ex-model's difficult banking experience
background: woman. ex-model (mid-tier agency). rejected from all target schools + school clubs + diversity programs. landed 3+ BB/EB IB offers.
have read on this forum various discussions about being a woman in banking, criticism about woman diversity hires, and woman colleagues in general.
would love to hear if others have had similar experience / any advice:
- borderline sexual harassment from associate (see last post)
- MD getting physically close to me and brushing against my hand and body multiple times
- male peers saying I stole their jobs (despite me being rejected from all diversity programs. Wonder if comment section will say even in regular recruiting I only got in because I was a woman)
- male colleagues saying that i stole the projects they wanted to get staffed on (even though i often stay much later than them to help out with projects)
have been fortunate to have fantastic female peers to lean on at times.
so far have been telling myself that im in banking for the training and ignore whatever other people say. the harassment aspects are more painful.
this industry sometimes feels incredibly isolating and difficult to succeed as a woman. Would love to hear if others have navigated similar situations or have any advice
Sorry to hear all that. One of my childhood friends has been a model on the side since highschool and she graduated from a Semi-Target. Tried banking for 2 years and saw similar behavior. Gross guys everywhere. Now she's a startup founder lol. If you run it thru HR (which you have the right to do), you're going to get on their bad side and probably pushed out. Lose lose type of deal
HR is unlikely to help, true. Heard a story that when a woman reported sexual harassment at Jefferies (London), HR response was “the guys just want to have fun.” The women later got pushed out from the bank.
This may be my naiveté talking, but doesn't HR take seriously Sexual Harassment complaints ?
Just look at the recent lawsuit and complaint against Citi’s Wealth global head; this industry is largely still very hostile to women.
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Thanks so much. Really appreciate you sharing this. Best of luck
You can always find a different job. Being rejected from target schools, clubs, and diversity programs do not mean much; its just that you sucked even with all the legs up. FYI, regular apps also do take consideration of diversity status and you are the very beneficiary. Try living an Asian male life faced with regular racism (to your standard). If you were a white male or Asian male, I doubt you would have gotten anywhere. Also, being a model just means you were tall and skinny lmao, not that you were so attractive that many male employees would want to flirt with you all the time (my school had a good number of female models and you guys were not always hot).
Currently an AN2 at an EB with huge focus to increase the number of female analysts for the incoming class.
Dude you sound so bitter so an obvious troll post. You're the reason asian males get a bad rep cause y'all are weird
I presume you're a white dude, but your comment kind of describes the issue with being a minority.
As an Asian guy, I found that if 1 Asian dude is acting up, people like you are all "yeah all you asian dudes are weird" as you did in your comment. If a white dude is acting up, its "wow that 1 dude is weird." Its a problem people of any minority group faces - anything they do gets attributed to the group while if a white guy does it, its the individual that's the problem.
As a white person, you're an individual, as a minority you're whatever the other person thinks of your category. That to me, is what white privilege really means and is probably something you've never had to think about.
4.0 bio + cs double major, 1600 SAT
sorry if you wanna beat me gotta find another lane
Your post on its own is fine but this comment combined with your post itself makes me think you're some dude LARPing. With those stats, you don't get rejected from diversity programs at banks, combined with the fact that you also got rejected from all school clubs. Something feels off.
I guess while we're at it, how were you an incoming summer intern 1 month ago but you supposedly have internship experience where people were hating on you for being a "diversity hire." If you had a sophomore internship that had a program like that, this means it must have been a somewhat brand name and you were a sophomore intern when they usually only hire juniors, unless diversity.
Basically what I'm saying is that you're either lying about your experiences as a woman during a sophomore internship or you're lying about not being hired for diversity - because they wouldn't have hired you for being a sophomore. Something feels off again.
Wah wah wah. Go into marketing Becky.
Go do your marketing / social media influencer job where you can gossip all day. Otherwise, sooner or later you will end up sleeping with that married MD under the disguise of mentorship.
You're ridiculous
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