Did I accidentally lead on a banker I met?

The 50+ years old MD asking the prospect the important questions

No, you did nothing wrong. Yes, you were naive. But you're 19, I was a fucking idiot when I was 19.

Don't let this incident sour your world view, though.

I'll put it this way, unc has probably shot his shot and gotten rejected thousands of times, but he's gonna keep on keeping on to try to get laid. You, on the other hand, should know that if you're a moderately attractive woman in finance then 80% of the single guys you meet at work will want to sleep with you, but you should still keep meeting new guys since the 20% are going to open some doors for you or help you land a deal.

And tbh, half of the 80% will likely also help open some doors for you precisely because they want to sleep with you.

Chill girl, you did not lead him on. Especially if you're a woman, you're going to encounter this more often in the next 3-4 years so you're going to get used to it eventually. Him paying the meal is nothing big. You could decide whether to leverage this encounter for your career or not, it all depends on what you want and whether he's willing. You can ask him to refer you to someone else nicer :) Always remember, get more than what you give; since you're 19, tread with caution and do not let men take advantage of you. If you decide to proceed, reciprocate in a friendly and professional way, ignore the flirtation and get out once you get what you want. Sometimes, as you redirect him in a professional way he would know to draw the line and fix his language eventually.

Is the collective iq of this forum so low that people don’t realize that this is the most obvious troll post

Such obvious troll post starts with "im a 19 year old white girl" smh 

Interesting. Something like this happened to me (BB - think GS, MS, JPM - NOT UBS) once. I was in a Mediterranean island country (think Malta, Cyprus, etc) while on summer break from undergrad (Ivy - think Harvard, Yale, Penn). I was ordering food at the counter. I couldn’t understand the server so I tried speaking gibberish. I made a scene yelling at a guy in gibberish while he yelled back at me in a European language.

Eventually- a well dressed guy (think 35,36,37) came in and helped me out - seems he was familiar with the language. We had a brief chat and it turned out he was in banking (EB - think PWP, Moelis, Lazard). Eventually I mentioned that my father worked at a hedge fund (think Citadel, Millennium, Bridgewater). He said that he worked in sales and trading. He asked for my contact as a professional connection. Shared my contact info and off I went.

I drove to my luxury hotel (think St Regis, Ritz Carlton, etc) in my luxury rental car (think Rolls Royce, Audi, Mercedes). While in the middle of my daily looksmaxxing routine (think Gua Sha, Bonesmashing, etc) - this guy starts blowing my phone up. He wanted me to connect him to my father. Said he had some new structured products with high value (think CDOs, CDOs, CDOs, etc) that had extremely high yields.

I told him I could connect him when I got back to the states. He kept bothering me and hitting me up. I eventually ignored him and left him on delivered.

Two years later - I began my first internship- turns out this guy lateraled and was now a VP in my group (think M&A, TMT, Rx). I connected him to my father’s fund - and I got the return offer. He connected my father to his old trading desk. My father’s fund is now drowning in high yield spreads. He is leaving because of this, and starting his own fund. Me and the VP both have exits opps to this fund where we’ll be starting as MD and VP.