How did you meet your SO?

Associate 3 in PE - LBOs

I'm in my late 20s/early 30s, and really want to have a person to go home to. How did you meet your SO? Looking for ideas... (I'm not religious or from America so churches and old friends won't work....)

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Mar 21, 2020

Met through a family member when we went out to dinner as a group.

Mar 21, 2020

Met in college, so probably not applicable to you unless you decide on grad school.

"The three most harmful addictions are heroin, carbohydrates, and a monthly salary." - Nassim Taleb

Mar 21, 2020

Met my wife in college as well.

Mar 23, 2020

Same! I was an RA and she was a resident at the dorm. I was dating another girl at the time (thank god that ended) and it's weird to think that this girl I'd see every day swiping her card at the front desk would now be my gf.

Mar 21, 2020

Best place to meet a like-minded person is probably school or work. College / Grad School.

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  • Associate 3 in RE - Comm
Mar 21, 2020

sapphire. don't recommend tho

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  • Analyst 1 in HF - Event
Mar 21, 2020

Sapphire is top-tier bro

  • Director in Other
Mar 30, 2020

I have to ask: what is the app?

Mar 21, 2020

Tinder. Despite its reputation as a hookup app, every once in a while you can come across someone you actually want to see seriously.

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Mar 21, 2020

I approached a girl at a bar to intro my buddy (she wasn't my type), and this girl's friend came out of no where and got my number. Next thing you know I'm living with this girl (the friend) for the past 5 years.

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  • Associate 1 in IB - Gen
Mar 22, 2020

I feel like bars are such a waste of time. I don't want to just sit there and go up to every girl and try to flirt with them. Or should I? I don't want to go with friends cuz that's just weird to me.

I also really don't want to waste $20+ every night just to talk to a few girls. Feels like too much money honestly.

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Mar 22, 2020

Unless you do IB in Venezuela I would expect to pay $20+ per round of drinks for the two of you, not per night.

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Mar 22, 2020

It's a numbers game man. Bars probably offer your best girl-per-sqft ratio for you to try your odds. No way I could have a night out on only $20 though, that would only cover my massive cheesy burrito meal that I need to gorge on afterwards. Just don't buy any girls drinks until you've built up a strong convo with them.

Mar 29, 2020

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  • VP in PropTrad
Mar 21, 2020

i picked her up in a bar 3 years ago...instant chemistry...we went back to her place about 1-2 hours after we met...immediately got naked and had sex in the kitchen, and on the couch

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  • VP in PropTrad
Mar 21, 2020

my the poo poo...is this so hard to believe in NYC?

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Mar 22, 2020

Arranged marriage

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Mar 22, 2020

Sat next to her on a plane. Sparks flew, emotions ran high, and we've been married for 5+ years.

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  • Prospect in Other
Mar 22, 2020

LD in the house!

Mar 22, 2020

You rang?

Mar 22, 2020

Am i the only one that is always seated next to some fat dude, kids or grandmas ?

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  • Prospect in IB-M&A
Mar 29, 2020

I don't see the problem, if that's your type

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Mar 22, 2020

Met in college. Been together 6 years. Just got married.

Mar 22, 2020

At work but not the same department. It has worked out very well. I count myself lucky.

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Mar 23, 2020

[exaggeration of the truth for fun and to protect identity]

it was a hot saturday at the fraternity's party house. I was 19 so unable to go to watering holes, but our frat parties were (at the time) the best party I could possibly imagine. we had girls, good food, plenty of beer, and no rules. it's a couple hours in, the regulars who had slept there the night before have been drinking since 9am breakfast beers, so by now (1pm) we're a little aggressive.

phil's bbq didn't seem to be sitting right with me (probably the beer and tobacco spit, not so much the pork) so I sense the immediate urge to purge my intestines inside (don't want that smell leaking out of the communal bathrooms already established). I'm the homeowners little bro (in the frat, not real life) so he lets me use the master. this is a bathroom normally locked from the outside (you can get into it from the hallway or from the bedroom), he lets me in and I barely have cheek to seat contact before the storm begins. imagine the gattling gun fire you heard in the opening scene of saving private ryan, this was an oscar worthy shit. my face is as pastel pink/orange as the shirt and shorts I'm wearing, and I'm hoping to god that the sounds of jimmy buffett are deafening what I know is a horrible noise.

little do I know, the other door (the one from the bathroom into the master) is open, like nearly all the way open. and guess what, it's not emtpy. you're thinking "oh, just his big bro, no big deal, probably a funny moment to reminisce about later." wrong. his girlfriend wasn't the typical sorority type, was more of your heady marine biology student who liked to smoke pot instead of rail lines, so she had a little smoke circle in the bedroom and I'm guessing the only reason I wasn't discovered immediately was because of the mixture of coughing, pot smoke, and sublime drowning me out.

well pot was no match for my bowels that day, and I was discovered. more accurately, I heard a "what the fuck?!" and thankfully I closed the door but not before my identity was known. they all left, I finished my shit without further incident, but my ego was shattered. my big bro's girl was a knockout and all of her friends were too, thank god she wasn't in a sorority otherwise I'd be ruined. I needed a plan, and I needed one fast. I called a pledge from the bathroom (this was well before uber and texting), did an irish goodbye, called my big bro, he understood, said to change clothes and come back, they probably didn't see or if they did they haven't mentioned to him. I listened, came back, partied some more, all was well.

next week, in class I get paired up with someone. cute little brunette I'd had my eye on since day one, no idea who she was, it was only a couple weeks in, I didn't want to be aggressive but this was my opportunity. I introduced myself, she replies "I know who you are." I said really? how? "that party on saturday, with the pig pickin." I say "huh, I must've been blackout cause I would've remembered meeting you!" she says "well, I saw you but I don't know if you saw that I saw you, we didn't really chat." I put two and two together. FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK SHE SAW ME SHITTING. At this point I just want to get back to the lesson plan, consider dropping the class, and killing myself later after I get my affairs in order. it was her, she was in the room, she heard and saw everything. FUCK.

We're happily married and have been together 15 years.

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Mar 29, 2020

Wait, you stole your big bro's girl?

Bro code man.....bro code! :P

GoldenCinderblock: "I keep spending all my money on exotic fish so my armor sucks. Is it possible to romance multiple females? I got with the blue chick so far but I am also interested in the electronic chick and the face mask chick."

Mar 29, 2020

No no no, one of her friends, sorry if that wasn't clear

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Mar 23, 2020

She worked the register at her parents coffee shop which I used to frequent during undergrad the morning after a night out. I'd go in every Thursday and Saturday morning to get a quick bite and try to piece the previous night, and myself, back together. Somehow she found the hungover version of me to be charming to the point where one day she brought me my favorite slice of cheesecake, which they "ran out of", on the house. That was the day I knew she was the one. We get married in August.

Mar 29, 2020

I met my gf on instagram. Initially we were just following each other, but it turned into more within 2 months. social media is actually a good way to see whether you have something in common with another person, you can see hobbies, their friends, what they are up to, etc

With luck, there might be chemistry IRL as well.

Mar 29, 2020

Met my SO during grad programme, despite I was in S&T and he's on the IB side, we stilldidn't start dating until I left to the buyside. Why? I was worried about having to attend different grad events & gatherings if it didn't work out it will be weird. I have to say I was wrong about this, many years later there are actually a lot of successful couples / marriages from the graduate programme. Just a word of warning though, (sadly but true) reputation for girls gets ruined very quickly in banks and sometimes unfairly so you have to be smart and keep your head screwed on.

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Mar 29, 2020

no pun intended

Mar 29, 2020

Met her through friend's circle. Fuckwad woke me up one morning to go to an auction at a London gallery. Literally banged my door and forced me. I went, stood in front of a painting by an artist (Graff) who incidentally has painted some of her forebears. Got talking, took her to a fancy and pretentious French restaurant which all Londoners know, the date went horribly, I suggested ice cream, that went well. Thought I fucked up.

Few days later, fell ill (my health, for those who know, isn't the best). She came knocking to check up on me and airlifted supplies. That was the kindest gesture I ever received from any woman I know. We spent the evening at my place just watching the best second date movie - The Equalizer.

Things moved pretty fast after that. She introduced me to her families, her Dad and I are pretty much the same person except that I'm Asian and they're European. There was some negative pushback from some of the relatives on both sides of her parents' families, but otherwise things went smoothly. Now she's met Momma and Papa Jeff, and they're ambivalent - for now. I'm sure my extended family won't approve, although some distant folks have. Approvals are a big thing in both cultures we come from unfortunately.

She's an NHS doctor. Also, old European aristocracy. And I wouldn't have met her were it not for my friend thinking it would be a fucking spiffy idea to go to an art auction after passing out on my bed high on opium with our gang and a bunch of ladies they brought.

GoldenCinderblock: "I keep spending all my money on exotic fish so my armor sucks. Is it possible to romance multiple females? I got with the blue chick so far but I am also interested in the electronic chick and the face mask chick."

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Mar 29, 2020

Pornhub

Mar 29, 2020

Met my wife at a PE project. I was sent in to a company to help build it up and get it ready for IPO, and there was a really cute receptionist. We hit it off and that was 15 years ago. I had 2 other serious relationships that could have been my SO as well prior. One I chatted up on the subway, because she was really hot and carrying a textbook, and the other was a model that I met on Hot or Not who was both gorgeous and on a full international scholarship to business school. I like girls who are the 'full package' - of hot and smart. With my wife we dated for a few years before getting married. I had my trepidation because she is more street smart than book smart, but sometimes you get what you need not what you were looking for. She's a badass.

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  • Analyst 1 in IB - Gen
Mar 29, 2020

How does everyone approach girls when not drunk/at a bar. I personally can't picture myself randomly sparking up a convo with a cute girl somewhere. Do people actually do that and do i just have to man up?

Mar 29, 2020

I'm out the game a long time, but when I was in I seldom approached girls at bars. Too noisy and aggressive, and girls are usually w/ friends having a good time out. I approached in daily life - street game. Just be natural and flirt, and just talk. All girls like to know they are pretty and being noticed. It's a compliment.

example: walk up to a girl on a subway, chat about some nonsense, tell her she's pretty, ask for her wechat/whatsapp number, and then follow up. On a flight? As you're getting ready to land, pass the stewardess a note that says "Thanks for taking such good care of us. I think you're really pretty and sweet. If you're interested, let me buy you dinner. Pass me back your number. Either way, thanks for being so nice."

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  • Analyst 1 in IB - Gen
Mar 30, 2020
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Mar 30, 2020
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GoldenCinderblock: "I keep spending all my money on exotic fish so my armor sucks. Is it possible to romance multiple females? I got with the blue chick so far but I am also interested in the electronic chick and the face mask chick."

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