I know personal shit on WSO is stupid but it seems to me that most young people on WSO are like-minded so getting some opinions from you guys would be helpful.
I have an opportunity to get with this one girl who seems to be a perfect match for me (I know that's reallly jumpin the gun, but bear with me plz). I'm a very motivated and career driven person like a lot of you guys, I want the finer things in life. I'm not really money hungry I just want to be fucking successful. Money is nice, but I get a boner when I think someday I'll be able to straight up RUN shit. I know a lot of you feel the same way. Hell, if I wanted to be rich I'd go be a drug dealer, good money in it.
Anyways, I was just wondering how having a real girlfriend (not someone you just fuck a few times a week to relieve the "stress") or even a wife would impact the level of you ambition? I'm 23 years old, and I feel like something that requires that level of commitment would only slow me down? Do you guys agree or disagree?
Thanks.
It all depends on the girl and how supportive she is of your goals. If she is going to complain constantly about late nights or you having to work on a random weekend...then you will have a bad time. It would have to be someone who understands that this is part of your career progression and the reward/payoff will be a long term thing. She will have to be patient. If this is someone that you don't see yourself with for the long haul, then my advice is stay away. If you really like her and see some hope, speak to her about it and be honest. If she's really the right one she will understand (I would hope).
Just my thoughts. I am by no means an expert on this, since I sabotaged all of my previous relationships.
Marriage is what transforms young savages in to productive members of society. That is, as long as you take it seriously and don't fool around outside of it or anything else that would demean it.
Ben Franklin got married when he was 22 or 23. He gave props to his wife in his autobiography for being one of the major factors of his success, for her industriousness and willingness to put up with his style. The mormons all get married when they're young, as do the japs, and they're both successful groups. My buddy is a jap and he just got married, and he's 23. If you need some more guidance, Id suggest going to your nearest Mormon temple and hanging out with those guys. They've got these groups of guys who work on moral character building, and they have these "words of wisdom," and they all push themselves to succeed and shit... it's seriously out of this world. Most inspiring people I've ever met. Highly recommended.
I was hoping to get these types of responses. I'm so fucking conflicted right now. I'm not one of those scumbag people who want to fuck around my entire life, I need some stability, and I would fucking love to follow in Ben's footsteps haha.
I guess I'm just scared of commitment. That shit is scary as fuckkkk. ONE woman for the rest of your life! I mean I know I want that, but coming to terms with it is becoming difficult for me. I guess I need to get over it.
One day, after you marry her, you will take her out to the Olive Garden for dinner, which will be lovely. Then you'll happen to look over at a certain point during the meal and you'll see a waitress taking an order, and you'll find yourself wondering what color her underpants might be. Her panties. Odds are they will probably be basic white, cotton underpants. But you'll sort of think well maybe they're silk panties, maybe it's a thong. Maybe it's something cool that you don't even know about. Then you'll start to feel weirded out by the fact that you'll be having sex with only one woman for the rest of your life.
Yeah man, thanks. Sounds like married life is fucking awesome.
That was a quote from Old School by the way...I can't tell if you knew that or not judging by your response haha.
OP, you're 23.....you're a kid. Stay with this chick if you like her, but don't lose sight of the fact that you're a kid. You will be a very different person at 25 and 30 than you are now, so I'd seriously hold off on the lifetime committment.....especially if it scares you so much.
Hell, she probably doesn't want to get married either at this point even if she 'thinks' she does. Just be a couple and see how things play out. This was a great session, that will be $500, do you have a HMO or a PPO?
Out of curiosity, when do you think it is appropriate to get married/start making babies?
Dude, what makes you think you'll "RUN shit" if you can't even make a decision about having a girlfriend or not
Point taken. Thanks.
Wisdom right there.
I didn't, never watched that movie.
Rent it and watch it with your wifey.
I personally find that I'm more focused and productive when I have a girlfriend because a) I'm getting some more regularly and b) I don't go out as much, or at least not to the same level. Whether those two things are counterbalanced by various relationship related annoyances depend on the girl.
get a life and your own friends, holy shit...you've never seen old school? Loser.
My only comment is that 23 seems a tad young to get married :-s
We all know what a BAD woman can do to you, but let me demonstrate what influence a GOOD wife can have on a man with a story:
Bill and Hillary Clinton were driving through the desert and came upon a gas station and decided to fill up. The stopped and out comes a scrawney, shabbily dressed hillbilly to fill up the tank. They fill up, pay, and as they are driving away Hillary says, "Many years ago, I dated that guy."
Bill smiles and says, "See, aren't you glad you married me, even after all the scandals?"
Hillary smiled wickedly and replies, "If I'd married him, then HE would be president, and YOU would be pumping gas."
......I'm inclined to agree with her on some level. GWBush's wife calmed him down as well. What Saddam did wrong: no wife to call him out on his shit when he got a little nutty.......seriously, pick a fight with the USA????WTF????
Listen to UFO, at his age the man has several decades of experience.
Seabird, we can start making babies whenever you're ready. You don't have to ask on here.
Conflicting answers for a conflicted person. I guess I'll figure this shit out myself. Thanks again for the input guys.
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