My first post garnered quite a few negative comments, as would be expected when I'm dealing with those in a situation similar to my husband's, defeated in life and ready to jump down the throats of the people you're disappointing. Thanks to those of you who understand what I mean when I say living anywhere but New York is less than desirable.
However, I'm still not hearing from my intended audience of women, both those who are finance professionals or students, and those who lurk here to get the scoop on male finance psychology. My intuition tells me that the proportion could be as high as 30%, but it's understandable that you ladies are in hiding, since the mouths on these young gentlemen need a thorough power-washing.
To the one in particular who told me to shut my "whore mouth," I'll have you know that I've only slept with one man, my husband, and will only put out for another man once the ink dries on all the divorce papers that could hypothetically be served, one day, maybe, perhaps not too far down the road.
Because I think I'm officially at a crossroads. It's not just my husband's middling ambition that has me stuck here in Austin, I thoroughly believe he's also hiding something from me about why he doesn't want to go anywhere else. He seems particularly attached to his running club, as though that weren't something he could recreate in NYC simply by jogging past a group of bums in Central Park holding a sandwich and a 40. I know it's a coed running club with a bunch of young women, so maybe that has something to do with it?
What also bothers me is that he has been running every day after work for the past few months, and yet, he somehow only seems to be getting fatter. As much as it pains me to do this, I need to ask the men directly for some guidance: is this a thing? He's 41, and exercising daily, and I don't see him eat that much, yet over the past year or so he's done a reverse Chris Pratt and I can only bring myself to touch him if I've spent the afternoon in the wine cellar.
Back to the women: what are the signs that your husband is acting shady? Is a seemingly ineffective exercise regimen actually a flimsy pretense for something else?
Sorry I'm rambling, I'm pretty tipsy. I just need some validation that something weird is going on, and since the chance is not small that he could be reading this right now, maybe there's also the possibility this will open up some much-needed conversation.
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