why am I 30 and still don't know anything

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I understand exactly where this is coming from. For the past 5 years, I'm focus entirely on career. Now that, I'm in a good position and money isn't a issue anymore, I'm starting to think about more meaning to life. Assuming I have another 40 years left before retiring that's ~15000 days and another ~20 years (7,300 days) before I die. Time is so limited but people often waste a lot of time in traffic and etc. Even working is a waste of time, unfortunately I'm not born into a massive fortune, which allow me to hack life. Such as paying people to cook and clean for me, which allows me to have more time to do what I enjoy doing. Eventually, even one in the world is exchanging time for $$$.

 

Was going to write some long-ass, drawn out comment but I can’t be bothered.

Sounds to me like a) you’re at a pivotal point in your life and b) you have some form of (albeit very mild) imposter syndrome.

Honestly, if I were you, I’d just take shit as it comes. Who cares if you don’t have it figured out. That’s the beauty of life and all of its mysteries. Enjoy the journey and don’t worry about the destination. That’s my motto for life.

 

Gotta be a bit more brave when it comes to other people. You’re too outcome focused when you should be behavior focused. I do think that you have things “figured out” and probably more so than the next person, but it seems your actual problem is that you’re afraid of stepping into the dark and seeing what happens. Best thing you can do for yourself is bucket what you can and can’t control. It will dramatically reduce the stress / anxiety you feel about things. What matters is how you behavior, not how others behave. The former is all that’s in your control.

 
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I’m 30, will be turning 31 soon. I have the career figured out (maybe?).  No wife, no girlfriend, no kids. All the women who want me, I have zero interest in. The ones I do, don’t want me. Maybe I’m too old or maybe they think I’m looking for something more serious. And I’m starting to get even pickier. 

You’re not alone. But like one guy said, enjoy the journey. It’s kind of nice sometimes to be able to do whatever you want every single day and weekend with no responsibilities other than yourself 

 

Why don’t the women who you want not want you. And running the risk of sounding rude, how do I avoid that when I get older lol

 

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