is helping him look like a psycho and wasting his time
I would suggest he just try to fuck her friends or other hot girls instead, but this kind of disrespect I really don't blame him if he at least texts her asking what the fuck that was. That is the level of disrespect I feel like where you get permission to not just brush it off like it never happened.
LOL Definitely don't confront her, that would just feed into the situation. Politely ignore her, do the cold/distant thing you were doing before, maybe a bit more-so because this person treated you badly. And that's it. Think about it, are you ok with being treated like that? If the answer is no, that's good - you have some self-respect. So no matter what the reason is for the behavior, its not something you tolerate. So if you don't tolerate it, the person becomes no longer relevant to you. Treat her with indifference.
Yup she played u
Tell her you are worth more than someone's sloppy seconds and then cut her off.
Also most girls are insecure about some part of their body. When you call her useless, make sure she knows what's not good about her. Hit her self-esteem
Are you seriously asking what you should do? She made a fucking fool out of you don’t ever talk to that bitch
The only thing you can do in this situation is FUCK her MOM and send her a really disgusting video of fingers and dicks in butts
Delete her number so you dont drunk dial her later.
Now bottle up all the anger, frustration, bitterness, you have then go to the gym and lift HEAVY weights.
Repeat until Jacked or you can't remember her name.
The worst advice is the typical coddling in this thread. "She's just a shallow person", "forget about her and move on", "just an unlucky break". My ass.
Even the nicest girls in the world will disrespect you if you give them the opportunity. You shouldn't be asking yourself what went wrong with her. You should be asking yourself how do you become the guy she was with. Odds are he had something, if not multiple things, over you. Use this as fire to improve yourself.
Damn that sucks. Maybe she goes out with multiple guys and picks the best one, she’s probably into the guy she was with and stood you up? That’s the most reasonable explanation I can come up with,
Lol thanks for the comment. I hope this doesn't happen with the cute girl you posted about. I wouldn't even wish this on my worst enemies.
if you want to vent to someone, feel free to pm. And yeah, I hope it doesn't happen with her. Though if it does, I have plenty of cute girls in my other classes. Will it hurt? Yes. Is it the end of the world? No, not at all.
Embrace this pain. Remember this feeling. Use it to activate you. Your lifting journey starts today.
Looks like you dodged a bullet there. She's already seeing other guys before your date starts. Better to break things now than 10 years from now when your married and she takes half your shit.
Best thing is to politely ask her what was going on. Most likely her response is going to be bullshit because if she truly liked you she would have said shes at the coffee shop finishing up studying or something, but bitch lied. So unless that other dude is gay or her brother, shes got no excuses. Get the reason, then cut her off. Ignore her everyday until she becomes jealous and then as someone above said...fuck her friends or mom, or both. Whatever makes you happy.
Pizz at your service. Literally fuck her friends (preferably her closest/best friends), that will be the ultimate revenge. It will give you the upper hand because you gave her friends something she'll never get ever.
I would just never speak to her again. That girl has some mental issues.
Why did this get debumped?
You must be brain dead to pursue this further
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