Dating a Coworker
Hi,
I'm a first year analyst (female) working at an EB in London and I have a huge crush on this associate at work. I'd say he likes me too and we're extremely friendly with each other. Not looking for a hookup but def a relationship.
What are the dating policies like at your bank? Have you ever reported your relationship and how were you treated by your coworkers after they found out?Appreciate any advice - thx!
I work for an EU employer and they don't have strict policies. People are allowed to date, unless they are manager/direct report.
It is advisable to have your own set of rules for the relationship at work as a couple (i.e. should it be something everyone knows about, or not?), but otherwise also consider what would happen if things go the wrong way. Would it make either one of you uncomfortable? Are there any conflicts of interest, somehow?
Other than that, it is incredibly common for people to meet, date, and get married through the workplace.
Thank you!
Have you experienced how other coworkers react to the relationship? Do they not care or is it frowned upon? Or does is potentially even hurt your chances of promotion etc?
There is almost always some form of a reaction from peers, not necessarily older managers or MDs.
I am a line manager now and no longer "one of the young people", at the same time I am not that senior to be detached from this group, I go to lunch with them and we speak about personal stuff, etc
I would say... at our workplace the negative comments are mostly aimed at the male part of the relationship and not he female one - if both are the same level/age. At least that is what I have seen. There is an unwritten law for male colleagues in our company not to date at the office - but it is not official or anything. If a guy starts sleeping around at the office... it is frowned upon at least in our department/location. But, like I said, it is a EU based firm. Different culture.
I don't see it as problematic as the others.
Im in a similar situation and very torn.
I really like this girl but Im pretty hesitant since Im scared people will think that Im unprofessional and that it would hurt my chances of being promoted…
Do you have a lot of day to day work together? If it ended, would you be able to remain professional when working together?
I generally try to avoid relationships in the workplace, but if you are in different groups and don’t have a lot of overlap, I say go for it. Otherwise, don’t shit where you eat, it can get messy, and there’s plenty of options out there if you’re looking.
This is just my opinion, so do what you want
That’s fair, thanks
I don't think anyone really cares unless it becomes a liability to the group. People will eventually pick up on behavioral changes, but I don't think it'll hamper career prospects unless you two are stupid about it.
Generally, I think it's too difficult to make it all work and be stuck with the same person 24/7, without any release. But, it's up to you. People date at work all the time; sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.
I wouldn't give a shit if two of my juniors were hooking up, as long as it didn't affect their output or get the group sued.
Thanks, makes sense!
Dating a coworker is not a problem, problem only arises when you're not dating anymore.
Generally not a great idea to sh1t where you eat, but you do you.
I dated the girl I sat next to at GS. You can PM if you need more specific info lol. I know the topic quite well
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