Lost a lot of pride from S&T GF..
To simply put it...
My girlfriend and I are graduating this May - She will start FT at JPM S&T and I'll start mine at GS Ops. Indeed, my pride has already been penetrated. I come from a very untraditional background and granted I was a total screw up in high school and college. Only if I were given the chance to go back, I would do everything in the world to change things around. I was very fortunate to even receive a BO offer and will put in all efforts as if my life was on the line to move up.
I told her for this winter break, I was going to be productive by taking up a part time job. I realized it wasn't going to be worth it making minimum wage where I can use this time to hang out with friends. The fact that I changed my mind so easily and not being productive in other ways had disappointed her a lot apparently. She said "I don't have motivation; I change my mind easily; I don't have set goals." This just hurt my pride a lot and had put me down. I feel miserable for some reason.
Apologies, this is by no means any way to seek sympathy or pity, I just wanted to let it out. Maybe I really do lack motivation, I don't know. Really don't know how to resolve my emotions at this point.
Thanks for reading..






1) Do you lack motivation?
1) Do you lack motivation? Are you flaky and flighty with your goals?
2) Is she just upset with you that you didn't secure a more prestigious job?
mango001: 1) Do you lack
1) Do you lack motivation? Are you flaky and flighty with your goals?
2) Is she just upset with you that you didn't secure a more prestigious job?
Definitely not #2, she does not look down on me or anything. It's more likely #1, the fact that I change my mind often and how I said I was going to do something during winter break and decided not to. It's more complex, apologies for making the story so vague.
If it makes you feel better,
If it makes you feel better, this relationship probably won't last no matter what you do or don't do. I couldn't imagine being 21 (or whatever age you are) and having some girl nagging me. I've been married over ten years and my wife doesn't nag me.
You probably should just dump her now and get it over with. I'm sure getting some fresh would boost your spirits.
Or, maybe she's right? Work on that and dump her anyway.
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Who cares if she has a better
Who cares if she has a better job than you? At the end of the day it shouldn't matter whatsoever. I dated a girl who made more money than me and it was fine.
The more pressing issue for you is finding motivation and drive. Start being alpha bro.
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lol you said penetrated
lol you said penetrated
stop being a beta phaggot and
stop being a beta phaggot and watch this video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lsSC2vx7zFQ
Unless you have something
Unless you have something truly unique with her (which it seems you don't) I'd just leave her now. If she already sees you as slightly weak / not motivated / underachieving, wait until she starts FT and she sees how her colleagues look at BO people. It's completely legitimate to be frustrated in your spot, if she was unconditionally supportive and wasn't looking down on you already it might be another story, but I wouldn't be with a girl who nags you AND makes more than you. Unless it can serve you as motivation to make the BO to FO jump as quickly as possible :).
Wait, I completely retract my
Wait, I completely retract my statement. Let her PIIYB. You turn down a PT gig, which I am going to assume you wanted to do for a valid reason, just to hang with your friends. Yeah, all I need to know.
This is such a bogus excuse. You can work at McDonald's while your GF is at Goldman and still be a man. But when you are wishy washy and can't sack up the chick is going to move on. Especially in Alpha Male dominated finance.
Fuck your friends and fuck this PT bullshit. Start networking, study for the CFA, get a shit FA gig to get your Series 7, something productive and finance related. Coming on here and complaining about how you turned down a gig to pal around with your buddies isn't going to get you that far considering people were talking about working from the office on Thanksgiving.
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Leave a bish and get into FO.
Leave a bish and get into FO.
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your girlfriend got an offer
your girlfriend got an offer at jpm, and these assholes are telling you to break it off... lol
definitely don't do that. even if she is a nagging bitch, she can still help you in the near future, as you're trying to network your way into a "better" job.
anyway, she's not the problem. the fact that you posted a thread about having your "pride hurt" reflects how much of a pussy you are. grow a pair, set a goal, and get there.
also, if she's in s&t, she most likely frequents wso - how hurt would your pride be if she mentioned this post?
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you're soft
you're soft
Your pride is hurt? What
Your pride is hurt? What exactly were you proud about?
It's not about you being BO.
My question is, if you are
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Oh and if your girlfriend
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Nut up OP.
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