How do you guys actually make friends in NYC?
I work pretty long hours of course, and have been finding it surprisingly difficult to make new friends after moving out here. I don’t really drink or follow sports, which seems to eliminate a lot of the usual finance socializing lol
Outside of work I’m into running, golf, reading, guitar, lifting, swimming, and biking. I’m planning to join a run club soon, but curious if anyone has found good ways to actually meet people with similar interests, either in finance or outside of it?? I’ve genuinely been thinking about just going out and drinking more since I feel like that’s the last resort lmao.
Feels like a lot of people already have their college friend groups and are mostly just trying to get through work. Would appreciate any recommendations or things that have worked for you guys
Based on the most helpful WSO content, here are some actionable ways to make friends in NYC, especially given your interests and lifestyle:
Join Clubs and Classes:
Volunteer or Join Groups:
Leverage Networking Events:
Be Consistent with Activities:
Take Initiative:
Explore Neighborhood Spots:
Avoid Overthinking the Drinking Culture:
Be Open to Non-Finance Circles:
Remember, building friendships takes time and effort, but NYC offers endless opportunities to connect with like-minded individuals. Stay consistent, and don’t hesitate to step out of your comfort zone!
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If you can’t make friends in a dense place like nyc, you’re likely a loser and no amount of advice will be able to help you.
Focus on things like playing video games, vaping and reading. Things that don’t need friends.
Met a few great ones through work and met more just going out day-drinking.
Join clubs that meet regularly every week, then they invite you to other events via partiful, and then get more invites, etc. etc. Key is to befriend the social organizers
Follow instagram pages of neighborhoods you like that show weekly social events. There are some more community focused neighborhoods out there that don't focus much on nightlife. Run clubs, sports leagues, volunteering, and hobby meet ups can be great ways to meet people at all walks of life.
If you're looking for nightlife and maybe a younger scene, I would agree with some other posters here. Sit at well known neighborhood bars and night spots, definitely do this if you're new to a neighborhood and especially if you're single (which in NYC can vary from a quiet / nice cozy bar in a sleepy part of Queens to a full on rave in Bushwick).
dude just hit up any random bar and you'll meet people
"Neighborhood bar"
Yes? I used to live on 6B and would go to the bar on 7B and would always meet interesting people.
well im indian so if you're indian you run into the old diaspora kids a lot and extended family. littered all around New Jersey. plus theres a few million of us on hinge bumble dilmil and other curry apps
It's very, very hard making new friends after college. Take solace in it being something that plagues nearly everyone.
I was truly blessed that my first apartment was in a small building and my neighbors were of roughly similar age and also went to good schools. 90% of my friend group currently comes from those neighbors, monkey branching through their own extended networks.
Agreed. Anyone whose saying it's easy has a very low threshold for what they call a friend. That's a word reserved for someone you can call for during a life threatening moment, perhaps a bit lower...at least for me.
That type of bond isn't found or made in any regularity past adolescence, which might as well by the end of college, or armed service if you do that, grad school etc....
Well for one at work it’s good to at least be friendly with your coworkers. Especially if you’ll be with them for the majority of your waking hours. Good to be friends with them if you can even though the most important thing is to be a good coworker and worker and such.
Beyond that, find some interest outside of work. I got really into studying Torah and Judaism. Those are fairly social activities and I would go to Torah study events, local advanced Torah schools / rabbinic academies, synagogues, Jewish events etc. people there share my interest and we do those activities together in a win win fashion. We have become friends and it’s fun. Just sharing an example of what worked for me.
earlier in my career, during college, I was more into the gym and would make friends there. Sports. Social life like drinking or watching tv with people. All different activities to do with people. Hey to some extent, we are both doing online forum discussion together. Though we aren’t physically together this connection here is at least something and maybe we will get together at a WSO meet up sometime.
Good luck man
racial background is a huge part of this as well. all you anglos are screwed. your non ethnic societies and insanely high individualism and lack of sense of community will be your end. we indians have caste, community fraternities. we have iskon for hindus, temples. sikhs have the panth (brotherhood). if you look at any major metro of usa open fields grass fields all you see is indian IT Kooli uncles playing cricket. chela chamcha circles is the key. career, jobs, even hiring can be done thru these masala networks.
Why did you come on here before actually joining the run club? There is probably a club for every day of the week. Go.
look into a Five Irons golf league or Volo league
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