Feeling lost and hopeless - recent grad

I don't know if it's just me , but I recently graduated and have been feeling so weird about life in general. It is quite lonely and difficult to be pretending to be okay in the office. I work at subpar institution (still a global bank) and with a very small team. The work is within CIB hence not too bad, but there is an associate who is making life hell. I feel like an outsider all the time and think I'm not truly being myself (only female on the team). 

Anyone else went through this? I want to move into something else (more lucrative and interesting) after CB , but am so lost as to what to do. My mentors also don't seem to be of much help and I can't get over the fact - what a failure I am. 

 
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Hi! Chin up, you’ll be alright and I’ve been there / still am there and have been out of college for two years (occasionally feelings of being lost, miserable, etc). Honestly, as long as you’re in this industry, hard to completely escape that feeling IMO. For transparency, I’m also a woman in this industry. What has helped me is staying in touch with friends and family, trying to take as much PTO and remote time as possible to go see them, etc. 
 

Happy to also talk more with you over DM’s if you’d like. I’ve actually dealt with that toxic associate situation too and know how demoralizing it can get.

 

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