Flirting at work - how to react
I’m a first year analyst (female) at an EB I feel like one of the associates keeps flirting with me. I initially met him through networking before I got my offer and he always offered to answer questions etc but I thought he was just being helpful and friendly.
Now that I’m on the job, I feel like he always finds a reason to be close to me and just drops by my desk. He’s super friendly and when we have time, he invites me to lunch or asks me whether I want to join group events after work. I’m pretty sure that he’s flirting with me but I don’t really know how to react. I mean he’s pretty attractive and charming but I feel like its inappropriate for the workplace. If he wasn’t my coworker, he’d definitely be the type of person I would date.
Should I even address it until he makes an actual move, should I just keep being friendly? What would you do in my situation?
Thanks!
See how what's his next move I suppose
If I were you, I would just wait until he replies to this thread.
More generally speaking, dating at the workplace is not always a good idea.
Haha I agree, but I just fear that if I address the situation, he’s gonna be upset and it will make our relationship at work weird.
So you’d recommend to just do nothing and let him continue flirting?
During my years in various companies I had different "work wives". Just female staffers I really clicked with and... "if this was in another situation, it might have worked out...". The type of girl I would want to date or marry, but we didn't do it because we work together.
If you like him as a person, maybe he can be a work hubby to you. Just really good friends, a confidante,... until either one of you leaves the firm. It is up to both of you to make it work afterwards... or not.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Work_spouse
This should only happen if both people are single or if the spouses are ok with it. It is totally fine to have good friends at work.
As someone who works closely with HR at the current company -
Don’t crap where you eat, as the saying goes.
Rule #1 of all rules - don't poop where you eat.
Tactically, get to know the person and (not to sound scheming, but) utilize him as a resource to help you learn and improve. I don't mean to take advantage of him though.
Do not go out of your way to do anything with him, but if he continues to take initiative to be friendly to you, why not be friends?
If he could or is your type, friend-zone him. Connect with him genuinely as a friend, but keep boundaries sexually/romantically, at least until you change jobs or he does. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be....even if it takes a long time to materialzie. But, don't risk your job. Just know that there are tens of thousands of people dying for your opportunity. 75% of this site are 18-23 year olds trying to get into IB.
Your job and learning opportunity to build a career is a certainty. A long lasting relationship with this associate is not. It's a terrible trade. Don't do it.
If you can't control yourself, then keep your distance. Don't risk this opportunity. Focus on learning and execution.
Thank you, I’ll definitely try to subtly make him understand that I want to be just friends. Definitely don’t want to risk my career for a relationship
Would recommend to make it clear to just be friendly but don’t flirt back at all honestly so he could ever be blamed for “leading him on” if he clearly flirts make it clear you just wana be friends, if he keeps on advancing once you set boundaries then you can report
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