Break up with MD-best friend?

I’m a freshman at uni and over the last few months I’ve gotten really close with an MD at a top BB in London. I enjoy talking to him and we have a lot in common, however there is obviously something I want him to help me with, referrals. The problem is that whenever I bring up work or him talking to his colleagues/friends about the possibility of helping me with recruiting he always switches topics. I don’t mind it, but it kinda seems like a waste of time. Should I stop wasting my time on him? Or should I continue being his friend and hope that he’ll help me with recruiting later on?

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are you a girl? If not tho its weird that he doesnt talk about recruiting at all. And always keep that type of relationship.

 
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stay friends, if he doesnt get you a job when the time comes then he's gay

 
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College freshman has been talking to MD for a few months and already expects them to put their reputation on the line when the kid hasn't even finished his first semester of classes lmfao

I know teenagers have trouble with long-term thinking but is this seriously how cooked your generation is? You're a freshman. You don't intern at big banks as a freshman, for most people not even as a sophomore - they don't have a program structured for you. Maintain the relationship and STOP trying to talk about work. Work is the LAST thing most professionals in finance want to be talking about with a college kid, especially if they're making it obvious all they want is a job (it's inherently implied but Jesus, learn the art of the chase). Make your chosen title accurate with your actions and actually become his friend. If you have an MD at a top BB you've been close with for 3+yrs by the time junior summer or FT recruiting comes along THAT will be when it's time to cash in. Even if he can't hire you, he'll have years of reference to go to bat for you with if he recommends you to someone else. 

Marathon not sprint ya goof. Enjoy being a freshman in college and stop trying to be a hardo. 

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MDs are busy people and there's no way that he's spending this much time talking to a freshman he doesn't want to hire with no ulterior motive (unless you're otherwise socially connected to him, e.g. family friends). He hasn't done anything so you should assume good intentions for now, but your antennae should be all the way up for potential inappropriate behavior.  

 

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