What would/did you do if/when you found out that your SO cheated on you?

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I read a lot of stories of affairs and having "side projects" in high finance. With that in mind I decided to ask the question in the title. Curious what thoughts you all have.

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Aug 20, 2019

if my SO did that to me, I would just get another SO and dump that shit

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Aug 20, 2019

I have two things that will end the relationship immediately no questions every time 1) cheating 2) psychical fighting

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Aug 20, 2019

Physical fighting is an interesting one- any rationale for that? Can't people just have a bad day and accidentally slap you in their anger? Obviously severe but I mean bad days happen.

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Aug 20, 2019

What?? I think it's safe to say that any partner who comes home after a bad day and expresses that through physical violence is NOT healthy to be around.

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Aug 20, 2019

Yeah I had a girlfriend in the past who liked to throw fists during arguments and after putting up with it for two months it's just not worth it. If they can't keep themselves from getting psychical they aren't ready for adult relationships.

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Aug 20, 2019

what if your SO didn't want you to own guns, would that be a deal breaker?

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Aug 20, 2019

Yes it would

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Aug 20, 2019

Dump her?

A lot of weird threads around here lately

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Aug 20, 2019

What if you've been together long enough that you feel attached to her?

Aug 20, 2019

It does seem like some of these guys would end a relationship very quickly but idk. Like I think the level of cheating matters here as well.

Aug 21, 2019
Prospective Monkey in Other :

What if you've been together long enough that you feel attached to her?

Well, you asked what I would do. That kind of breach of trust is a no-go for me.

I'm not saying that no one out there would be able to work it out, because people do, but I have no use for a relationship that lacks trust and commitment. Weird to see that concept getting monkey shit thrown at it, but here we are.

Aug 20, 2019

Agreed dude. Lots of projecting going on here. Made more apparent by the incessant rationalizing of totally sane advice lol

Aug 20, 2019

Seriously, what the hell's going on? I'm seeing an incel thread, virginity thread, now this.

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Aug 21, 2019
Pump and Dump:

Seriously, what the hell's going on? I'm seeing an incel thread, virginity thread, now this.

I hope it's not just "kids these days"

It wouldn't surprise me if it was the same 1-2 posters though mistaking WSO for reddit.

Aug 21, 2019

The reason i asked is because I've read a lot of stoies in high finance about affairs and such including many, many posts on this site. Whether it is mostly jokes I'm not sure but it inspired me to create this. dw not turning this into reddit lol

Aug 20, 2019

Dump her immediately, zero tolerance. I'm married, and also wouldn't consider anyone who had ever cheated as a spouse. It is much easier for someone to justify cheating after they have already cheated before. Without loyalty marriage means nothing.

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Aug 20, 2019

Be thankful.... this type of breakup sucks but at least at the end of the day you have something to motivate you to move on. You have something, for lack of a better term, to be angry about. I think the breakups where the person simply tells you that they are no longer attracted to you or just don't love you anymore are much worse.

Better for this to happen now than years down the road with kids, house, etc.

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Aug 20, 2019

Just to clarify I am luckily not asking for myself (at least yet).

Aug 20, 2019

I would leave the SO, anyway, I have had my heartbroken too many times, I'm not dealing with it. I'm focused on my myself and improving my career. If she is legit crazy and you know it early as a girlfriend and you want to marry her, make her sign a prenuptial agreement. If she won't, that defines something about her. Everything happens in life for a reason.

P.S Also if you spend crazy money on wedding ring, she is legally obligated to give back to you back, she agreed to married in to you in a contractual agreement that the ring is a promise of marriage.

"It's okay, I'll see you on the other side"

Aug 21, 2019

I'd be relieved. That would eliminate whatever guilt I had from cheating on her all the time.

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Aug 22, 2019

Cheating is a total no-go for me. I'm pretty principled when it comes to relationships (of all kinds), and principally, if you're in a place where you can cheat on someone, then you really don't care about that person in the first place IMO. Same goes for me, if I was in a position where I was cool with/thinking about cheating on my S/O, it would be time to end it with S/O... Its just a respect and commitment thing to me beyond all else.

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Aug 22, 2019

Dude, I hate to break it to you, but your girlfriend cheated on you big time while you were in 'Nam and out shrimp fishing...

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Aug 22, 2019

I am not a smart man, but I know what love is!

Aug 23, 2019

So what happens when you see a girl flirting with you who is attractive. How do you stop yourself from giving in? How do you guard your emotions?

Aug 22, 2019

I'll put it like this, crying over a cheating GF is stuff for movies.

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Aug 24, 2019

Not to break with the "dump her" consensus, but I think the answer is realistically very different based on relationship length, other family, length of cheating, etc. An SO for 6 mos? Sure, dump. Your SO of 15 years and parent of 3 children, who cheated with the fitness trainer twice? That might be a case where couples counselling might be warranted before leaping to conclusions.

Aug 24, 2019
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