Networking chat over drinks?

I'm a student, and I've been networking with a graduate from my uni who's at a BB. I asked him if we could meet and chat over coffee, but he offered to get drinks instead. I'm pretty new to networking, is this normal or appropriate? For context, I'm a girl, he's a man. How should I respond?

 
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I (male associate in PE / former analyst at BB) personally would not have proposed meeting a female university student for networking drinks, unless she proposed it and it was in a reasonable context (e.g., happy hour beers after work rather than cocktail bar on Saturday night).

I don't know what your interactions have been with him thus far but at first glance I don't think it's appropriate. Also depends on his level (married VP or single analyst?)

 

Maybe this guy just likes the sauce. That said, unless he invited you to his private cabana for drinks, I think you’ll be okay. If you catch a weird vibe, you can head for the door…at any time.

 

I agree it seems odd to me too.  If you don't feel comfortable with this, perhaps you could try and play it off like you have school activities in the evening and that is generally tough for your schedule.  If he keeps suggesting a time for drinks specifically after that, then I think that just further confirms some other intention.

 

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